Kutshanje kucatshangelwa ukuba la madoda kunye namadoda kufuneka adweliswe kwiNcwadi eBomvu, njengoko bancinci kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba ubheka imeko ukusuka kwelinye icala, imihla ngemihla abantu bafumana umlingane wabo womntu, imihla ngemihla iintsapho ezitsha zenziwa. Kwaye ngubani oza kumthanda, kwaye abafazi bayatshata bani, ukuba, ngombono wabanye, akukho madoda okwenene asele ehlabathini?
Ukuba intombazana engazange idibene nayo, akuthethi ukuba isondo esinamandla siye sayeka ukuba, mhlawumbi kusasa. Kodwa kuya kwenzeka nokuba intombazana ibeka phambili iimfuno ezichanekileyo okanye ezingalunganga kumkhethiweyo wakhe. Ukuba awuzange uthathe isigqibo sokuba yintoni iqabane lakho, kufuneka sizame ukukunceda.
Ziziphi iimpawu kufuneka umntu abe nazo?
Ewe, kunjalo, akufanele ugxininise iimpawu zomntu zomntu. Nangona kungekho nto intombazana engamfuni umfana nje ngokuba ede. Kule meko, le ntombazana ayikhokelwa yizinto ezikhethiweyo, kodwa ngeengcamango nemibono yabanye. Kodwa cinga ngomzuzwana ukuba le ntombazana inokukhula ngokukhawuleza (umzekelo, 190 cm), yintoni eyenzayo? Akunjalo kangangokuba amadoda amaninzi akhula ngokukhudlwana, kwaye nangona singayicingi into yokuba le ntombazana enye ngezinye izikhathi, kodwa iyakunxiba izithende. Musa ukuhlala wakhe ngenxa yezinto ezinjalo eziyintsipho, akunjalo? Enyanisweni, yiyiphi ukukhula kufuneka umfana wakho anqume kuphela kuwe (ukuba le nto ikuyo kuyo yonke imiba), kungekhona kwabanye kunye neentombi. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuhlala kwiimpawu zangaphakathi zeselula.
Indawo yokuqala igcinwe ngokufanelekileyo kwisicatshulwa somfana. Lo mgangatho ungabizwa ngokuthi "isiseko" sale ndoda. Kodwa ingqiqo ye "ingqiqo" inkulu kangangokuba ayiyi kukwazi ukuyichaza ngamagama ambalwa. Olu nqwenela, kunye nokukwazi ukuhlalutya, nokucinga ngokuqiqa, kunye nezinye iimpawu. Ukuvavanya inqanaba lobunkokheli kumntu kuphela unokuthetha naye. Ngokusekelwe kumabakala kwisatifikethi sesikolo asinangqiqo. Iphakamileyo ephakamileyo ingaba yinto epheleleyo, ngelixa i-dvoechnik ingaba ngumntu othakazelisayo kunye nomdaka, kwaye ufumane ezimbini zokuziphatha kwakhe.
Yintoni enye okufanele ibe yindoda efanelekileyo? Amantombazana anika ikhethelo kubafana abathandekayo. Ewe, abanye bafana nabafana "ababi," kodwa izinto ezisisiseko zokufundiswa zifanele ukuba zivelwe. Ngaphandle koko, umdlalo womntu onjalo awuyi kuhlala ixesha elide.
Ukongezelela, lo mfana kufuneka azimisele. Sekunjalo, lo mfana kufuneka aholele ubudlelwane, intombazana inokwenza izilungiso, yenza nayiphi na iinqununu, kodwa imibuzo ebalulekileyo kunye ebalulekileyo loo mntu kufuneka akwazi ukuzisombulula ngokwakhe. Ukuba uhlala ehlala
Inzuzo ebalulekileyo yendoda yimbopheleleko yakhe. Lo mgangatho ubaluleke ngokukodwa ebomini bentsapho. Kwaye kufuneka ayenze abathanda abantwana. Emva koko, sakha ubudlelwane kunye nabafana ngenjongo yokudala intsapho, kwaye ukuba umntu akayithandi abantwana, kwaye akafuni ukuyiqala, ungalichitha ixesha lakho kuyo.
Akunqabile ukuba intombazana ibuze: "Yintoni enokuthi injalo umntu onjalo?", Impendulo: "Ekhethekileyo." Yaye yintoni ekhethekileyo malunga nayo? Impendulo iyinkimbinkimbi kwaye ilula ngexesha elifanayo - OKUNYE! Umntu onyanisekileyo akafanele axelise nabani na, ngaphandle nangaphandle. Abo bantu bazama ukuxelisa umntu banaloo mpawu eyoyikisayo yamantombazana, oku: ukuzithemba, ukungabi nokuqonda, ukufuphi, mhlawumbi nokuba nesisongelo ngaphakathi kunye nomsindo.