Yonke into iqala ngokungabonakaliyo. Okokuqala - ukusela kuphela kwieholide. Emva koko-ngeveki. Kamva - kwakhona kwakhona phakathi kweveki. Kancinci, imiphumo ye "gulyas" - ukusuka kwiitya eziphukileyo ukuya kwimoto ephukileyo - iyakhuliswa. Ukuba umyeni usela, kwiimeko ezininzi akayikukuqonda, kodwa uya kuphendula ngento efana nale: "Awuyikubona indlela abasela ngayo!". Kodwa indlela yokuziphatha nomfazi wakho kule meko ngumbuzo onzima kunzima, kwaye kungcono ukuba ungalibalizi isigqibo.
Ezinye iinkcukacha
Akukho mfihlo yokuba nayiphi na umntu okhulisa ukuxhomekeka kotywala kwiinqanaba zokuqala akayikubona oku njengengxaki. "Emva koko, baphuza yonke into!" - bathetha abantu. Akwazanga ukuvavanya imiphumo yangempela ye-spree yabo, okanye abaqaphele ukuba sele beyidlulile imida "yesiqhelo". Ngokwezibalo, umzekelo, eRashiya kunamadoda angaphezu kwezigidi ezingama-30 okusela - oko kuthetha ukuba phantse nganye yesibini.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umyeni uphuze kwaye aqalekise, kwaye lona wesifazane uzimisele ukulwa naye ukuya ekupheleni. Ukungabi namava kunye nolwazi kule ndawo ngokuqhelekileyo kwenza ukuba umfazi ukhethe iindlela ezingafaniyo zokuncedisa umntu. Okwangoku, amanani achaza amanani atshabalalayo: ngamnye unyaka we-12 000 abasetyhini bafa ngenxa yobundlobongela basekhaya , kwaye ininzi la matyala lidibene nokuxilwa. Kungenxa yoko, ukuba ubona ukuba umyeni waqala ukusela, cinga nje malunga nokwenza ntoni ngokulandelayo.
Ndingayenza ntoni ukuba indoda yam isela?
Umfazi kufanele abonise ukunyaniseka kwaye kuqala ukubeka imida: akukho ukusela ekhaya. Kubalulekile ukuthatha isikhundla esicacileyo, sikhonkco kulo mbandela. Kwaye into yokuqala okumele yenzeni ukubonisa ubungqina bendoda yokuba unomlutha kunye neengxaki zotywala. Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukwenza oku kulandelayo:
- Qala ikhalenda, apho inyanga, qaphela zonke iintsuku xa esela, isixa esinxilisayo kunye nemiphumo emibi.
- Ngokwahlukileyo bhala zonke iimeko ezingonakalisayo kunye nokulahlekelwa okwenzekile kuye ngenxa yokusela kwakhe.
- Enye i-leaflet inikezelwe ukubala iindleko zotywala, iimveliso ezinxulumene nokubuyiswa kwemiphumo.
- Ngandlela-thile, mthungele ihlaziyi ngokukrakra, okanye ubhale ingxoxo kwirekhodi.
Xa uqokelela ubungqina obaneleyo, umele ufike kuye - ngokucokisekileyo nokuchukumisa - kwaye uthethe kakuhle ukuba ucinga inkxaso. Futhi umbonise bonke ubungqina bokuba kutheni sele esabizwa ngokuba ngumnxila kwinqanaba lokuqala. Ukubetha kule nto kufuneka kube yinto ethi "Ndingumlwala." Emva kokuba evuma unyango, ungaya kudokotela. Unyango ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe ayiyi kwenza nantoni na.
Kodwa yazi: emva koko akukho kubuyela. Awukwazi ukugcina utywala kotywala endlwini yakho, zivumeleke nakwieholide. Enye ingilazi, enye iglasi ingaphazamisa zonke iinyanga, kunye neminyaka yomsebenzi kwaye ibuyisele yonke into kwiqondo le-zero.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba umyeni wam asele kakhulu kwaye rhoqo?
Ukuba ubona ukuba "ubunxila" bakhe buninzi ngaphezu kwendoda, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo ulahlekelwa ngumhlobo wakhe emva kokusela, yonke imiphumo eyingozi kakhulu yokusela kwakhe, kunye nokuziphatha kakubi kakhulu - cinga, kodwa kukho enye into yokulwa nayo?
Ngokwezibalo ezidabukisayo, akukho ngaphezu kwama-20-30% abantu abanxilisayo abakwazi ukunqoba ukuxhomekeka . Uninzi lwaphuka kwakhona, kwaye ubomi bonke bentsapho enjalo buya kuba yimida emfutshane yobunxila yobunxila. Ngaba ufuna ukuhlala kuloo ntsapho? Musa ukulibala ukuba uxinzelelo lobungqina besiselo esinxilisayo ekhaya luhlala lusichaphazela kakubi umntwana wengqondo. Kwezinye iimeko, kulula ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza, kunokuba uzame ukusindisa umntu ongazilwela. Ungalokothi ulibale malunga nale khetho.