Isiqingatha esihle sabantu sichazwe kwiindidi ezi-2 - abo bathi "Ubundlobongela kunye nabasimili babini - i-fu, yintoni inqabileyo" kunye nalabo abacinga ukuba "Ndifuna ukulala namadoda amabini" akayi kuphumla. Ukongezelela, oku kutshanje kubalo manani. Kodwa, nangona inani elikhulu labantu abafuna ukuzama ukulala ngesondo kunye namadoda amabini ngexesha elifanayo akupheli. Izizathu zezi zinto zihluke, ukunyaniseka komntu othile kukuthintela, kunye nomntu othanda rhoqo, ngokucacileyo ukuba "awuyi kulala namadoda amabini." Enyanisweni, abanye abafazi, befumana umgca onjalo, bazama ukulala ngesibini kunye nabalingani ababini, kodwa "kwicala." Kwaye ukugweba ngenxa yinto enzima-ubomi obunye, kwaye ufuna ukuzama kuyo. Kodwa ungayilungisa njani isondo kunye namadoda amabini, yiyiphi ingcebiso eya kuba khona?
Ndifuna ukulala namadoda amabini!
Xa umfazi ephethe ingcamango yesondo kunye namadoda amabini, ngokukhawuleza ufuna ukuthetha nokuphumeza ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa oku kuphazamiswa yinto eninzi "kuthini ukuba", ephuma ngokukhawuleza emva kokumangalisa. Kodwa amaninzi amabhinqa anenkathalo malunga nendlela eli lizayo elichaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane obukhoyo, nokuba baya kufaka intsapho engozini ngokuzalisekisa umnqweno wabo. Kwaye ukwesaba kunamandla kangangokuthi abafazi abakwaziyo ukuxelela umlingane wabo malunga nelo fantasy. Kwaye ke kuthiwani ngoku ukuyeka iminqweno yabo okanye ukufumana amadoda ambalwa "ecaleni" eya kunceda ekuphunyezweni? Zokuzikhethela zombini zinelungelo lobomi, kodwa ukuthetha nomlingani wakho rhoqo malunga nesondo kunye kunye. Yaye ungesabi ukuba ucinga ukuba ungekhohlisi okanye ucinge ukuba awuyithandi. Ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi uya kuthatha ingcamango yakho ngenkuthalo. Kwaye, ke, akufanele uhlaziswe yiminqweno yakho, i-sexologist icinga ngento efanelekileyo yokulala ngesondo kunye namadoda amabini aqhelekileyo. Kwindalo, ukhetho luhlala lwenziwa yintombi, kwaye kuluntu uluntu ngumfazi okhetha iqabane lakhe. Kodwa akuyena loo nto, umntu unengqiqo, kodwa umntu ukhangelele, ngubani ongakhetha? Oku kufuna uvavanyo lobhedi olongezelelweyo - lubhaliwe kwizilwanyana zezilwanyana, kodwa ngokumalunga nokubizelwa kwendalo kunzima ukumelana. Ngoko, uzibamba ngombono wokulala ngesondo kunye nabafana ababini, akudingeki wenze izigqibo ezingalunganga malunga nokunyaniseka kwakho.
Indlela yokulungelelana ngesondo kunye namaqabane amabini?
Akubona bonke abantu abaxhasa imbono yokumema omnye umlingane ngokufanelekileyo, banako kwaye abanakuyinqabela kwintombazana yesibini, kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu oya kubabeka umngcipheko ngokuxelela omnye umfazi naye. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba simele sikulibale ngokuthanda kwethu. Ukufezekisa nje kufuneka kuphathwa ngokucophelela, kwaye ukuba ungammemezeli umyeni wakhe emnyango "ukuphazamisa, ndilapha ukumema umhlobo wakho, okwesithathu kuya kuba." Okokuqala, kufuneka uxoxe nomlingane wakho kwaye ufumane ukuba unjani lolu hlobo lwesondo olwamkelekileyo / olwamkelekileyo. Ukuba intanda ethandekayo iphendulela ingcambu yakhe okanye ithi indoda yakhe eqinekileyo "ayikho", musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, ngamanye amaxesha athi ngamadoda athi "hayi", okuthetha ukuba "Ndiyavuma." Yenza nje ukuba ulahlile lo msebenzi, kuba uyamthanda kwaye uyayihlonela umbono wakhe. Emva koko emva kwesikhashana, nikela ukubukela ifilimu ekhuselayo ngomxholo wesondo wesithathu (MZHM, kunjalo) kwaye ujonge ukuphendula kwendoda yakhe. Ukuba ifilimu iyimvuselela, wonke "umthengi uyasondeza", ncinane, kwaye uya kuthatha ingcamango yakho sele ihamba kakuhle. Kukho amaxesha apho indoda engavumelani nesithathu kunoma yiphi na indlela, kulo mzekelo kunengqondo ukubuyela phantsi, kodwa intsapho iyabiza ngakumbi kunomntu osemzimbeni wakho?
Iingcebiso zokuhlelwa kwesondo kunye namadoda amabini
Emva kokuba ufumene imvume yeqabane elilolo hlobo, ungaqalisa ukulungiselela umcimbi. Kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela ezi ngongoma ezilandelayo:
- umnqweno wamaqabane kufuneka ahlangane kwaye athembeke, kungenjalo akukho mntu uya kufumana;
- ukumema kwendima yesithathu yabahlobo akufanelekanga - kutheni unomuzwa ongenakonwaba okanye umona onokuvela emva koko;
- zonke iimeko zezenzo ezizayo kufuneka zixoxwe kunye neqabane.