Ngelishwa, ukutshatyalaliswa komntu othandekayo akuyona into ebunqabileyo, eyenzeka iminyaka emininzi emva komtshato, kwaye emva nje komtshato . Abasetyhini basabela ngokungafaniyo nokungcatshiswa okunjalo, umntu, ngaphandle kokuchaza igama, uyathumela umtshato, umntu uwela kwixinzelelo oluqinileyo, nokuba lunokuba yimbangela yokuzibulala, kwaye umntu uzama ukuxolela umlingane wakhe, tk. alubhekiseli ubomi ngaphandle kwalo. Siza kuzama ukufumana indlela yokuxolela ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni kwaye siphile ngaphandle kokujonga emva kwexesha elidlulileyo kwaye singakhumbuli intlungu nokudumala.
Indlela yokuziphatha emva kokungcatsha komyeni wakhe?
Ngaphambi kokuba uxolele intanda yakho ngokumngcatsha, ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uzinqume ukuba ulungele ukuhlala naye. Emva koko, kunzima kakhulu kwaye akukho mfazi ngamnye owaziyo ukuziphatha emva kokungcatsha kwendoda yakhe, nokuba ingaba nako ukulibala ukuba indoda yakhe, nangona iimbophe zomtshato, iya kwenye. Ewe, unako ukuzama ukubuyisela ubudlelwane, umzekelo, ngenxa yabantwana okanye ukuba wena nomyeni wakho nithandana ngokwenene, kwaye ukukrexeza kwakuyindoda yesikhashana nje.
Abaninzi abafazi abazikhohlisayo abaqondi indlela umntu angaphila ngayo ukutshatyalaliswa komntu othandekayo aze abuyisele ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nomyeni wakhe; ngoko ke, ukuze ngandlela-thile uvelise ubomi emva kokungcatsha kweqabane lakho, laphula ezi ngcebiso:
- Musa ukuxelela iintombi zakho, kwaye ngakumbi nangakumbi ngezihlobo malunga nokungcatsha komyeni wakhe . Nangona uxolela intanda yakho, intombazana yakho iya kukukhumbula ukuba ukopela umlingane, kwaye emehlweni eentsapho, uya kuhlala engumrhweba ngonaphakade kwaye ulwalamano phakathi kwabo, okwenene, aluyi kufana.
- Musa ukubuza umyeni wakho malunga neenkcukacha zakhe, akayi kwenza okulungileyo kuwe okanye naye.
- Ungazami ukumlandela, qhosela i-fowuni yakhe, njl njl., Zama ukuthembela kumlingane, nangona emva koko
Oku akunakwenzeka, kodwa ubuncinane wenze sengathi awukhathazeki nonke. - Thetha nomyeni wakho, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza kunye neinyembezi, phu laphula iingcaciso zakhe, mhlawumbi uya kuqonda ukuba kutheni wenza oku.
- Zama ukudlulisa ixesha elithile kwindlela obonakala ngayo, yenza iswele, ubalekele ngesambatho esidala sasekhaya uze udibane nomyeni kuyo yonke inkazimulo.
- Inxalenye eyona nzima kunesondo, kuba uya kucinga ukuba umyeni wakho umele inkosikazi yakhe yangaphambili. Kule meko, unokunceda ukuphumla okuthandanayo, umzekelo, uchithe iiveki ezimbalwa ndawonye elwandle.