Ukufumana intlonelo ngentombazana yakho ethandekayo okanye umfazi kunzima. Phantse wonke umntu uyazi ngale nto. Emva kwakho konke, abafazi - izidalwa zibuthakathaka kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zinokuziphatha okungaqinisekiyo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ingxaki, xa umfazi engamhloneli umyeni wakhe, unokufihlakele kwaye ngokumalunga nomntu onothando kumfazi.
Ingxaki yokuba indoda yalahlekelwa ukuthembeka emehlweni omfazi wayo, yaxubusha ngokugqithiseleyo kwi-Institute of Marriage Modern. Ukuba ngaphambili kwakunjalo, kwaze kwagcinwa iifaki ezisixhenxe. Namhlanje, ukuba ujonge ngapha nangapha, uya kubona ukuba abanye abafazi bayabathukuthelisa abantu babo, kwaye oku, njengoko uyaziyo, kunciphise kakhulu ukuqhosha kwamadoda. Kodwa ingxaki yangempela kukuba umfazi akayihloneli umyeni wakhe kunye nokuba amadoda ahoxisa iimfuno zamantombazana ezingafunekiyo, ukuba ziye zatshintshiswa ngamandla kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha nokuziphatha. Ubuntombi buya kutshintsha indawo ephezulu kwihlabathi, kunye nabameli bezesondo ezinamandla kwezinye iimeko, bazinikezela kakhulu izikhundla zabo.
Sisiphi isizathu?
Ukuba sithetha ngento yokuba intombazana ayiyihloneli inkwenkwe yakhe okanye umfazi wayo uyeka ukuhlonela indoda eyintanda-mthandayo, ngoko ke umntu kufuneka acinge ngokunyanisekileyo kwizizathu ezibangela ukuziphatha kwamadoda, apho amaxesha amamaTyhini amangaliswa ngamanye amaxesha.
- Kwimeko ezininzi, omnye umama uvelisa unyana wakhe (uyise okanye emsebenzini kwaye akayicingi ukuba kuyimfuneko, ubuncinane ngexesha lakhe lokukhulula, ukunyamekela umntwana wakhe, okanye umlingane ngokuqhawula umtshato, okanye uyise ukholelwa ukuba le nto ayiyiyo ibhizinisi lomntu, ukuba afundiswe).
- Amadoda amancinci aya kwi-kindergarten, kwaye kukho ootitshala besifazane (amanye amakhwenkwe, ayanqatshelwe ingqalelo kwaye abangenayo ingcamango echanekileyo yemisebenzi yezesondo ezibuthakathaka, banoluvo lokuba kuyinto evamile xa abafazi bebaleka). Emva koko imeko iya kuphinda esikolweni.
- Umkhosi "ungaphandle kwefashini". Ekugqibeleni, oku kuchaphazela nokubunjwa kweempawu zomntu kumfana.
- Xa kuziwa emtshatweni, abanye amadoda, xa benze izigqibo ezingalunganga ekujonganeni nabasetyhini, cinga ukuba kuqhelekile ukuba ungabandakanyeki nayo kwimpikiswano. Kwaye abafazi, emva koko, emva kwemizamo engafanelekiyo yokuthetha kunye neqabane labo, bathathe ngokufanelekileyo ukuthatha iimbopheleleko zomntu, ezenza ukuba abe yinkosi yendlu.
Indlela yokwenza umfazi amhlonele umyeni wakhe?
Njengoko uyazi, imbono yesintu neyesetyhini ihluke kakhulu, kwaye indlela yodwa yokwenza intombazana imhlonele iqabane lakhe okanye iqabane lakhe xa ifuna yona.
Ibhinqa kufuneka iqonde ukuba indoda iya kubonisa ukuqina okuyimfuneko, uthathe isinyathelo ezandleni zakhe, njl. ngoko, xa evakalelwa kukuba umfazi ukholelwa kuye.
Indoda kufuneka iqonde ukuba abafazi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bafuna ukubonakala bengumoya oqinileyo, bahlale befuna ukwazi ukuba bahlale benomntu emva komva wabo, njengasemva kwodonga lwamatye.