Hikikomori - ngubani na? Ukulahlekelwa, ukukhutshwa kwezenhlalakahle okanye abantu ababuthathaka, ngenxa yokuba ezininzi iimfundiso zentlalo azibonakalisi naziphi na ixabiso? I-Hikka - igama eliqingqiweyo elithandwayo liye labizwa ngegama lasemakhaya labo bonke abaselula.
UHikomkomori - ngubani lo?
UHikomkomori ligama lesiJapane elichaza abantu abaselula baseJapan abaye bahlala kwintlalo kwaye baye bakhetha ukuvalelwa ngokuzithandela. Benqaba ukushiya indlu yabazali babo. Ubume be-amaé - uthando olungenanto olungabalulekanga kubantwana lukhuthaza ukuhlukaniswa ngokubanzi: kulula ukuba umama amkele umntwana wakhe njengokuba kunjalo kwaye angamondla, nangaliphi na ubudala, kunokuba adluliselwe ngaphandle kwegumbi aze abuyiselwe ebomini obuzimeleyo. I-Hikikomori yinto encinci eyenziwe ngamazwe amaninzi athuthukile.
Iimpawu ze-hikikomori
Uthi ukuthini i-hikka kwaye unokukrokrela njani umntu ohamba ngokuzenzekelayo ukuya kwedwa? Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ngokuthe ngcembe, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo konke ngokukhawuleza. I-hikikomori, izibonakaliso zesimo sokuzimela:
- zifuna ukuphepha iimpembelelo zangaphandle;
- ukuphula bonke oonxibelelwano nabahlobo okanye abangenabo abahlobo;
- ukulala ebusuku, uchitha ubusuku emva komboniso wekhompyutheni: imidlalo, ukufunda ii-comics (manga), ukubukela i-anime:
- umbala wokulinganisa umonakalo nokuphelelwa yithemba: iingcamango zomlomo ziyancipha, emehlweni enqabileyo.
Indlela yokuba yi-hikikomori?
Indlela yokwenza i-hikkey kwintlalo yanamhlanje, kungekhona umnqweno wokuba ngowomnye, kodwa ukuxubusha kweemeko zobomi kunye neengxaki eziye zafakwa kumntu. Ubuhle bokuba yi-hikikomori buphakamileyo phakathi kwabo:
- zineziphene eziphathekayo (ezingavumelekanga);
- bangela ukuhleka kwabo okungaqhelekanga phakathi kwabalingana nabo;
- wafumana ingcinezelo yengqondo engqongqo;
- uvakalelwa kukuba akukho mntu uyaziqonda;
- unobungozi beengxaki ze-autism (i- Asperger's syndrome ), i-neuroses, kunye nexinzelelo.
Ungayiyeka njani ukuba yi-hikikomori?
Ungayiyeka njani ukuba yi-hickey, ukuba kukho amandla kwaye kufuneka ubuyele esifubeni kuluntu? Akunabo bonke abantu abaselula abaye bakhetha indlela ye-hikikomori baneliseko lokweneliseka kwindlela yokuphila evaliweyo, kodwa ukuphakama kwengqondo kunye nobuthathaka okanye umntu oqaqambileyo ongafumananga isicelo kuluntu kwenza umntu abe yedwa. Kwabo banxinzekile ukuba bangabikho, isiluleko esilula sinokukunceda:
- ukuchonga ukwesaba okukuthintela ukungena kuluntu kwaye ufumene iinzuzo zakho zokubuyisa;
- Ukugcina idayari yomntu kunye nenkcazo yombuso kwaye kwenzeka ntoni imihla ngemihla (iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo, izenzo);
- Kanye ngeveki, ukufunda idayari yakho nokuhlalutya ukuba izinto ezifanayo zenzeka, ikhuthaza utshintsho oluncinane;
- sebenze ngokuxolelwa kwabazali, bahlobo bam;
- ukucela inkxaso kwizalamane;
- ufake iinjongo ezincinci imihla ngemihla: i-gymnastics, ukunxibelelana nabahlobo babesakuba ngabahlobo (kuqala nge-Intanethi).
Indlela yokuphatha i-hikikomori?
Isifo se-hikikomori isifo samazwe ase-Asia anabantu abanzi. Indlela yokunceda u-hikikomori kwakhona ukuba adibanise ngumbuzo onzima, kuba yonke i-hikka i-individualist kwaye kwimeko nganye ecacileyo kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yintoni isizathu sokubanjwa. Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba kumaxesha amaninzi kwinqanaba lokuqala kuyimfuneko ukudonsa umntu ngaphandle kwedwa. Umntwana osemva sele ehleli egumbini, kunzima kakhulu ukumbuyisela kwiindawo ezentlalo. Ipesenti encinane ye-hickey inquma ukubuyela kuluntu kwakhona. Ukubuyiselwa kwe-hikikomori kulula ukuba:
- ixesha elide lidlulileyo ukusuka kwixesha lokumisa;
- unikezwe ngoncedo oluthile lwe-psychotherapeutic (ukuqala kude);
- Izihlobo zifakwe kwinkqubo yokulungelelanisa kunokwenzeka kwaye zixhaswa kulo lonke ixesha "lokubuyisela".
