Abasetyhini bahlulwe ngabo bakhetha ukulinda ade bahlulwe, kunye nalabo abaya kuhlaselwa ngokwabo. Kodwa ukuze anqobe intombazana, kufuneka aqale akhubekise ummeli wesilisa, oko kukuthi, ukuphumelela kuye.
Bathi indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini sayo. Siza kuzama ukuluhlu iindlela ezimbalwa, xa engenakungena ekhitshini yakho.
Ukunyaniseka
Ukuqhelana nommeli wesini esahlukileyo, nawuphi na umfazi ufuna ukumthanda, ufikelele entliziyweni yomntu, nangona umntu ongenamdla nhlobo. Olu khuphiswano-lwanyana, oluthi kukho imfuneko, ngokukhawuleza ukuba kukho, oko.
Kodwa ngokungahambi kakuhle kweemeko ezikhohlakeleyo, mhlawumbi kwenzeka ukuba unomhla wokuqala, unqwenela ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungazami ukukholisa: utshilo yonke into oyicinga ngaphandle kokunyanzelisa, uziphatha ngokukhululekile kwaye ungenakuvinjelwa. Ekugqibeleni, ngaphandle kokufuna, ufumene isitshixo entliziyweni yantoni-inyaniso , kwaye ngokubuyisela, wayeneyakho, enqatshiwe, eboshwe kwaye ngonaphakade kwindoda yakho.
Amadoda nabo bantu, kwaye abantu abayithandi xa bezama ukujikeleza ngomunwe, nokuba ngaba benza ngobuchule kakhulu. Ngoko, okokuqala, qiniseka.
Amandla amabhinqa
Amadoda ayomelele ngokwenyama, kwaye abasetyhini banamandla. Umoya wethu uyinamandla ethu, kwaye sinokubonisa umoya wethu omhle ngaphandle kokuthetha ngawo ngalo lonke uhlwanje (ukuthetha ngentsapho, jonga ngezantsi). Yeka intliziyo yomntu ikubambelele ngokumomothekayo okuya kumqinisekisa ukuba ungumntu ontle, onokulinganisela kunye onethemba.
Qaphela: amadoda, ewe, bathanda abafazi ngasese, kodwa ubuhlobo obude bakhetha ukhetho oluzinzileyo, oluqhelanisiweyo.
Ubuthathaka kwabasetyhini
Ewe, sinqwenela ukuthetha nentombi (kwiintombi) kwifowuni kwaye sinokukwenza iiyure kunye neentsuku ekupheleni. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ungumntu ococekileyo oxoxisana naye, ukuba into yokuqala ibonakaliswe xa ukwazi indoda kuyindlela yakho yokufunda.
Amadoda, kwininzi yabo, ngokwabo iibhokisi zeengxoxo. Kwaye ekubeni unomdla wokubuza indlela yokubamba intliziyo yomntu, lungela ukuba uyakufuna ukuncumo kunye nezakhono zokuphulaphula.
Ungakulibali ukuhamba kwindlela yokwenza: ngaphandle kokukhawuleza, khetha ukuba ngubani osebenzisanayo - kunye nebhokisi ye-chatter okanye uthule. Ngebhokisi lengxoxo, ewe, phulaphula, kodwa ngokuthula-kuthetha.
Qaphela: Amadoda ngokwawo avuma ukuba ibhinqa kufuneka liyiqonde kakuhle kwaye libathande kancane. Igama elithi "ukuqonda" lithetha ukukwazi ukuphulaphula ngenyameko.
Uyavuma okanye ingxoxo?
Ukuqhubeka nesihloko sengxoxo kunye namadoda, kwaye, singalibali indlela yokuyisa intliziyo yomntu, siya kuqonda indlela yokuphulaphula nendlela yokuthetha ngayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngezikhathi ezithile kwaye ucebile udinga ukunika iimpawu zobomi. Uninzi lwabasetyhini luzisa ukugqibelela ukukwazi ukuphulaphula yonke into "abayithethayo" - amagama kunye nemibandela yemvume - "ewe", "ngokuqinisekileyo," "uyinyaniso," kwaye ixesha elide "livumelana nawe."
Kodwa umsebenzi wethu kukubonisa ukuba ungumntu ogcweleyo, kunye nomntu ngamnye
Amadoda akafuni ukuvunyelwana nawo. Bayafuna ukuba umbono wabo ubelwe, okanye ukuphikisana ngokugcwele, ucelomngeni. Ingxoxo encinci (ngaphandle kobushushu kunye nomnqweno) iya kuba luncedo kakhulu ekuqalekeni kwengxoxo . Oku, ubuncinane, kuya kubonisa ukuba inqanaba lakho lobuchule likuvumela ukuba ube nesigama esithile.
Kodwa kwiintlobo ezininzi, emva koko, kucetyiswa ukuba ukwahlula indawo yembono yendoda. Indoda ifuna ukuziva "intloko" nangomhla wokuqala, kwaye ngoko ke, uluvo lwakhe kufuneka lubekwe ngaphezu kwakho, ngamanye amazwi, kufuneka kube lula ukuba, okanye ubuncinci ukuba acinge ukuba uyakwazi.