Ngamanye amaxesha iimeko zisiphonsa iingxaki ezinjalo, isisombululo esifanele sifumaneke iminyaka. Ingakumbi ngokuqhelekileyo iingxaki zeengqondo eziyinkimbinkimbi zivela apho kukho abathathi-nxaxheba abambalwa abaphoqeleka ukuba babelane nommandla oqhelekileyo: umzekelo, oogxa okanye amalungu omndeni. Kwaye ukuba ngaba bokuqala, bebudlelwane obubi emsebenzini, babuyela ekhaya, apho ufudumele olusenyongweni lwezilwane balindelwe khona, ke akukho ndawo inokuya kuyo: indlu yabo ayikho yinqaba, kodwa "yintsimi yomsebenzi wempi" yangaphambili.
Ulwazi lweengqondo malunga nolwalamano lwentsapho ngenxa yaloo nto, kwaye kukho ukuthabatha kubo, xa ubudlelwane beentsapho "buqhekeka kwiindawo zokuhlala."
Isiseko sentlalo-ntle: ingqondo yengqondo kunye nosapho
- ingxaki e fanayo. Ukubuyisela uxolo kwiintsapho ezinengxaki kubalulekile ukuba onke amalungu ayo aqonde ukuba oku kuqhelekileyo kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ingxaki yomuntu: umntu wenza into engalunganga, kunye neengxabano zenziwa kulo mhlaba;
- ncediso. Ukuze kulungiswe nayiphi na ingqinani, kubalulekile ukuba abantu bancedisane ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza izinto zabo;
- Iimfa apho kungekho mqoqo. Kukho nawuphi na umlimbano wentsapho "kuphela olahlekileyo", kuba ikhaya liyindawo apho umntu angakwazi ukubalekela kwiinkathazo aze aphinde abuyele amandla akhe. Ukuba le "ndawo" iya kuba yintlukwano, kwaye ngokuchaseneyo, kufuna umzamo omkhulu.
Ingxaki yenombolo 1 kwintsapho kunye nolwalamano olusapho - uxanduva
Ukungabikho komthwalo onoxanduva olunye lweengxaki eziqhelekileyo zentsapho. Bobabini abadala kunye nabantwana bafanele baqonde ukuba banokwenene kakhulu: ukunyamekela nokuthanda, okufuneka ukuba kuboniswe kungekhona ngamazwi kuphela, kodwa nakwizenzo. Umzekelo, ukunyanzelisa umyeni odeleyo ukulungisa umnyango, umfazi kufanele aqonde ukuba ngomso uya kusebenza ekhathele, kwaye kuya kuba nzima kuye ukumelana nokukhuphisana okulawula ngaphandle kweendonga zendlu. Ukugqithwa rhoqo kuya kubangela ukuba uyayeka ukusebenza kwaye eze nemali endlwini. Ngaloo ndlela, indoda, inxusa umfazi ukuba ilungiselele ngokukhawuleza isidlo sakusihlwa okanye ibeke izinto ngokufanelekileyo endlwini, emva kokuba engabuyelwanga kancinci emsebenzini.
Indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane kwintsapho kwimeko? Ukuxazulula ingxaki yobugovu nokungaxanduva, kufuneka uvakalise ukuba kutheni ukwenza oku. Kuphela kwintetho yencoko "kunokuqhelanisa" amalungu omndeni ekunyamekelaneni.
Ingxaki yenombolo 2 ebuhlotsheni bentsapho - indoda enobuqili okanye umfazi
Ukungasebenzi komlingane kuphulukisa ukungabi nabulungisa: kutheni umntu kufuneka asebenze nzima, kwaye ngokuhlwa "kwindawo yokufa" iswele embhedeni, kwaye omnye umntu ulungele, kwaye ujonge umsebenzi womnye? Le nto ingxaki eqhelekileyo kwiibinibini, apho iqabane elinye lingenisekanga, kunye nelinye i-extrovert esebenzayo.
Indlela yokuphucula ulwalamano olunjalo kwintsapho? Inokwenzeka ukuba, ukucacisa kumlingane onobuqili ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuwe kwaye kufuneka asebenze kakubi, ngoko kufuneka ulayishe. Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukuchaza ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokuqiqayo into ayenzayo namhlanje, ngomso, ngenyanga. Qala ngcono ngeendlela ezifutshane,
Ingxaki № 3 yobudlelwane kwintsapho - ububele okanye ubuzwe
Ukuba intsapho inamakhokeli amabini, okanye abameli beentsapho zematriarchal kunye neentloko, ngoko umzabalazo wamandla awukwazi ukuphetshwa.
Indlela yokuseka uxolo kwintsapho? Kule meko, kwanele ukuba usasaze iindawo "zobuphakamileyo", okanye ufike kwisivumelwano - ulwalamano olulinganayo. Kwanele ukuba bobabini siqonde ukuba wonke umntu ngumntu ofuna isimo sengqondo kwaye uyaba nelungelo lokuphulaphula uluvo lwakhe kuphela, kodwa nokuba nolungileyo xa kunjalo ngokwenene.