Umsebenzi we hikikomori
Ubomi be-hikikomori luzimeleyo ngokuzimeleyo kuluntu, xa bonke oonxibelelwano bezenhlalakahle banqunyulwa okanye baxhaswa kwiintanethi zentlalo. Enye into ebalulekileyo yentlalo ephumelelayo ngumsebenzi, kodwa u-hikikomori akafuni nayiphi na imisebenzi yomsebenzi kwaye akayi kubona nayiphi na ingqondo kuyo. Zonke iimpawu ezibalulekileyo kumntu oqhelekileyo, i-hickey ayinomdla. EJapan, i-10% yabantu abanamakhaya ivela ekhaya ukusuka ebusheni kwaye abazami ukufumana umsebenzi, kuxhomekeke kubazali. Ngokuqhelekileyo i-hikikomori ibe kwaye ngenxa yemizamo engaphumeleli yokufumana umsebenzi.
Iincwadi malunga ne-hikikomori
I-syndrome ye-hikikomori yamkelwa ngabalobi. Ukubhalwa kwimiqulu kule ngxelo akunjalo, kodwa ababhali abhale malunga nabantu abanjalo balichazela ngokucacileyo ubunzulu belizwe, iingcinga kunye nobomi bamaqhawe. Iincwadi malunga nabantu abaye bamkela ukuzimela ngokuzithandela:
- "Ndiyidla kunye neepuni." UFinkel Michael . Le ncwadi imalunga ne-Christopher Nite, owayesindayo iminyaka engama-27 edlulileyo emahlathini enyakatho yeMaine. Ngo-2013, uChristopher wabanjwa, xa eba ukutya kwenkampu, emva kokufunda malunga nokuvalelwa, amakhulu abantu: intatheli kunye nabahambahambayo bafika ukuthetha noChristopher, babuze imibuzo enomdla: ngaba wayefumene uvuyo kunye nokuzola, wathini na?
- "IiPasasites" nguRyu Murakami . Ukubuyisela u-Uihara ufumana kumama wakhe njengesipho sekhompyutheni kunye nentanethi uyaziqhelanisa neqela elithi "Inter-Bio", amalungu ayo axhobisa iqhawe elinelungelo lokubulala abantu. Umsebenzi onobuhlungu ngokukhangela iqhawe lentetho ebomini ngokubhekiselele kwimvelaphi yokubulala nokuqhekeza.
- "Hikikomori" Kuvin Kun . Uhlalutyo lwencwadi yeengqondo zentsholongwane yi-hikikomori, ebenza ukuba balwele ukuxhaswa. Isiganeko esithile esenzeke ebomini kwindoda eqhelekileyo, Ukuze, utshintshe ingqalelo yakhe, uphenduka kwintsapho, uzikhiphe eklasini kunye nobomi bakhe bonke uxhulumaniso kwi-intanethi.
Iimvumi zeHikomkomori
Ngubani na u-hikikomori, izizathu zokushiya ukwahlukana kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kumntu onjalo kungabonwa kwezi zifilimu ezilandelayo:
- Circle Circle . Umfazi osemncinci uAbhigayili uhlala yedwa iminyaka engamashumi amabini ngaphandle kokushiya indlu yakhe eManhattan. Uthetha kuphela nabantu ababini: umphathi wendlu kunye nomhlobo omdala wentsapho, uDkt. Raymond. Kodwa ixesha lifikile xa uAbhigali ebhekene nobuso bakhe ubuso nobuso ngenxa yeziganeko zendlu.
- "Ungubani na?" / Krai Nai Hong » . U-Nida, umdayisi weeDVD, uxabana nendodana yakhe uTon, owathi wavalela egumbini iminyaka engama-5 kwaye uthetha kunye nelizwe langaphandle ngokubhala amanqaku, okwangoku kwimiba yeemeko ezimbi ziqala ukuvela. Abantu baqala ukuxhalabisa: ngubani ovalelwe ngasemva komnyango, i-hikka yintsholongwane yintlalo yoluntu okanye i-monster?
- «UTomas inothando kunye no-amoureux» . Iqhawe lefilimu uTom libhekene ne-agoraphobia kwaye lixakeke ngokupheleleyo ekusebenzisaneni kunye namantombazana okwenkcazo kwikhompyutha. Kwiingcebiso ze-web-psychotherapist yakhe, unquma ukuba wazi kakuhle intombazana yangempela kwindawo yokuxoxa kwaye uyathandana, esi siganeko siba mnandi kuye, kuba ufuna ukufumana uthando ... omnye kufuneka ashiye indlu.