Ukumemeza "Ubunzima!" Awuzange ucolile kwimemori yakho, kwaye ubunzima bekhaya kunye neemeko sele sele sele bezithende zabo? Unokuvuyiswa, ubomi bentsapho bokwenene buza - kungekho maglasi e-rose kunye nokudumisa emehlweni. Endaweni apho kukho iintyatyambo, iziqhamo kunye nemikhosi phantsi kwenyanga, ukuhlamba izitya kufaka indawo ekuhambeni kwakho kunye nohambo olubambiseneyo ukuya kwi-cinema, kunye neengxabano ezingaphezu kwezibini, abatshatileyo kunye nabahlobo kunye neesms ezinqabileyo "kwiintombi zamhlobo" ziyancipha ngakumbi. Awuyena umfazi ofanelekileyo? Okanye ngaba akuyikho into ocinga ukuba yayiyiyo? Masibone oko kwenzekayo kwiintsapho emva komtshato kunye nendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe.
Iengqondo zentsebenziswano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi
Iingxaki ezinxulumene nomyeni wakhe - into eyenzeka kumhla ayikumangalisi. Kwaye isizathu esiyinhloko sale nto yinto ephihliweyo yokuba umfazi uyondla okhethiweyo. Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, kwanokuba ukungaziphathi kubonakala kukuhle. Kodwa ixesha liyaqhubeka, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo isigqubuthelo sothando sihla, kwaye sibona "ubuso" beqabane lethu. Ukuqhekeka kuyo yonke iisokisi, iindawo zokulala phambi komdlalo weTV ngebheriya kunye nokuhamba ngeenhlobo kubahlobo - oku akusona sizathu esona sibi kakhulu sokuxabana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umyeni wakho naye akanakucinga ukuba ngumfazi ofanelekileyo. Kwaye kunye nokuhlambalaza kuqale, ngubani ochanileyo, ngubani na omele. Enyanisweni, wonke umntu akalungile ngendlela yabo. Abambalwa bayaqonda ukuba intsapho ayisona isitampu kwipaspoti. Ubudlelwane ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo nobunzima. Yaye bobabini abalingani kufuneka babe nomdla kulo msebenzi. Wonke amagama, isinyathelo kunye nokwenza utyalo-mali kwixesha elizayo kwaye usebenze kangakanani umsebenzi wokuxhasa inkxaso yentsapho kuxhomekeke ekubeni umanyano wakho uza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani. Kodwa ukuba ixesha lilahlekile kunye neengxabano sele zenzeke? Ngalolu hlobo ukutshintsha njani ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe? Ngenxa yoko, kukho imigaqo emele ilandelwe.
I-Psychology ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe
Impazamo enkulu yowesifazane yintembeko yokuba yonke into iya kutshintsha emva komtshato, indoda ayiyi kuhamba naphi kwaye iza kukwazi ukuyitshintsha. Makube ludimazi kuwe, kodwa amadoda angatshintshi, kwaye isitampu kwipaspoti ayiyi kumisa umntu othe wagqiba ukutshilo. Ngoko, ukutshata akufanelekile. Okokuqala, zama ukumbona umntu kunye nazo zonke iziphoso zakhe phambi kokuba udibanise ngokusemthethweni ubomi bakho naye. Kodwa ukuba sele sele utshatile kwaye ulwalamano lwakho aluhambelani nonke, ezinye iingcebiso ziyakunceda njani ukuziphatha kakuhle nomyeni wakho:
- Khumbula ukuba awodwa. Nangona ubudlelwane obuninzi obungapheliyo lunokutshabalalisa ukungakhathaleli. Yaye loo mntu akayi kuyithanda xa efika ekhaya, akaboni ukuba umntu uyonwabile kwaye uyadibana.
- Kukho ihlaya elilodwa malunga neengcamango zabasetyhini: "Ndacinga ngako - ndatshitshiswa." Zama ukulahla le mkhuba. Amadoda ayisoze ayicinge into oyifunayo de uze utsho ngokuzwakalayo. Kwaye, ukucaphukisa kunye nokukhusekisa ubusuku bonke akuyi kubangela nto ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.
- Ungaze wenze isigqibo malunga ezimbini. Nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba kuya kuba ngcono. Umntu wakho kunye nawe unokwenza izigqibo ngokwakho, kwaye ukuba ingcinga ibonakala entloko yakho, xubushe kwibhunga lentsapho. Kodwa musa ukumisela indawo yokujonga. Isisombululo kufuneka sihlangane.
- Musa ukumchukumisa loo mntu ngeemfuno zesikhashana. Ngokomzekelo, hlanza izitya, uphonsa imfucuza okanye ulungise i-faucet. Ufuna ukuba avuke ngoku kwaye enze yonke into, kwaye unokuthi akhathele, okanye akanakho ukukhathazeka. Musa ukunyanzelisa. Makhe azalise isicelo sakho xa unethuba kwaye unqwenela.
- Ukuze angabhubhisi ubuhlobo obuyinkimbinkimbi nomyeni wakhe, phatha konke kulula. Ukususela kwinto yokuba ukhathazekile, isitya se-toilet asikwazi ukulungiswa ngokwaso, kwaye inkunkuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko iya kuhlala iintsuku ezimbalwa. Kule minyaka, abafazi basetyenziswe kwinto yokuba indoda iguqula "izinto ezinjalo" ixesha elide, ukuba ayicasuli.
- Ukuba umntu usenokugqiba ukwenza into ethile, ungaphazamisi iingcebiso kunye neziphakamiso zakhe. Kulungile ukuya kwelinye igumbi, kwaye umyeni makawugqibe umsebenzi. Kungcono ngoko ke ukuba awuyithandi, zizenzele.
- Ukuba unobungozi obubi kunye nomyeni wakho ohlala uxabana, zama ukungahlambalazi. Uya kuxolelana, kwaye ukuhlambalaza kumazwi akho kuya kuhlala, kwaye kuya kuhlanganiselwa iminyaka emininzi, kwaye kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kuba nemiphumo engafanelekiyo.
- Ukungathembeki kwakho kuyisizathu esibalulekileyo sokunciphisa ubuhlobo. Musa ukuya kuhlaziswa, ukunyuka kwifowuni yakhe, ufunde i-imeyile yakhe, njl njl. Khumbula ukuba umona wakho ubangelwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngokungakhuselekanga kwakho, kungekhona ngento yokuba umyeni wakho unikeza izihlandlo, ezithintekayo kwiimeko ezininzi.
- Musa ukuthula xa ungathandi into. Ubuhlobo obuhle nomyeni wakhe kuphela phakathi kwala mabhinqa abangesabi ukuthetha naye ngeengxaki.
Wenza into engeyiyo - mxelela ngaye. Ukuthula ubeka umngcipheko phezu kwakhe isikhalazo sezikhalazo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kulandelwa yinto yokuhlambalaza.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni. Ngaphambi kokuba uthandane nomntu wakho nazo zonke iimpazamo zakhe, zifunde ukuzithandayo. Emva komfazi onelisekile kwaye othembekileyo, naluphi na okhethiweyo unokuphumelela njengentyantyambo ephesheya kwezilwandle. Indoda iqala ukukholelwa kuye, ukuba eceleni kwayo ibhinqa elikholelwa kuye. Khumbula oku kwaye usebenze nzima ukukhusela ingxabano nokungaqondani kwintsapho yakho. Kwaye ke awuyi kuvuka nombuzo wendlela yokuziphatha nomyeni wakho.