Kukho abantu abathanda ukunyuka ngaphezu komhlaba, bejonge ngaphandle kwe-porthole, ukucinga indlela abachaphazela ngayo ifu elidlulayo. Kwaye kukho abo bawuphepha ngokupheleleyo. Ekubeni kweso naliphi na indiza, baxakeke ngeengcamango ezahlukeneyo, kwaye oko kuhleliyo kuyenzeka kule meko kukuphepha ezo ndawo apho ukwesaba ukoyika kuya kuzibona.
Ndiyesaba ukubhabha indiza - ndiyakwenza ntoni?
Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba phantse wonke umntu onengqiqo unokuhlakulela ukukhuselwa kweengozi. Njengoko ngaphandle kwayo, xa kusasa kusasa ngeendaba ezilandelayo ukuba kwindawo ethile idiza liwile kwakhona. Imiyalezo emininzi "emihle" evela kumaphephandaba kwaye, xa ivalelwa intsimbi yenjini, umntu uyathuthuma ngoloyiko, ayikhohlwe yonke into kwaye ayikwazi ukuhamba.
Akuyi kuba yinto enqabileyo ukukhankanya ukuba ukwesaba okusasazekayo kangangokuba abantu abathandekayo abanjengoMichael Jackson, uColin Farrell nabanye bafumana. Ngokweengcali, kukho iindlela ezininzi ezilula zokunceda ukuyeka ukwesaba ukundiza. Zifinyeleleke kuwo wonke umntu. Into ephambili kukuba kufumaneke umnqweno omkhulu wokuphelisa i-phobia enyanyekayo ngonaphakade.
Ngaba ndimele ndiloyike okanye kutheni abantu abafuni ukuhamba kwiindiza?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba loloyiko luyize. Emva koko, izazinzulu ziye zabonakalisa ukuba ukuthuthwa komoya yinto ekhuselekileyo. Ewe, ukuba ujwayele ukulawula yonke into, ngoko uhlala kwikhethi yeenqwelo-moya kwiikhilomitha ukusuka emhlabeni, ngenxa yokungabikho kolawulo oluqhelekileyo, unokuqala ukufumana imizwa enhle kakhulu.
Kuyaziwa ukuba malunga nama-20% ebemi labantu behlabathi banamava ololoyiko. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zachonga iziganeko ezininzi ezibangela i-phobia:
- Ngesinye isixinzelelo esinobundlobongela, umntu ufumana ubunzima obunzima;
- Kuba kude nomhlaba kuyisihlandlo sokuziva ukhuselekile, ukwesaba;
- I-Aopophiya yinto nje yommandla weqhwaba lweengxaki zangaphakathi ezingaphendululwanga.
Ndisoyika kakhulu ukubhenqa indiza -yintoni na?
Indlela eyona ndlela ephumelelayo yokukrazula le phobia yiinkqubo ze-NLP, i-hypnosis, ukutyelela umgqirha. Ukuthetha nomgulana weengqondo, iingcinezelo ezibangela ukwesaba ziyacaciswa, umxhasi ufundiswa izakhono zokuphucula okufanelekileyo, kunye nokuzithiba.
Xa ngenxa yesizathu esithile akunakwenzeka ukutyelela ingcali, ngoko kuyakufanelekela ukunqoba ulwaphulo-mzimba ngokwakho. Ngoko, ukuba uyika ukubhabha, ngoko ngexesha lokuhamba kufuneka uyenze oko kuya kunceda ukuphazamisa:
- ukubukela ama-comedy movie;
- Kubalulekile ukuzama ukufumana ubuso obomothekayo phakathi kwabagibeli;
- Ukucamngca yinto ekusindisa kwiingxaki ezininzi ezingokomoya.
Ukuba kukho ukuqala kokuxhalabisa, unokuluma umlomo wakho okanye uzitshintshe. Ngaloo ndlela, umzimba uya kutshintshela kwiimvakalelo zomzimba, ukulibala malunga neengcamango ezinzulu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokukhawuleza xa ubona iiplani okanye isinyathelo kwinqanaba, ngokuqinisekileyo akukho ziindwendwe - iingcamango ezimbi. Kufuneka bazame ukugxotha, ndizisebenzisa iziqinisekiso ezinjengokuthi "Ndiyathandeka ukundiza", "Ndiziva kakuhle." Ukuba sithetha ngokubunjwa okuchanekileyo kwezimpendulo ezimangalisayo, kubalulekile ukuba ungathethi inxalenye "ayikho." Ngaphandle koko, i-subconscious ayiyi kubona "andiyikrele ukundiza indiza kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ndenzeni", kodwa "ndiyesaba ukuhamba ...".
Kusoloko kuyimfuneko ukuba ulungelelanise nesimo sengqondo esihle. Isimo sengqondo esinokuthembela singenza izinto ezimangalisayo. Ngaphambi kokuba ubaleke kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ukuba uthatha imithwalo yakho, uyaqonda ukuba ujonge ngeliso lokwesaba kwakho kwaye womelela.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza ukuba kulabo abanoyiko lokubhabha, kukho iipilisi ezenziwe ngokwemvelo - ukunyuka kwe-motherwort kunye ne-valerian.