Yonke imihla endleleni ayikho indoda enye, abanye bayaphonsa imbonakalo enomdla kwaye bancoma amazinga ahlukileyo, kodwa oku kuphelile. Ngoko njani umntu angenomdla kuye? Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba kuya kuba neengubo ezivulekileyo zokugqoka kunye nezikhonkwane ezide ukuqala ukubona iimpawu zomntu onomdla. Kodwa le yindlela nje yokubamba ukujonga kuqala, ukufumana umdla ozinzileyo ongeke uzuze iimpahla ezintle kuphela.
Indlela yokuphumelela indoda?
Ngaphambi kokucwangcisa icebo elihlaselayo, kuyafaneleka ukuba ufunde kabanzi malunga nento onomdla kuyo. Ngenxa yokuba iindlela zokukhohlisa umntu osebenza kunye nantoni kunye nomntu otshatileyo akakwazi ukunceda kodwa ahluke. Kakade, akukho imfuneko ukuqokelela ipolisi epheleleyo, kodwa ukufumana ubuncinci ulwazi olumalunga nomlinganisi okanye iimfuno zalo, alulimazi. Ewe, ke kufuneka nje ubonise umdla wakho, uzame ukuhlala naye emoyeni ongaqhelekanga kaninzi okanye ukuthetha ngezihloko ezingabonakaliyo. Kwimeko yomntu osebenza naye, ikhefu lesidlo sasemini okanye intlanganiso kwindawo yokubhema ingafaneleka. Kwaye ezi zikhokelo zilandelayo ziyakunceda uphephe iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo.
- Ukunxibelelana rhoqo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kulungile, kodwa ukutshutshisa akufanelekanga. Mshiye kunye nawe ngokwendawo, ungayiphosa ngemilayezo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ungafuni ukudibana.
- Ukuba unquma ukuxelela abanye iimvakalelo zakho, ungabi nentshiseko. Nangona umntu osondeleyo unako ukukhathala ngokuqhubekayo.
- Ungazami ukulandela isiluleko samaphephancwadi amafashini, ukudala intombazana ephuphayo: ngeempawu zengqondo ezilinganayo, kodwa zilungele kakuhle kwaye zithobe ngokupheleleyo. Ufuna ukuba athande nawe, kungekhona kumfanekiso oqingqiweyo.
- Mphathe ngokuhlonela, ungathandabuzeki ubuchule obakhethiweyo bakho, kodwa ungacingi kakhulu. Akukho mntu uphelele, ngoko bobabini kuni kuya kufuneka nifumanane nazo zonke iingxaki.
- Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungamthabatha njani umntu otshatileyo, kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni ufuna. Ngaba ufuna ukuthatha indawo yomfazi okanye ukulinda into engenziyo? Kwimeko yokuqala, kuya kufuneka ukuba unomdla ngokukodwa, kuba akukho bani oza kunika isiqinisekiso kumntu ukuba ngokutshata naye akayi kufumana ikopi yomlingani osele ekhona. Inketho yesibini
Kulula kakhulu ukubulawa, kodwa oku kuyinqweneleka ubuncinane kanye ukuba ubuke umfazi wakhe ukuba aqonde into ebomini bentsapho ayaneleyo, thola amaphuzu abuthathaka.
Inyaniso yokuba yonke imizamo yakho ayiyize iya kuthetha imiqondiso yomntu onomdla. Ngokomzekelo, ukutshintsha isigxina sezwi ukuya kwi-softer kunye ne-velvet ngelixa uxoxisana nawe, umnqweno wokutsala ingqalelo yakho, ukufumana izibhengezo zeentlanganiso ezintsha kunye nawe. Ngamanye amaxesha xa uthetha nentombazana enomdla indoda ibonisa iimpawu zokwesaba, ilahleka kwisantya sokuthetha okanye ibukeka ihlazo.