Intsapho, ngokwemigodi, kufuneka ibambe iqhaza elikhulu ekuphuhliseni umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, ekusebenzeni, kude neentsapho zonke, abantwana bafumana iimeko eziyimfuneko yokuphuhlisa ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo nangokomoya. Oku akukhathaleli nje kuphela iintsapho ezibonakalayo zingenakulungeleka. Intsapho, ebonwa ngabantu abadala, ayikwazi ukubonakala njengamehlo omntwana. Ngokumalunga nendlela umntwana ekubona ngayo umntwana kunye neengxaki ezikhoyo ekukhulisweni kwabantwana namhlanje, siza kuxela ngakumbi.
Ngaba umntwana ufuna intsapho?
Ngokwe-UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, ngamnye umntwana unelungelo lentsapho. Intsapho inyanzelekile ukuba yenzele umntwana zonke izimo zokuphuhliswa kwamakhono akhe, ukuqinisekisa iimfuno zakhe, ukuhlonela uluvo lwakhe kwaye kungabonakali ukuba umntwana axhatshazwe kwaye achaswe.
Kwiintsapho ezingasebenzi, abantwana abanikezwa ithuba lokusebenzisa amalungelo abo. Akubona onke amathuba okuphuhliso olufanelekileyo afumaneka ngabantwana abahlala kwiintsapho ezingabodwa-mzali, apho umzali oseleyo ekufuneka ahlawule ngakumbi ngenkxaso yemali yomntwana.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba kwiintsapho ezintle umntwana akafumani nophuhliso olupheleleyo lweengqondo.
Imfundo yokugunyaza kunye nokubeka iliso rhoqo akuyiyo impembelelo engcono ekuphuhlisweni komntwana kwintsapho. Ukuba umntwana ngumntu inkokheli, uya kukwenqabela kakhulu le nto kwaye umphumo uya kuba ukwesaba kwakhe, ukuxhalaba, ukuzithemba nokunye. Ukuba ukulawula okuqhubekayo kubonakaliswe kwinqanaba, umntwana, akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ngokuzimeleyo nokuqonda into eyenzekayo kuye, ukhula uthanda ubuthathaka, unqabile kwaye uncike kubazali bakhe.
Kwiintsapho ezicebileyo, ukunxibelelana nomntwana akunakho ukufikelela kumgangatho ofanelekileyo. Abazali, ngenxa yengqesho yabo okanye imfundo yabo, abayikuhlawula le ngongoma yokuqwalasela, ngokuzenzekelayo banikele umntwana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umntwana unethuba lokuhlakulela ingcamango nokuziqonda kwakhe ihlabathi, kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukhula ngokuziva ukuba wayengathandwa. Uyakwazi ukwahlukana kwaye angakhathaleli ukubonakalisa imvakalelo kwabanye abantu.
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali, ngelixa benikela umntwana wabo kwintsimi nasesikolweni, bhala phantsi endleleni eya kumaqela amaninzi kunye namacandelo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kulungile ukuphuhliswa komntwana, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuzalisa lonke ixesha lakhe. Ukuze akhule njengomntu ohambelanayo, kubalulekile ukuba achithe ixesha kunye nabazali bakhe kwimidlalo edibeneyo, iiklasi kunye noqhagamshelwano olulula. Kwimijikelezo, kwigadi kunye nesikolo, umntwana akanako ukubonelela ngononophelo kunye nokuxhaswa kwabazali.
Impembelelo yentsapho ekuphuhlisweni kwabantwana
Ubaluleka bentsapho ebomini bomntwana bunzima: intsapho isebenza njengeziko lemfundo yoluntu. Kule nkalo, abazali kufuneka baqonde ngokufanelekileyo imfundo yabantwana babo. Iingxaki zokukhuliswa kwabantwana ezijongene neentsapho zanamhlanje zidala iingxoxo ezininzi kwinxalenye yabafundisi kunye neengqondo zengqondo. Ngexesha elifanayo, kukho iingqinamba ezimbalwa abazali abafanele bazinamathele kuzo ukuze wonke umntu osentsapho aziva ekhululekile, kwaye umntwana unokufumana konke okuyimfuneko ekuphuhlisweni kwakhe.
Ngomncinci, abazali ngexesha lomdlalo kufuneka banakekele ingqalelo kumntwana, bayalathisa, kodwa ukulawulwa ngokuthe ngqo ekusebenzeni kwezenzo ezithile akudingeki. Kubalulekile ukushiya isikhala solwazi oluzimeleyo, ukuqonda
Omnye ufanele kwakhona akhumbule imfundo yobuchule yabantwana entsapho. Ukumazisa umntwana kunye nehlabathi elihle nelomoya kufuneka abazali. Kubalulekile ukuba ungammangazi nje ngomntwana ngemisebenzi yabanye, kodwa ukunika ithuba lokuzama isandla sakhe kumzekelo, ukudweba, ukucula, njl.
Njengoko umntwana ekhula, kubalulekile ukuba amnike ithuba lokwenza izigqibo zakhe kwaye akhule kwizinto ezithandekayo kuye. Ngelo xesha, umntu akakwazi ukushiya umntwana wedwa kunye neengxaki zakhe kunye nosongelo. Kufuneka ahlale eyazi kwaye evakalelwa ukuba ukuba akaphumelelanga, umntu omdala uya kuba kufuphi naye oya kumxhasa aze amncede.