Kwiminyaka yethu yobugcisa bezobugcisa, iileta ezibhalwe ngesandla zifikile ngaphambili. Baye bathatyathwa yintanethi ye-intanethi kunye ne-imeyile, iingxoxo kunye nemiyalezo ye-SMS, ukukwazi ukuthetha ngexesha langempela. Nangona kunjalo, iileta ezibhalwe ephepheni nasesandleni - oku kanye oko kunokuthintela umntu ekuhlaleni komphefumlo. Incwadi enjalo ingagcinwa kwimemori kwaye iphindwe kwakhona kwakhona, ukuyigcina njengempahla.
Oku, kwaye nangaphezulu, kunokuthiwa ngee-letters ezinobomi. Ngaloo ncwadi, zonke izinto ezigqithiseleyo iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno eqhubhekayo kuthi ngokukhawuleza iyaqhuma. Kwaye abanye abantu abaneentloni banokubonisa kuphela iimfuno zabo zemfihlelo kunye neemfuno zabo zemfihlo. Ileta ekhuselekileyo yindoda ethandekayo ayikho nje ukubhala idayari okanye ukuxelela ibali. Iquka amava obomi obukhulu kunye neemvakalelo ofuna ukuzithoba kwigumbi elilodwa kuphela.
Iileta zoqulatho olukhulayo
Kufuneka ubhale incwadi enokuthandana nomntu ozithandayo xa kukho imfuneko yokongeza intlanano yakho, into entsha kunye engachangekanga. Ungesabi ukuvakalisa iingcamango zakho ezinobungqina kwileta, akukho nto ihlawulelwayo ngale nto. Ngokuphambene noko, akusiyo yonke intokazi eyaziqhathayo ukuthetha oko akufunayo kumthandi wakhe, yintoni kanye ayithandayo. Kithina, ukunyamezela kwethu kunye nemiphumo yokudlala kakuhle. Abantu abathile, abantu abaninzi abangenakuvinjelwa, banokuvuma ngokusemthethweni iminqweno yabo kwaye bacele izinto eziphathekayo.
Kwabanye, ukuthulula iimvakalelo zabo ephepheni, ukubonakalisa ubunzulu beentlobo zothando kwiileta ezinobomi - yile ndlela kuphela yokudlulisela kuyo intanda yakho yonke iminqweno yakho eyimfihlo. Emva kwakho konke, iphepha alilihlazo lokubeka iingcamango ezifihlakeleyo zomphefumlo wakho, ozoyika ukubonisa umntu. Omnye unokuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba amabini amabini kubasetyhini ehlabathini, nakwilizwe lethu, baninzi banamahloni ukuvakalisa iminqweno yabo yesondo kunye nokukhetha kwabo iqabane. Ngako oko, incwadi enobungqingili enobumba kumntu - le nto iyona ndlela yodwa yokumjongana nayo ngesihloko esinzima kangaka.
Indlela yokubhala ileta ekhulayo?
Iileta ezingobuchule - oku akunjalo naziphi iincwadi zothando. Kwinqanaba lesibini lemiyalezo, umbhali uhlamba zonke iimvakalelo zakhe kunye neemvakalelo zakhe kwi-addressee. Kodwa itekisi ekhuselekileyo kumntu oyintanda othandekayo ichaza kwaye ibonisa zonke izifiso zakho zasemhlabeni, zenyama. Masiqwalasele ngokuthe ngqo indlela yokubhala incwadi enobungqina kumntu. Ukuze ungagqithisi intonga, kwaye uhlale ungumngcwabo kumntu, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ubonakale kuye intombazana enesibindi nesingenakukhuseleka, ileta ekhuselekileyo kumntu kufuneka iqulethe iingcamango zakho ngokubanzi. Ukuba uyayazi umntu ixesha elide, unokungena kwiinkcukacha, kodwa ngezinye izihlandlo ezaneleyo ezenziwa ngumnye umfana.
Ileta ekhuselekileyo eya kumyeni wayo iya kuba yinto ehluke kakhulu kwileta enobungqingili eya kumthandi wakhe. Umntu ohlala naye iminyaka emininzi kwaye ufunde ngokucokisekileyo, unokubethwa ngobomi obusondeleyo.
Incwadi eya kumthandi inokukhululeka ngakumbi, kuba lo mntu uthatha indawo ebomini bakho ngenxa yezinto ezithandekayo. Apha awukwazi ukwesaba ukuvakalisa zonke iimvakalelo zakho, uchaze iminqweno enzulu. Inkumbulo engalindelekanga iya kuba ukuthumela i-imeyile yakho eyintandokazi xa kunjalo, umzekelo, kwindawo yokusebenzela. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ngoko intloko yakhe iya kusebenza, kwaye kuya kwenzeka ukuba uza kubuya ekhaya ngaphambi komhla wokugqibela.