Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha silahlekelwa ngumthandayo kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Njengomthetho, ukuhlukana ngokukhawuleza kuhamba kunye neengxabano, ukuxhaphazwa, iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo, ngamanye amaxesha kunye nokuthuka. Indlela yokufunda ngokufanelekileyo - funda kweli nqaku.
Kuvuyiswa njani ukuhlula?
Ukutshatyalaliswa kufuneka kuhlale kulungele kwaye kuphelile. Ngoko ke, kukulungele ukwahlukana neqabane lakho ngendlela efanelekileyo, njengabantu abaphucukileyo. Kwiengqondo, kukho igama elithi "gestalt", oku kuthetha ukungaqhelwanga, ukungaxilwanga. Ukulandela le nkcazo, isiza siya kubuyisela le meko kuwe kwixesha elizayo ukusombulula, nangona abanye abantu. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlula ukuya ekupheleni.
Kungcono kangakanani ukuhlukana nendoda?
Sithanda ukukunika iingcebiso ngokuchanekileyo malunga nendlela engcono ngayo ukuhlukana nomyeni wakho okanye nje kunye nomthandayo.
- Ukukhupha iinkumbulo zakho - zama ukususa zonke izinto ozithandayo, izipho zakhe, iifoto kunye nezinye izikhumbuzo. Ngethuba lokunqumla ubudlelwane, zonke ezi zinto ziza kubangela nje iimvakalelo ezibi kunye nentlungu. Xa ufika uze uhambe kude nalezi zikhumbuzo, ungafumana zonke ezi "zikhumbuzo" kwaye ukhumbule amaxesha amnandi anxulumene nalo mntu.
- Yeka ukucinga ngaye ngegama "ukuba kuphela". Ngokombono weengqondo zengqondo, ukunganakwa nokukhathazeka kwenzeka xa umntu eqala ukuphikisana nesihloko esithi: "Kodwa ukuba sithe senza okanye asizange senze oku, yonke into iya kuba yinto eyahluke ngokupheleleyo", "mhlawumbi sifanele sizame ukwenza, ukuba ubuhlobo bethu buya kuphinda buzalwe kabusha "- qondani, kufuneka nje ugula kwaye uvumeleke ukuhamba kwimeko.
- Cela uncedo kubahlobo, intombi okanye isazi sengqondo. Kufuneka ukhulume kwaye unciphise umphefumlo wakho. Buza ukuba banganiki iingcebiso, kodwa bamamela ngokuthula kunye nenkxaso ngeli xesha elinzima lokuhlukana nomthandayo.
- Ukuba ucinga malunga nokwahlula kwaye uhlale ungumhlobo, khumbula ukuba okokuqala, yonke into inexesha layo. Okwesibini, ziphatha ngesithunzi. Ukuba umntu wakho uthi ufuna ukukhetha kunye nawe, kufuneka uwathathe. I-Hysteria, iinyembezi, zibiza ukuba zihlale, izixhobo akunakwenzeka ukuba uncede ukubuyela kumthandi, kodwa uyazihlazisa. Kodwa ukuba unesiqinisekiso sokuthi uthando lunxulumene, kwaye ngobudlelwane obunzima ukuhlala, qiniseka kwaye ulwe ukuhlala kunye nomthandayo.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana yonke into kunye neqabane lakho ukuphela kwaye ulungise onke amanqaku. Bhengeza yonke into ongeyonwabileyo, engazange ihambelane nawe ubuhlobo, yiziphi iimpazamo ezenziwe. Qinisekisa ukubonga omnye nomnye ngazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo oye wazihlanganela kunye. Yiba ne-frank - mhlawumbi, awuyi kuba nelithuba lesibini. Yintoni eyona nxalenye ebalulekileyo yale ngxoxo - kwinqanaba elincinciweyo kuya kuba lula ukuqonda ukuba ubuhlobo buphelile. Ekugqibeleni, gxotha wakho umlingane kunye naye uthi kuye "Farewell!".
- Khumbula i dlu lileyo. Ukuba awunayo iimeko apho kukukhunjulwa okanye kubuhlungu ukukhumbula, ngoko unethamsanqa. Ngokuqinisekileyo kwikamva uza kuba nolwalamano olutsha. Ukuze ungabinaki iimbulelo zabo ezingathandekiyo, kungcono ukuyeka zonke ezi zimbi. Kutheni ungabizi okanye ubhale umyalezo obhaliweyo kumntu wakho owayeselula ucele uxolo
ngenxa yento owake wakwenza into engalunganga. Yaye nangona ixesha elide lidlulile, isicelo sokuxolelwa siya kuba siphumelele. Emva kwakho konke, kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu wakho wangaphambili usebenze nzima ngoku kwakha ubudlelwane obutsha, ngenxa yokuba izikhalazo zangaphambili azivumeli ukuba aphile ngokuthula, kwinqanaba elingaphantsi. Lungisa le ndawo ngokukhawuleza. - Cinga ngento yokuba xa elidala liphela, izinto ezitsha kunye neyona nto ibhetele zihlala zibonakala. Ebomini bakho, omnye umntu uya kuvela ngokuqinisekileyo, oya kuba yindawo ebalulekileyo yendalo yonke kwaye enze ubomi buqilima, butyebi kwaye boyolo.