Akukho nto ihlala phantsi kwenyanga, kwaye iimvakalelo zethu azikho. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukunyuka kuba ngumkhwa, kunye nokunyamekela ekukhatheni. Ngenye imini, ukuvuka ekuseni, umfazi odidekile uyaqonda ukuba akayithandi indoda yakhe. Ungaba njani kwimeko - ukujonga indlela yokuthanda umyeni wakho kwakhona okanye ukufaka ifowuni yesicelo somtshato?
"Andizi ukuba ndiyamthanda umyeni wam .."
Kuthekani ukuba ndandifika ngokukhawuleza ndithi "Andiyithandi umyeni wam"? Zama ukuqonda ukuba ngaba ukuphucula okwexeshana kwimiba yakho kwaye kukho ithuba lokubuyisela yonke into okanye umyeni wakho waba yinto enyanyekayo - apha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, awuyi kukwazi ukumthanda kwakhona. Emva koko, akunakwenzeka ukumphoqa umfazi ukuba amthande umyeni wakhe. Kodwa ukuba uphinde uzive, i-passion yangaphambili ibalulekile ukuzama.
Kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo sicinga ukuba uthando luye lwadlula, ngoxa lwafumana nje udidi oluhlukile. Emva koko, akunakwenzeka ukutshisa ukutshutshisa nokuqhubela kwiindawo eziphakamileyo zezinto ezivuyayo nje ekubeni ube kufuphi nayo - akukho ntliziyo inokuxhasa umthwalo onjalo. Yingakho iimvakalelo zithe zaphela, kodwa lo mntu usandithanda kuwe, akunjalo?
Ungayithanda njani indoda?
Njengoko ukhankanywe ngasentla, unokuthanda umyeni wakho kwakhona kuphela ukuba akukho nto yokwenqatshwa kwelo mntu, kwaye ke, ukuba wena ngokwakho uyifunayo.
- Khumbula indlela zonke zaqala ngayo. Intlanganiso yakho yokuqala kunye nendawo oyithandayo yokuhamba. Mhlawumbi ukwenzela ukuba uvuke iimvakalelo zokulala kufuneka uphinde ubuye "kwiindawo zokuziqhayisa kwempi" - ukubanga kwiibhentshi, njengoko kwakunjalo kwiintlanganiso zakho zokuqala, uhlale e-cafe apho kuqala usuku lokuqala, uya kuphumla apho uchithe u-honeymoon .
- Kwangexesha elide oye wahlala kunye, sele usujwayele umyeni wakho, kwaye ezinye zeempawu zakhe zingasondliwa. Kodwa ngaba uqinisekile ukuba uyazi umyeni wakho? Ngokuqinisekileyo, awuzange uqaphele ezinye iimpawu zobuntu bakhe, kwaye abanye abazange bakrokre ngako. Zama ukubheka ngendlela entsha, jonga amanqaku amatsha kunye nemibandela yalo mntu uhlala nawe phantsi kophahla olulodwa. Mhlawumbi into entsha evulekileyo kuyo iya kwenza ukuba iimvakalelo zivuke ngamandla.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, ezinye iimpazamo zomyeni azibonakali ngathi okanye zibhekwa njengezinto ezintle kuye, kodwa emva kwexesha uqala ukuthukuthela. Uluhlobo luni luthando onokuthiwa xa uphethile? Zama ukuthetha ngale ndaba kunye nomyeni wakho, ndixelele ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba iimpazamo zakho ziphele. Khawukhumbule, kuya kuba nzima ukunqanda imichilo emidala, ngoko ungabonakalisi iziqulatho kwaye ungenzi i-scandals. Thetha naye ngokuzithelekileyo, hamba ukulungelelanisa ngokufanelekileyo, mhlawumbi ukuba ezinye zeempawu zakho ziyacaphukisa.
- Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abasondeleyo banokukhathala omnye nomnye, kwaye abacaphukisi izenzo ezithile, kodwa kuphela ukuvela komnye umntu. Kule meko, unokunceda ukuhlukana okuncane. Hayi, kungekhona malunga nokwamkelwa okudlalwa rhoqo kumafilimu aseMerika "othandekayo, masihlale ngokuhlukileyo kwithuba elithile".
Amagama anjalo ahlala ethetha, ezama ukufihla ixesha elithile ngaphambi kokuba adibana nabo, kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba kusasa. Kwanele nje ukuba ukhululeke komnye nomnye, umzekelo, ukuya kwiholide, kodwa kungekhona kunye, kodwa ngokwahlukileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuhlukana okufutshane kwenza imisebenzi emangalisayo - emva kokubuya, esi sibini sithandana kunye nomoya ovuselelwe.
Kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba iinzame zokuvuselela iimvakalelo eziza kusebenza ziza kusebenza kuphela ukuba le mvakalelo efanayo ikhona. Kodwa ukuba awukho nto yokuvuselela, ngoko akufanele uzame, kuphela amandla kunye nexesha liya kutshabalalisa.