Ngamanye amaxesha unokumangaliswa yindlela ozibona ngayo. Kubonakala ngathi akukho nto iphosakeleyo kuye, kodwa uziva ucaphukile (ukusuka ngelizwi, iphunga) kwaye ukhawuleza ukulahla uluntu olubuhlungu kuwe. Uvakalelwa kukuba ulwaphulo lweengqondo, kwaye siya kuthetha ngalo namhlanje.
Uvelwano kunye nokuchasana kwengqondo yezonxibelelwano
Akunzima ukuqagela ukuba, ngokungafani novelwano, ukuchasana kuthetha ukuvakalelwa kwintlungu kunye nokuchaswa, oku kusithintela ngokucacileyo ulwazi olufunyenwe kumntu, ukusebenzisana nomnxibelelanisi kwaye, ngoko ke, ukufumana iziphumo ezintle. Omnye wemibono ecacileyo kunye eqhelekileyo yokuchasana nesihawu kubo abaninzi badibana esikolweni. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukungathandi kwutitshala kusenza singaphenduli ulwazi olufunyenweyo. Nje ngokuba ukuchasana okanye, ngokuchasene noko, ukuvakalelwa kwintembelelo, kuthintela ingqiqo yokuvavanywa kotitshala kunye neemfuno zakhe zokuqhubela phambili kwabafundi abathile.
Makhe sijonge kwiimpawu eziphambili zenceba kunye nokuchasana ekunxibelelaneni.
Impawu zobubele:
- Ukunxibelelana ngokukhululekile kwindawo ebizwa ngokuba yintsimi esondeleyo (ukusuka kwi-45 cm kunye nokufutshane);
- Vula iintende, ukungabi nalutho "ukuvala" ezandleni nasezinyaweni;
- esebenzayo "isibuko somzimba";
- ubhekise ngqo, kumomotheka;
- i- coquetry engenakuqonda
Impawu ezibonakalayo zokuchasana, ngokwemvelo, zichasene ngqo:
- ukugcinwa kwemimandla emikhulu phakathi kwama-interlocutors;
- ukuwela iingalo okanye imilenze, iminwe yezandla ezidibeneyo;
- akukho kopopasho lwezandla zomnxibelelwano;
- Ukuba uyabhema, ke umjelo womsi uya kuthi uthunyelwe phantsi ebusweni be-interlocutor engakhululekile;
- Ukujonga ngaphantsi kwekhangeli lakhe, i-browser ephazamisayo, umlomo ogxininisiweyo;
- ukuxhatshazwa kwiimisipha, uvakalelo lwangaphakathi.
Iimbangela zokungabikho
Umlingani onobundlobongela unokuvela ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo. Ngamanye amaxesha aqondwa (ukungaziqondi), kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ufanele ugqibe ngaphakathi kwakho ukuba uqonde ukuba kutheni umntu othile eveza ukuvalelwa kuwe (ukungabi ncamango).
Ngokomzekelo, ukunyanzelisa kungabangela izigqibo ezithile zomntu, ngenxa yokungafani kwimibono yezopolitiko okanye ngenxa yokungahambelani kwehlabathi. Ngamanye amaxesha siyacaphukiswa yimbonakalo, imikhwa kunye nokuziphatha kwabanye abantu. Ukongezelela, ingqondo ithanda ukudweba. Ukuba udibana nomntu usebenzisa i-perfume eneemvakalelo ezintle ezixhunyiwe, ngoko mhlawumbi unengxaki yokungahambi kakuhle kuya kubangela ukungafuni. Ngokufanayo, sisabela kwisigxina sezwi okanye, umzekelo, imikhwa yolwazi olutsha - ngokungazi ukuba ucele ukufana nokugcinwa kwememori. Ukuchasana okunjalo kwengqondo kubizwa ngokuba unxulumana.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngexesha elifanayo uvavanyo lomntu lube lukhulu kwaye lukhohlise. Iimvakalelo ezintle ziyakunciphisa kakhulu ubomi babantu abanomdla kunye ne-hypochondriac, ngoko ke ngamanye amaxesha kunokwenzeka kwaye kuyimfuneko ukulwa nokuchasana.
Indlela yokujongana nokuchasana?
- zama ukuhlalutya ngokufanelekileyo, yintoni ekukugxothayo kumntu. Chaza uhlobo lokuchasana kwakho, mfumene ingcaciso engqiqo. Ngamanye amaxesha kunengcikivo yokuba iqhosha lokudibanisa liphukile ngokuzenzekelayo;
- hlalutya umntu, fumana kuyo impawu ezintle;
- enye indlela yokunqoba ukungathandeki, ngokukhawuleza njengoko kuzwakala, kukunyamekela umntu. Siyayiqonda into esityala ngayo;
- abantu abanokholo banokucetyiswa ukuba bakhulume ngomntu ongathandeki emthandazweni, becela uThixo ukuba akhulule intliziyo kwiimvakalelo ezimbi.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ukuchasana kuyona nto inempilo enomdla ngokuqhelekileyo malunga nabo bonke abantu. Ukuba akukukhathazi (umzekelo, ubona into engeyiyo into enqabileyo kakhulu), ke ungazitshitshisi ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezimbi. Gxila kwiimpawu ezimnandi uze uzijikeleze kunye nabo bantu abanobuhlobo bakho obukuvuyisa!