Isiko samanje somtshato sisenkingeni. EYurophu, ngoko-ke benza imibutho phantsi kwesivumelwano somtshato, batshintshela kwimitshato yokuvakasha, kunye nepesenti zowesahlukaniso zesehlukaniso ziyahluka ukusuka kuma-60 ukuya kuma-80%. Intsha yanamhlanje ayiqondi isizathu sokuba kuyimfuneko ukutshata, kwaye ikhetha ukuhlala emtshatweni womtshato (nangona kunjalo, eli qhinga lisoloko lingabantu). Kwaye ngokwenene, kutheni abantu batshata?
Kutheni ndifanele nditshatile?
Ngoku, sicinga ngesizathu sokuba sitshatile, abaninzi baya kuphendula - ukuba babekho abantwana abasemthethweni, kwaye kwakungekho mfuneko yokuba uyise
- ukuba angene kwinkqubo yokwamkelwa komntwana wakho. Nangona kunjalo, umtshato ngokwenene unika umntu inzuzo ngakumbi:
- umntu otshatileyo unako ukuqeshwa;
- Abantu abatshatileyo bayalinganiswa ngabantu abakujikelezile njengabantu abaqolileyo;
- Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali banamathele ekubambiseni abantwana kubuthakathaka kwabo kuleso nqanaba;
- iinguqu zokuziqonda, ukuvela komthwalo wemfanelo;
- Ukuba isiqingatha sesibini sithandwa ngabantu abanomdla - ngokuqhelekileyo umtshato uyaxhalabisa, tk. umanyano uqalisa ukuthathwa ngokungakumbi;
- emtshatweni kunokuba lula kakhulu ukuxazulula iingxaki ngezindlu, nokuba ingaba yimali yokuthenga okanye ukuqeshisa indlu.
Nangona kunjalo, oku kungowona ongaphandle kwimiba. Enyanisweni, umtshato unikela ubuninzi kwihlabathi langaphakathi lomntu.
Kutheni abantu batshata?
Ukukrakra bathetha ukuba ukuba ngesizathu esithile indoda ishada, kuphela ngenxa yeengubo ezicocekileyo kunye ne-borscht. Enyanisweni, umtshato unikela okungakumbi:
- emtshatweni, umntu uyaziva ekhulile kwaye ekhuselekile ngakumbi, kuba ngoku sele ephethe ngokusemthethweni "emva";
- ngokuqhelekileyo emva komtshato, isantya esitsha sesisa kunye nokuxhamla ngokomzwelo phakathi kwabatshatileyo;
- ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukutshatyalaliswa kwamacandal kunokukhokelela ekuphuleni ubudlelwane kuncishisiwe, kuba ngoku kunzima kakhulu ukusabalalisa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubudlelwane, olukhuselekile ngumthetho, lunika umntu uxolo lwengqondo kunye nentembelo kwixesha elizayo, ilungelo lokunciphisa kunye nokuvuselela umonde. Sonke asifezekanga, kodwa emtshatweni kulula ukuxolelana ngokungafezeki kwamancinci.