Thina amantombazana ngabantu abangaqhelekanga kwaye kaninzi asinakufumana inkcazelo yemvakalelo yethu - kunzima ukuphefumula xa uyibona, intloko yakho ihamba. Ndingayiqonda njani ukuba ndiza kuthandana okanye ndaya kudokotela, ukuba ndifumane ukuba yi-ORZ nje?
Amahlaya amahlaya, kodwa ngokwenene, yintoni esiyayaziyo ngokuthandana, uyayiqonda njani ukuba uyathandana kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ufunda le mvakalelo? Ezi zilandelayo zinguqu ekuziphatheni kwakho ziza kukunceda.
Ukwazi njani ukuba wathandana?
Awukwazi ukulala ngokuthula, kuba awukwazi ukuba uthanda okanye akunjalo? Emva koko, ngoku siyakuqonda indlela yokuqonda ukuba wathandana nomntu, ugxile kule miqondiso elandelayo.
- Ndifuna ukubona into endiyithandayo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka, nokuba bhetele kusenokuba naye.
- Zonke iingcinga kunye neengxoxo zithetha ngoku ngaye, intombi sele isenakuliva igama layo, kodwa awukhathaleli.
- Umlinganiso utshintshile, uye waba lula kakhulu kwaye unomusa - ngamnye makabe njengelungileyo.
- Zonke iingcamango ziphela ngaye, ngoko ke kugxininisa kwenye into enzima kakhulu - ukufundisisa kunye nomsebenzi uqala ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokuziphatha okunjalo. Ngendlela, iingcinga azikhululwa imini okanye ubusuku, ngoko kunzima ukulala. Umntu onomdla kakhulu unokulibala ngokutya.
- Ngaphambili, ingqwalasela ekhethekileyo ayizange yenziwe ekubukeni, kodwa ngoku ukhetha ukuhlanganiswa okugqithiseleyo kwezinto zokugqoka iimpahla ngeeyure, cinga ngeenwele zakho kunye nokwenza, kwaye ulandele imbeko phambi kwakhe.
- Unomdla kakhulu kuwe ukuba uphendule umphandi - uqokelela yonke ingcaciso ekhoyo malunga naye, uqala ukuba nomdla kwizinto ezithandwayo, ukwenzela ukuba kukho iintlobo eziqhelekileyo, izihlandlo zokudibana nazo.
Indlela yokuqonda uthando okanye uthando?
Ndicinga, ukuthetha uthando nothando, imiqondo eyahlukileyo ayifanelekanga, ngoko konke kuyaziwa. Kodwa indlela yokuqonda ukuba uyamthanda umntu ngokwenene, akunjalo lo thando ngothando?
- Umqondiso obalulekileyo wothando yintsilelo yokubala, umnqweno wokunikela nokunikela ngokuncinci kakhulu, ukuba ndithandwa kakhulu kuphela. Abathandayo bafuna ukufumana, kwaye abathandi bayama ukuphandana.
- Abathandwayo abaqhelekanga ukubona iimpazamo zabanye, abathandi bayakwazi ngabo, kodwa musa ukugxekisa, ukumkela umntu njengalowo.
- Uthando alukwazi ukunyamezela ukuhlukana, kodwa uthando lunokulinda.
- Abathandayo ababaleki kwiingxaki, kodwa bazisombulule kunye. Uthando, nangona kunjalo, luthande ukuvala amehlo akho kuyo yonke into.
- Abathandi baqala ukucinga kwezinye iindidi, isimemezo esithi "Mina" sithatha indawo ethatyathelweyo ngokuthi "thina", kuba ingcamango yokuhlala ngokwahlukileyo ayisayi kuvunyelwa.
- Unokuwela emthandweni kunye neqela ngelo xesha, kodwa ukuthanda omnye kuphela.
- Unokuwela emthandweni emva kwemizuzu embalwa yokuthandana, ngamanye amaxesha nje ngamagama amabini. Ngokuthandana akunjalo ngale ndlela, kufuna ixesha kwaye luninzi. Kufuneka ukuqonda nokuwamkela umntu.
- Uthando luyinto enokungaqiniseki, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngaba bathandana abangathandabuzekiyo, musa ukuthembela kuyo yonke into. Abathandayo bayazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba badinga omnye nomnye. Akukho ndawo yokungathandabuzeki kwintando.
Uthando okanye umkhwa?
Ewe, siye safunda indlela yokwahlula uthando oluvela othandweni, kodwa kukho omnye umbuzo odla ngokubetha abafazi. Kuzwakala ngathi: "Ndiyayiqonda njani into yokuba ndiyamthanda okanye ingumkhwa nje?" Ngakolunye uhlangothi, into elula, ukuba uhanjelwe ngcamango efana "Andiyiqondi - uyayithanda okanye ayikho," ngoko ke akukho nto inokuthi ayinalo uthando kwaye ayivumi. Enye into yokuba ubudlelwane buye beqhubeka ixesha elide, i-novelty idlulile, umlilo usehlotsheni, kwaye ukungathandabuzeki kuye kwavela, ingaba le mvakalelo emangalisayo iyenzile. Lapha, ngaphandle kokuzinyameka kwexesha elide nelingathandekiyo. Nazi iindawo ezimbalwa apho kufanelekile "ukumba."
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