Uthandane nendoda esitshatileyo-yintoni oyenzayo?

Imvakalelo ebomvu, iimvakalelo ezinamandla kunye nomvakalelo owawuvela emva kwawo amaphiko: indoda ibonakale ebomini bakho. Ewe, unako ukuvuyisana, kodwa kungekhona ukuba uthandana nomntu otshatileyo, kuba into enokuyenza kule meko nendlela yokujongana nenyaniso yokuba intandazana ayikho inkululeko iya kufuneka ithethe isigqibo kwaye kungekudala kuya kufuneka kuyigqibe isigqibo: ukuba unelisekile ngumfazi wesibini kwi-harem okanye umthabathe ekhaya.

Yintoni efunekayo abafazi abatshatileyo?

Uninzi lwabo baboshwe zibophelelo ze-Hymen, ungaboni nto ephosakeleyo ngomthandi wabo okanye umthande kwicala. Njengoko bethetha, "umgcini wesinxele uyomeleza umtshato" kwaye ukuba akukho namnye uceba ukushiya intsapho, ngoko ke into ephambili kukucatshulwa ngobuqili kwaye ungayibeka imivo yesiqingatha sesibini phantsi kwengcinezelo. Kodwa ukuba imeko ihambile kakhulu, kubalulekile ukucinga ngokucokisekileyo malunga nokuba kulungile ukuba "ikhandlela" nokuba uyazisola ngokuba uphule indlela yokuphila yobomi, abantwana abalimele baze batshintshe uyise kumfokazi. Ukuba uthe wathandana nomhle kwaye utshatile, akusiyo into yokuba uceba ulwalamano olunzulu nawe. Ewe, ndifuna umnqweno omlilo kunye no-Anna Karenina, kodwa ndifuna loo njongo?

Yintoni yokwenza ungatshatanga?

Umtshato ongahambelaniyo kule meko akafaneleki. Ukudibana nomntu otshatileyo, umntu okhululekileyo unokukhokelela ebomini ekulindeni ngonaphakade: uya kuza-akayi kuza, uya kubiza-akayi kubiza. Ukukhala emlanjeni, ukuhlangana nomnyaka omtsha kunye noMatshi 8 kuphela. Zibhuqule ukuba unesizungu kwaye ungabantwana. Kukho uluvo lokuba abafazi abanjalo banqabile ukuba babalekele abantu abanokuyakhela intsapho kwaye bakhethe ukukhululeka, apho kuhlala kukuhle, kumnandi kunye ne-adrenaline ngamathumba egazini. Bona ngokwabo abakulungele ukugoba ebomini kwaye abalindelanga ukuba indoda iyakushiya intsapho yakhe. Ewe, oku kukhetho lwabo kwaye bayalahla umntu ongekho apha.

Enye into, ukuba uthando nomntu otshatileyo kuzisa iintlungu, ukuba uqonda ubungqina bobudlelwane obunjalo kunye nesimo sengqondo somzimba ongenakuphela. Nantsi kuyimfuneko ukuthatha amanyathelo okulahla uthando olungavumelekanga. Zama ukubona kwindoda yakho kungekuyo kuphela into efanelekileyo, kodwa kunye nokungaphumeleli, umgatye kwiintlanganiso, utshintshele nantoni na enye, ubhalisele umdaniso okanye uqale ujikeleze ngokuhlwa kunye nentombi yakho.

Ukuthandana nendoda ethandwayo kunokukhokelela ekubeni ushiye intsapho kuphela xa nifuna ukuyifumana kwaye nilungele yonke imiphumo. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi lesi siqingatha sesibini, ngoko unokuzama ukufikelela ekupheleni, kungakhathaliseki nayiphi na imiqobo.