Umtshato womtshato okanye ukuhlala ngokubambisana kudla kakhulu namhlanje. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokumazi umntu osondeleyo, ehleli naye ixesha elithile phantsi kophahla olulodwa. Akwanele, ngokuzenzekelayo ebomini bakhe akanakuthandabuzeki okanye akanako, kwaye bonke abalinganiswa bahlukileyo, kungekhona ubomi, kodwa i-hsle iyaqhubeka. Kwimeko yokugqibela, isisombululo silula - sibaleke kwaye sihambe. Kodwa ke yintoni enokuyenza ngeTV, i-sofa, imoto, apho bayigcina kunye? Okanye mhlawumbi bathenge iplati kwindawo yokugcina impahla, ngoku kuyimfuneko ukwahlula.
Kubuhlungu, ngokuqinisekileyo, uthando alukwazanga ukugcinwa, kodwa aluzange ludlale lomtshato, abazange babelethe abantwana ... Mhlawumbi abazange bazame ukuzala, kuba xa abantu banquma ukuhlala kunye, baxanduva lomnye nomnye. Ukuba ufuna, awufuni, kodwa kufuneka utshintshe indlela yakho yobomi. Ukuba ubungakulungele oku, kufuneka ubaleke. Emuva, endlwini kayise ...
Apha, kubaninzi, umbuzo uvela malunga nokwahlukana kwepropati, efunyenwe ngomtshato womtshato. Umbuzo unzima, kuba ngesigqibo esisemthethweni somtshato nakwixesha elizayo, ekuqeshweni kwayo, ipropati iyahlula kwisiqingatha, kwaye kwimibandela yomtshato, izinto zihlukile.
Ukubambisana akunalo isiseko somthetho, ngoko ke ngaphambi kokuba "abatshatileyo" emva kokuhlukana kunzima kunjengoko ukwahlula kwipropati.
Ukuthula, uxolo, ukuthula
Ukuba ukhetha ukusabalalisa, zama ukukwenza ngendlela yomntu. Emva kwakho konke, abantu abangekho abantu abangaziwayo, zingaphi izihlandlo ezimnandi ebomini bakho kunye, akunasihawu "ukunyathela" konke okulungileyo nokudibanisa, uxolo, ngothuli. Sombulula le ngxaki ngokuzinzileyo, ngaphandle kokuya enkundleni - yilokho okufuneka uzame kuqala. Ipropati efunyenwe kumtshato womtshato inokwahlukana, ngokwemali yemali eyanikezelwa ngabanye "abatshatileyo" ukufumana le nto okanye loo nto. Omnye uthenge ifriji, nceda ushiye yona. Omnye we-sofa yesi-2/3 wanikezela, kule ngxaki, unako ukunika imali umntu wesithathu owayengumthandi, ngoko kwakungekho nto embi. Indlu, ukuba kuthengwa ngeendlela eziqhelekileyo, ingathengiswa okanye itshintshwe. Enye inketho, unako ukunika isahlulo salo xabiso kwenye "iqabane", ukuba kukho elo thuba.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukwahlukana kunye nokwahlukana kwepropathi emva komtshato womtshato, kuyimfuneko kwaye oku kunokwenzeka. Into ephambili akuyikuba uzukise wena kunye nomnye. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba unabantu abaziyo ukuphulaphula nokuthetha. Khangela ukutshatyalaliswa kwaye ungabi ngabameleli behlabathi lezilwanyana, uhlasele omnye kwaye ubonise ubugwenxa.
Vuka, inkundla ivuliwe
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukuhlula ipropati efunyenwe ngokudibeneyo kwimibandela yomtshato ngeendlela ezinokuthula, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukufaka isicelo ngoncedo kwinkundla. Unqume ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukratshi ukuba uzuze loo nto "kuyimfuneko" lakho lilungelo. Into yokuqala oya kuyidinga ukuyenza kubhala isitatimenti sesibango, esifanele sifake izinto ezilandelayo:
- inkcazo ecacileyo yazo zonke iimeko ezikhoyo zokufumana ipropati;
- qiniseka ukuba uluhlu lwamaphepha angabonisa ubungqina bokufumana ipropati;
- musa ukulibala ukucacisa amangqina anokuqinisekisa ubungqina bokuhlala ndawonye, ukuqhuba indlu eqhelekileyo kunye nokwenza izinto ezinkulu. Njengamangqina angenza izihlobo, abahlobo okanye abamelwane;
- ucacise ipropati oyifunayo, ixabiso layo. Ixabiso kufuneka libhalwe, ngoko kulungile ukuba ugcine iireki okanye amanye amaxwebhu okuhlawula;
- imbopheleleko ibonise ukuba ucinga ngepropati ephikisanayo eqhelekileyo ngezizathu ezithile (zithengwa ngemali-mali, ukusetyenziswa ngokubambisana, njl).
Kwezinye iimeko, akunakwenzeka ukucacisa ukuba ngubani kunye nenani elityalomali ekuthengweni kwepropati eqhelekileyo. Ukuba izabelo zabathathi-nxaxheba kwipropati efanayo ayikwazi ukumiselwa ngokusemthethweni kwaye aziqinisekanga ngesivumelwano sabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba, zonke izabelo zibhekwa njengelilinganayo. Ngoko, ungakhathazeki, ungacasuli mntu nabani na oya kufumana oko kubangelwe kubo.
Xa yonke le ngqungquthela kunye nokwahlula kwepropathi ihlaziywe, akuyi kuba yinto engacingi ukuba ucinge ngoko ungayenzanga kubuhlobo obungahambelaniyo. Kuya kuba kuhle ukuya eholidini, ukuzinza nokufumana amandla okufumana ubomi obutsha. Ngenxa yamava oye wawafumana, mbulela umntu kwaye ungamkeli okubi kuye. Kufuneka ukwazi ukuxolela nokuhlala, kuba ubomi buhle!