Wonke umntu ufuna ukuthanda, zombini ijoni kunye nomkhumbi. Akukhona nje amazwi avela kwingoma, yinyani ebomini bethu. Ibhinqa elinokufika kwezi ntyatyambo ezintle, indoda ilahlekelwa intloko. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha ukulahleka oku kubangela omnye ubuqili - kunokuba adlulise inqoqo, uthengisa uthando.
Makhe sithethe ngongxaki yothando kunye nokungcatsha namhlanje.
Ngosizi novuyo
Umhlangano wokwenzeka, umhla wokuqala, ukutshatyalaliswa kwexesha elide kunye elihle, inzondelelo kunye nokwesaba, isithembiso esilindelwe ixesha elide kwaye, ekugqibeleni, umtshato. Le yinqanaba leklasi lokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Uvuyo lobomi bentsapho alufanelanga, njengentlungu yokungcatsha indoda ethandekayo.
Yintoni ebonakalayo? Kakade ke, kwindawo yokuqala, oku kuvukela omnye umfazi.
Izizathu zokuhlambalaza:
- ukungcatsha nokungcatsha kwendoda yakhe kunokubangela ukuba ungamkhathaleli. Ngokuqhelekileyo ekuzalweni komntwana, umfazi uchitha ngokupheleleyo. Le mpazamo enkulu, kuba awukwazi ukulibala ngomyeni wakhe. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba kungekhona kuye, bekungekho umntwana wakho. Umyeni, nantoni na ongayithetha, kufuneka ube yindawo yakho yokuqala, kwaye-ke umntwana. Luhlobo luni lolwalamano phakathi kwabazali ngqo oluchaphazela umntwana. Khumbula oku;
- ukungakhathaleli. Ukungahambi kunye nokungabi nento yokuzilungisa kwenza indoda ibonakale ngeenxa zonke ukuze inandiphe ubuhle besifazane. Khumbula into owawufana ngayo ngexesha lakho lolwazi. Ufuna ukugcina umthandi wakho - kufuneka usebenze kanzima. Musa ukulibala ukuba ungumfazi;
- ukuxhamla kwiimeko. Ukunxibelelana ngokukhawuleza phantsi kwefuthe lobunxila obunxilisayo. Kubuhlungu, kodwa kwenzeka. Sonke singabantu kwaye sonke senza amaphutha, bobabini nabafazi;
- ivakalelo. Mhlawumbi uthando phakathi kwakho luye lwahlala kwindawo ethile edlulileyo. Abazange basindise kwaye bayalibala ngoku. Ngoko umyeni wakho wanquma ukwenza into angenayo. Umthandi ohlala njalo uyisilumkiso esinzima. Mthetho ngoko nangoko. Kule mpi, zonke iindlela zilungile, ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukulibala.
Okwesibini, ubuxoki nokungcatsha kubonakaliswa kwindlela yokuziphatha kwabantu. Igama elingavunyelwanga, izithembiso ezingazalwanga, ukungathembeki kumfazi.
Yintoni eyenza umntu aziphathe ngale ndlela? Ukuba ubuxoki bebuhle, ngoko uyabaxabisa kwaye ungafuni ukuphazamisa. Ukuba uzama "ukubeka ubuchopho bakho", ke awuthathwa lula. Ubuxoki obunenkohlakalo kunye nenyaniso enenzondelelo kukubangelwa isimo sengqondo sokungahloneli.
Ngaba uxolela ukutshatyalaliswa?
Ekugqibeleni, indlela yokuphendula lo mbuzo uthatha isigqibo. Into ephambili kukuba ulinganise zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki:
- Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela indlela oyithandayo ngayo umntu;
- ingaba uyazisola ukuba uyayiphenduka ngokunyanisekileyo into engeyiyo;
- Ngaba ukulungele ukumxolela, ukulibala uze ungabuyeli kwesi sihloko kwakhona;
- akulula ukuhlangabezana nomphefumlo nomphefumlo womntu. Khumbula oku. Iimpazamo zininzi, kubalulekile ukuba abantu bafunde ukuxolela.
Ikoyiko ayinakucatshulwa kakhulu njengemiphumo yayo. Nasiphi na isenzo esinjalo sinciphisa ukuthembela kobudlelwane. Emva kobugwenxa, kunzima kakhulu ukuyibuyisela. Izigxeko kwixesha elizayo zilele esitratweni sobungqina beemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba uthethelela ukungcatsha - zinike ithuba lokuvumela ukuhamba kweli meko uze ulibale. Ngaphandle koko, ubuhlobo bakho buya kuqhubeka kukulimaza.
Ukususela kwinto elandelayo kumntu umfazi uxhomekeke kwimpumelelo yobuhlobo. Umfazi oqaqambileyo, onesibindi, onomdla, onokuzithemba kwaye othethekileyo kufuneka ahlale emtshatweni. Musa ukuzincama izinto zakho emva komtshato, kufuneka zikhunjulwe kwaye, kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu, i-podvodit encinci, kodwa ingagqithwanga. Yaye ukuba unesilonda, vumela wena ngokunyanisekileyo. Ngenxa yemiphumo, ukugweba umntu ngaphandle kwakho kuya kuba yintsilelo.