Kubonakala ukuba kukho iingxaki zokuphuhliswa kwabantwana abangaphantsi komnyaka owodwa, kunye nekhalenda ekhethekileyo ebonisa ukuba ubani kufuneka alindele ukuhlaselwa kwesimo sengqondo. Ezi zihlandlo zibangela utshintsho olubukhali ekuphatheni komntwana. Akubona wonke umntu ovelele ngabo, njengokuba inzima i-3, i- 5 ubudala ubudala kunye nabanye, kwaye iintsana zikhohliwe ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abanakufumana iingxaki ezinjalo kwiinyanga eziliqela.
Iyintoni ishedyuli yengxaki yomntwana ukuya kunyaka?
Ngokutsho kweengxelo zeengqondo zezingane, iminyaka emininzi yokufunda indlela yokuziphatha kweintsana, ubomi babo bonke bahluke kwixesha elikhanyayo nelinzima. Etafileni yenkxwaleko, ukulinda umntwana engaphantsi kweminyaka yobudala, abayifumayo, kubonakaliswa ngolu hlobo lweeveki zobomi bentsana buya kulandelwa. Ngamnye wabo unemibala engathathi hlangothi (umbala omhlophe), okanye i-gray-ekuqaleni kweengxaki. Umnyama, uthetha ngokukhawuleza ngexesha leengxaki, kwaye ilifu elinemvula, ngokucacileyo, iinyembezi zikamama - ezo ntsuku xa abazali bekulungele ukunyuka eludongeni.
Kodwa akusiyo yonke into embi kwaye ingenathemba, kuba ngaphezu kwexesha elimnyama-gama kukho ilanga, xa inkwenkwe ivuyayo, isebenza kwaye iyanandipha ubomi ngendlela engokoqobo yegama. Ngama-total, kukho amaxesha angama-7 enkqubelayo kunyaka ukuya kwi-5, 8, 12, 19, 26, 37 neeveki ezingama-46. Bahlala kwiintsuku ezimbini ukuya ezintlanu kwaye baneempawu zabo.
Kutheni iimeko zenzeka kumntwana ongaphantsi konyaka omnye?
Ukujonga ngenyameko kwikhalenda yeengxaki zomntwana unyaka, ungabona iphethini ethile - ngokuba "iintsundu" iintsuku zihlala zisebusuku, kwaye azikho ezimbalwa, kwaye ukuphelelwa lithemba akunakulungele.
Kodwa ke kutheni ezi zihlandlo ezikhethileyo zingekho ngokucacileyo. Kuvela ukuba baveza ukuba umntwana uyakhula. Iphuzu kukuba ngeli xesha kukho ukubizwa ngokuxhuma ekukhuleni, kodwa kungekhona kwinqwelo lomzimba, kodwa kwisimo sengqondo. Oku kufana nomntwana ubeka iipenties ezifanayo phakathi nobusika, kwaye ukhula ufike kuma-3 ubukhulu kwihlobo, kwaye oku akusiyo ibhulukwe, kodwa iifutshane.
Into eyenzekayo kunye ne-psyche, eyabantwana abasengozini kakhulu. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana eqala ukuzibona njengento ehlukile kuMama, ingxaki yokuqala ibonakala. Emva koko uyaqonda ukuba unelungelo leemvakalelo zakhe - kwaye oku kungowesibili njalo njalo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuphepha ngokupheleleyo iingxaki zonyaka wokuqala. Kodwa ukunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwazo kusemandleni abobazali, ingakumbi umama, kuba oko yinto enyanisekileyo inene. Ngexesha eliqaqambileyo, kuyimfuneko ukuchitha ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka ngomntwana.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqhagamshelana ngokomzimba, ngokukodwa kwisahlulo sokuqala sonyaka. Ngomntwana kuyimfuneko ukuthetha, ukupompa ezandleni, ubonise i-caress nokunyamekela. Emva koko akayi kuvakalelwa, kuba ukuzithemba komama kuya kuthunyelwa kuye kancane.