Uthando aluhlali luhlala luhleli. Ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane buye buthathaka kwaye iimvakalelo ezindala ziphela. Kule meko, kungcono ukuhlushwa wena okanye iqabane lakho, ukuba akukho ntando. Nangona ulwalamano lwentsebenziswano luyinkqubo enzima, kunokwenzeka ukuba inxalenye yeendlela zenkcubeko kunye nephuculwe. Ukuze uzalise ngokwaneleyo ulwalamano, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ungayenza njani inxaxheba kumntu obalaseleyo.
Kuvuyiswa kangakanani ukuhlukana nendoda?
Uninzi lwesini esilungileyo kunzima ukwenza isigqibo malunga nale nyathelo kwaye bavame ukubuza umbuzo malunga nendlela enokumxelela ngayo umfana esahlukanisayo. Ukugxotha ingxoxo enzulu kwaye uqhubeke nobudlelwane obungabikho uthando, awukwazi ukunika ithuba lokuqalisa ubomi obutsha, kokubili wena kunye nomlingane wakho. Ukuba ukhetha isigqibo sokuba uyingxenye, yenze ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungalibali ixesha elizayo.
Okokuqala, khetha indawo efanelekileyo. Yeka ukhetho olulungileyo kwindawo engathathi hlangothi, apho ayiyi kuba yindlala kakhulu kwaye umsindo, umzekelo, ipaki. Kwakhona, ungakhethi ezo ndawo eziye zithetha kakhulu kuwe okanye iqabane lakho.
Ukucinga malunga nendlela enomdla ukukhetha kunye nomfana, cingisisa ngengxoxo yakho. Ungazami ukumnika ithemba elingenanto kwaye ungamniki ukuba ube ngumhlobo. Mane nje nixelele ukuba iimvakalelo ziye zaphela kwaye azinakubuyiselwa. Musa ukunyanzela, ukuhlambalaza kwaye ngenye indlela ukumgxeka. Zama ukuthetha ngokuzinzileyo kwaye ungenangqondo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuzama ukufumana isizathu sendawo. Musa ukungena kwiingcaciso ezicacileyo, njengoko oku kuya kubandakanya uxolo kunye nezinye izithembiso. Cacisa ukuba le yinto eyenzekayo kwaye akukho nathuba lokubuyisela ubudlelwane. Akunamagama okubonga ngethuba elihle kwaye unqwenela impumelelo kwixesha elizayo ayiyi kuba yinto engabonakaliyo. Kule nqaku, qedqa ingxoxo yakho.