Intsapho yenye yeenjongo eziphambili zomntu ngamnye, kuba usebenzisa nayo ininzi yobomi bakhe. Bangaphi abangenakho abahlobo bakho, akukho namnye kubo oza kuthatha indawo yokufudumala noxolo ukuze izalamane zinike.
Iyintoni intsapho engaphelelanga?
Namhlanje, ngelanga, kunzima ukumangalisa nabani na into enjalo. Incazelo yentsapho engaphelelanga kuthetha ukukhulisa umntwana ngomnye wabazali. Oku kwenzeka ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo: umntwana uzalelwe ngaphandle komtshato, ukwahlukana kwabazali, umtshato okanye ukufa komnye wabazali. Ewe, ukhetho olunjalo alufanelekanga kumntwana, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha luyimthombo wovuyo, inkululeko, nolonwabo olungenakufezekiswa ngolu hlobo lwefomily family. Makhe sibone ngokubanzi iinkcukacha zoluhlobo luni lugqalwa njengentsapho.
Iintlobo zemindeni engabodwa: umama kunye noyise. Ngokuqhelekileyo, intsapho engaphelelanga yonina isasazeka. Ibhinqa ekwimithwalo yokuthwala, ukuzala, ukondla kubonakala ihlala nomntwana. Ukongezelela, kuyamkelwa ukuba ukunakekelwa kwabantwana kulala kumahlombe amabhinqa. Yaye ubaba unako ukuba ngumfundisi. Kodwa ngelo xesha, iingcali zikholelwa ukuba utata uyaziphendulela ukukhala kunye nokumomotheka komntwana, kunye nomfazi. Inzala kayise engaphelelanga ayifani ngokuqhelekileyo ngoku, ngenxa yeemeko ezahlukeneyo. Oobawo bathabatha uxanduva lokukhulisa umntwana, ukususela ebuntwaneni bentsapho, ngoko kungabikho kwabo kubonakala ngakumbi. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo basabanini bokutya kunye nabazuzi, kunokuba ngabafundisi.
Umzali kwintsapho engaphelelanga
Xa kukho abantwana abaningana kuloo ntsapho, oku kuhlawulela ukungaphelelanga nto encinci. Umntwana omdala unokuba ngumzekelo kumncinane, ukuba abadala baziphatha ngokuchanekileyo. Kuyaziwa ukuba kwimindeni engumzali oyedwa, abantwana bancintisana kakhulu kwaye banamathele emoyeni. Abazali abakhulisa abantwana kwimindeni engumzali oyedwa bafuna ukunika iingcebiso:
- Thetha kumntwana uze umphulaphule. Hlalani naye nisoloko ninxibelelana. Kubalulekile ukuba avezwe xa ekhuluma ngetanga lokufundela okanye esikolweni.
- Hlonipha imemori yexesha elidlulileyo ngenhlonipho.
- Mncede ngezakhono zokuziphatha ezifanelana nesondo sakhe.
- Musa ukutshintsha imisebenzi yabazali abangabikho kwiimigxa yabantwana.
- Zama ukutshata kwakhona uze ubuyele ebomini kwintsapho epheleleyo.
Iimpawu zentsapho zomzali ongabodwa
Kwiintsapho zeenkedama, naphezu kokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo, amalungu entsapho aseleyo abonisa ubumbano kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane beentsapho kunye nazo zonke izalamane ezisemgceni womfi. Ulwalamano olunjalo luqhubeka kunye nokusungulwa komtshato wesibini, tk. Oku kubonwa njengesiqhelo.
Kwiintsapho ezidibeneyo, umntwana ufumana ingxaki yokukhathazeka kwengqondo, uloyiko loloyiko, ihlazo. Ngako oko, kuthathwa njengento eqhelekileyo yokuba nethemba lomntwana lokubuyiswa, ukuhlanganisana kobudlelwane bukayise nomama.
Intsapho enomzali ongatshatanga omnye yenziwa xa uyise engavumelani nokuzala kwaye loo ntokazi inquma ukukhulisa umntwana yodwa. Emva koko kukho ingozi yokuba umama ongenamzali uya kuphazamisa intsapho yabantwana kwaye akayi kuthanda ukwabelana naye nabani na.
Namhlanje, amaqabane amancinci athathekayo ahlukanisa umtshato, engakhange acinge malunga nokuba umntwana uya kukhula njani kwaye njani
Izifundo zeempawu zengqondo zengxelo engaphelelanga yentsapho yokuba abantwana kwiintsapho ezinjalo banelungelo lokuphulaphula kwinkqubo yeentlanzi, banokusebenza kakuhle kwezemfundo kwaye banokuzithemba.
Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokwenza naziphi na izigqibo malunga nokubunjwa kwentsapho, cingisisa ngokungazi malunga neemvakalelo zakho, kodwa malunga nendlela oku kuya kumchaphazela ngayo umntwana. Umonde kunye nokuqonda kwemvakalelo yomntwana kunokudala intsapho yokwenene, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ubuntwaba obumnandi.