Ukuqhathaniswa kusoloko kushiya i-aftertaste engathandekiyo, nokuba kwakunokwenzeka ukubaleka ngendlela ephucukileyo, kwaye zombini amaqabane ayenjalo nje ngesigqibo esinjalo. Kodwa oku akusoloko kwenzeka, kwenzeka ukuba uqhawulo lomtshato lwenzeka, kwaye uthando aluzange luhambe. Kwenzeka njani kulo mzekelo ukulibala umyeni wangaphambili?
Ungayikhohlwa njani into eyayithandekayo: iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Bonke abanqwenela ukwazi ukuyilibala indoda yangaphambili, kufuneka ukhumbule into enye - ukufihla imvakalelo yakho, ukuhlangabezana nezikhalazo zakho, awuyi kuwufeza, yenza ukuba uxinzelelo lusebenze. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uxelele onke amava akho kumhlobo wakho omhle okanye onguchwepheshe. Kakade ke, kulungele ukufaka isicelo kwisazi sezengqondo - uya kuphulaphula nokucebisa indlela yokulibala umthandi wakhe, uya kuthi.
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba ungayikhohlwa njani indoda yakho oyithandayo? Le nto yinto engento, uvimba intloko yakho ngalo mbuzo. Ukuba uhlala ucinga ngako, hlalutya konke okwenzekile kuwe, ngoko awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Kungcono ukuthatha intloko yakho nezandla ngumsebenzi onomdla - umsebenzi okanye ixesha elide elililiweyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngenxa yobomi bentsapho, kwafuneka ulahle ezinye zezinto zokuzonwabisa.
- Ukukhawuleza ukulibala umyeni osusiweyo, mnandi. Kungaba njengokundwendwela iimyuziyam kunye nemibukiso, okanye ukudibana nabahlobo kwi-cafe okanye kwiklabhu - khetha oko kukufuphi kuwe. Zama ukufumana izinto ezininzi ezinokubhokoxa, mhlawumbi okokuqala kuya kufuneka wenze "Andikwazi". Kodwa musa ukuyeka, kufuneka uphume kweli thuba elidabukisayo, apho wena ngokwakho uhoxisa ukuzisola ngexesha elidlulileyo.
- Abasetyhini abaninzi abazi indlela yokulibala umyeni emva kokuqhawula umtshato ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukuvumela umntu wabo owayengumntu ngokwakhe, ecinga ukuba unokuhlaziya ubudlelwane. Le ndlela ayilunganga ngokupheleleyo. Ewe, ukuzama ukugcina intsapho iyimfuneko, kodwa kufuneka wenze oku ngaphambi komtshato. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba isigqibo senziwe ukuba sishiye, kufuneka uqinisekise ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba akuyi kubakho ukubuyela emuva, kwaye ukuphosa ngaphandle kwentloko yakho yonke imizamo yokudibanisa nomntu osekude naye. Kakade ke, kukho iimeko xa abaqhawule umtshato baqala ukuthetha emva kokuqhawula umtshato kwaye emva kwexesha baphinde bazibophelele ngokubambisana komtshato. Kodwa ungacingi ukuba oku kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza emva kokufumana isatifiketi somtshato, ngeli xesha le nqwenela ukubuya yonke into ibangelwa ngumkhwa kunye nentukuthelo. Musa ukuzithoba kule miva. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukuba uqale uqhagamshelwano nomyeni owayengumyeni kuphela ukuba emva kweenyanga ezintandathu emva kokuqhawula umtshato uyaziva ukuba unjalo.
- Naluphi na umtshato ongathandekiyo, kwaye xa uqala ukufumanisa ubuhlobo emva koko, ubeka ingozi ngakumbi kwimeko yakho. Ngoko ke, emva kokuhlukana nokuhlambalaza, ukujonga ukuba ubani omele ngakumbi ukusola oko kwenzekayo kunye nokuzisa iingxabano ekukhuseleni kwabo akusayikufaneleka. Konke oku kwakukho ngaphambi kokuba uqhawule umtshato, kwaye emva kokuthatha isigqibo sokugqibela ngokuhlukana, ukuxhatshaliswa kwentsapho akusenzi kakuhle. Awutshintshi nantoni na, kwaye iimbilini zakho ziya kutshabalaliswa ngokupheleleyo.
- Ukuhlala ixesha elide kunye nendoda kwelinye lawa phantsi ukuba ambulale kumbomi wakhe akunakwenzeka, ngoko ke iinzame, ukuba kungenjalo ukubuyisela ubudlelwane, ngoko ubuncinane bengazi ngobomi bakhe. Apha akufanelekanga ukwenza, kutheni ungakhathazeki namanxeba? Ukuba akukho bantwana abaqhelekileyo, kufuneka unqume bonke oonxibelelwano - cima iinombolo zeefowuni, idilesi ze-imeyile, njl. Ukuba abantwana bafumaneke, ukuthetha nomyeni wangaphambili kufuneka kuncitshiswe kumgangatho ophantsi. Uyeke ukubiza ikhasi lakhe lezonxibelelwano.
- Iimvoveli ezintsha zingakunceda ukulibala umyeni wakho wangaphambili, kodwa kufuneka uphathwe ngononophelo. Endaweni yokunceda, musa ukukhungatheka. Ukuqala ukudibana "nantoni na nabani na" kuphela ngenxa yokwesaba ukulondeka, wena, mhlawumbi, awufumani iimvakalelo ezintle.
- Ukulibala nokuyeka konke ukulimala okwenziwe omnye komnye, ungasebenzisa ezi ndlela ezilandelayo. Jonga le meko njengesifundo sobomi rhoqo. Cinga ngeento zonke eziphosakeleyo umyeni wakho awenze ngazo, njengendlela yokukufundisa into ethile. Ewe, izifundo zazinzima, kodwa wazifunda. Ndiyabulela umfazi wakho wangaphambili kwisayensi kwaye uqale ukuwunqoba iindwangu ezintsha!