"Kwimeko enjani umntu kufuneka ahambe endlwini, ngoko kungekho makhendela?" - Ubulumko babantu bubuza umbuzo othize. Wonke umfazi unempendulo yakhe. Kodwa ilungelo liya kuba liyakwazi ukulondoloza ukufudumala kwentsapho kunye nokufezekisa ukuthanda uthando emtshatweni, ukungahlali unyaka wokuqala nomyeni wakhe.
Ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bubangela iimangalisa ezingathandekiyo kwaye, ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa, umyeni uhombisa ubomi obunobini aze ahlangane nomnye umfazi ngobusuku bonke.
Ewe, siya kuzama ukufumana iindlela, ukufumana uphulo lwentsapho olulahlekileyo kwakhona kwaye sifunde indlela yokubuyisela umyeni kwikosikazi yakhe.
Ungazama njani ukubuyisela umyeni wakhe kwikosikazi yakhe?
Ngokwezibalo, ekhokelela ubomi obunobomi obubini, umntu uyakhathala ngale ndlela yokuphila malunga nonyaka. Kwaye oku kubonisa ukuba omnye wala mabhinqa amabini uya kuphumelela umntu omthandayo.
Masizame ukujonga ngephina, ngaphandle, kule meko. Indoda ithola induduzo kwelinye ibhinqa, okokuqala, ngokuba ayikufumananga kuwe. Oku kuthetha ukuba kuwe kwiminyaka yakutshanje, kwakungekho ukuzibophezela okuncane, waqala ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi owawutshata naye. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwemizi, ukuxabana kule mhlaba, uxinzelelo - konke oku kunempembelelo enkulu kwiintlalontle zentsapho. Kodwa iimvakalelo ezingabonakaliyo zentsebenziswano zodwa ziya kubangela ukuhluleka.
Umzekelo, ufunde ukuba umntu unendoda. Kule meko, kufuneka uyeke ukwesaba ukuba uya kushiya, ukhohlwe ngokuzikhukhumeza kwakhe. Kule mpi, umntu onokuzihlonela kakhulu uya kuphumelela. Musa ukucinga yonke isibini malunga nokuba indoda iya kubuya kwintsapho.
Zizinakekele wena, bantwana. Faka izinto ezahlukeneyo ebomini bakho (ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuhamba ukuhamba, sichitha ixesha elingakumbi ngokwakho, ukubonakala kwakho, isitayela sakho). Nangona kunjalo kungaqhelekanga, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuqonda indlela yokubuyisela umyeni emva kokungcatsha, mbonise ngaphandle kwezinto ezingenakucala ongazenza ngaphandle kwakhe.
Ngaba abesakuba ngabayeni bafuna ukubuyela?
Xa umyeni wakho eqonda ukuba akukho nto yokufihla kuwe, uyazi imfihlelo yakhe, uthando lwakhe ngomnye luyahlukana. Nangona waqala ukuhlala nomnye umfazi, uya kuphinda akhohlwe yindawo yakho yangaphambili, induduzo ekhaya. Kwikosikazi yonke imihla uqala ukufumana iimpazamo kwaye ufuna ukubuyela ngendlela eqhelekileyo yobomi, kwintsapho yakhe yangaphambili. I-plus plus enkulu iya kuba yinto yokuba ungaqali ukumbiza ngokuncenga ngokubuyela kwakhe. Uya kuqonda oko akulahlekileyo.
Ngoko, umyeni ufuna ukubuyela emva kokuba umbonise indlela yakho yobomi, ukuba uyazi ukuba ufanele? Impendulo engacacile nguyewe, indoda ifuna ukubuyela kwintsapho.
Cinga indlela omele uyenze ngayo xa indoda ibuyele kwintsapho:
- Zama ukumxolela. Ukuhlambalaza isenzo somyeni wakhe kuya kutshabalalisa imeko yakho yempilo kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
- Kuphi na ukuxabana, jonga ukulungelelanisa. Zama ukuqonda ukuba ayilathanga. Jonga imeko ngamehlo akhe.
- Thatha ixesha lokuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo. Musa ukubuza isizathu sokuba umyeni abuyele kwikosikazi kuye. Mamela kwaye uze uqonde iingcinezelo zokungcatsha kwakhe. Ukubona kuwe isidalwa esibuhlungu, ekugqibeleni uqiniseke ukuba ufanelekile kuphela uthando lwakho.
Ngoku ma si shwa nkathele. Umyeni wangaphambili ufuna ukubuyela kwintsapho, kumfazi othandekayo kuphela xa uyeka konke ukuzinikezela kuye xa ukhumbule ukuba akayiyo inkosi yomhlaba kwaye kukho izinto ezininzi ezithandayo. Ukuphuhlisa, ukuphucula, kodwa ukucaca ukuba akayena uThixo kuwe. Yazi ukuba ufanelwe kuphela okulungileyo.
Ingaba umyeni wakhe ufuna ukubuyela xa wena kunye nenkosikazi yakho bakha i-sanatorium kuye, umlondoloze aze aphule izicucu zomhlaba? Impendulo ayikho. Emva kwakho konke, uhlala apho kwaye apho. Oomama ababini bayamkhathalela. Kutheni kufuneka alahlekelwe ngendlela enjalo yokuphila?
Hlaziya izenzo zakho. Yenza izigqibo, ngaphambi kokukhawuleza ukutshintsha yonke into.