Namhlanje, abahlali basezidolophini ezinkulu, abantu abakhayo ngokukhawuleza umsebenzi, baqhubeka becinga malunga nolwalamano oluhlukeneyo, njengemitshato yokuvakasha. Kodwa yintoni umtshato wesityezelo?
Kwakhona kuthiwa yi-extraterritorial, oko kukuthi, abatshatileyo bahlala kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo, ukudibana kwinqweno yomtshato. Kwakhona kunokwenzeka ukubamba ikhefu zendibano, iiholide, kungekudala ukuhlala kunye, kodwa ngelo xesha abafazi abenzi umzi oqhelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, abatshatileyo bakhululwe kunye kunye kunye neentlawulo zentsapho, kodwa ngokungafani nobudlelwane obukhululekile, umtshato weendwendwe usho ukunyaniseka kwamaqela, kwaye kukho isitampu kwipaspoti.
Iimpawu zobomi kumtshato wesityezelo
Umtshato wesigodlo ngokuqhelekileyo xa indoda nomfazi esizayo ngabantu abafanelekileyo kwaye bazimeleyo kwaye abafuni ukulahlekelwa yinkululeko kubo bonke. Ukongezelela, abaxhasi bemitshato yokuvakasha bakholelwa ukuba ukuhlala ngokukhawuleza kwexesha elide kubulala imizwa kunye nokuthandana, kwaye amaqabane awahloneli kwaye ayanelise ngokupheleleyo. Yonke into emtshatweni womtshato ingagwenywa - abatshatileyo babonakala kuphela ngomnqweno kunye kunye neengxaki zabo zemihla ngemihla azikhathaleli. Ziziphi iingenelo zokuba nomtshato weendwendwe?
- akukho mihla ngemihla;
- akukho mntu umda kumntu ngexesha lokuzonwabisa, kukho isikhala esikhulu semali kunye nesikhathi;
- akukho kwaye akukho nto ingabakho ulawulo "wawuphi na", "kutheni uhlala ixesha elide kunye nabahlobo bakho" njalo njalo;
- akukho mfuneko yokunyamekela omnye umntu, ukulungelelanisa nemikhwa yakhe;
- Ukungabi nolwazi lwentlalo yeentlanga kwenza amaqabane ahlale efuna omnye nomnye, kwaye isondo asiyinto eqhelekileyo.
Ulwalamano lweendwendwe luvame ukhethwa ngabantu abadala, abafuna indawo yokukhulula, njengomoya, okanye abo bahamba rhoqo. Kwabanye abantu, umtshato wesityezelo ungaguqulela ubuninzi bezinto ezinzima. Ngokomzekelo, ulwalamano olunjalo lunokwenzeka kuphela xa umfazi weendwendwe kunye nendoda bebutyebi abanempilo, bengenazo iingxaki ezikhoyo kuluntu. Emva kwakho konke, izingozi zomtshato zendwendwe eziwela ngaphandle ekudakaleni okuthe ngqo kwimeko yezemali enye yeqabane. Kwakhona, akakwazi ukumelana nezifo okanye ukungonakaliswa kwimiqathango yesini. Emtshatweni womninimzi wemimiselo ekhethekileyo, amaqabane angenawo phambi komnye nomnye, kwaye xa umntu eyeka ukulungiselela into ethile, ubuhlobo buphela ngaphandle kwengxoxo engadingekile.
Iingcali zengqondo aziboni ukuba lolu hlobo lomtshato lube lukhulu - ininzi yabo ibiza ulwalamano olulolo hlobo. Ngenxa yokuba izibini ezinjalo zidlala ubomi bentsapho, zingabi nzima ukuzinikela komnye umntu. Ngaloo ndlela, intsapho ithatyathelwa yinto ephantsi. Kodwa kukho uluvo lokuba imitshato yokundwendwela inelungelo lokuba khona, nangona kunjalo, nje kuphela. Emva koko, ukuba umntu akakwazi ukuvumela omnye kummandla wakhe, kuthetha ukuba ukhangele okulungileyo, mhlawumbi ukhetho olungcono. Kodwa ke, akunakuphikiswa ukuba imitshato yokuvakasha, ngelixa ijolise ekudaleni induduzo enkulu kubini abalingani, kodwa ingaba nexesha elinzima, ngakumbi ukuba le nto ibini icinga ngaba bantwana.
Abantwana kwimitshato yomtshato
Umtshato weendwendwe awubandakanyi ukubukeka kwabantwana, kodwa ukuzalwa kwabo kudla ngokucwangciswa ngeso sibini. Iphakamisa abantwana okanye umntu ophethe inyathelo yokubonakala kwawo, okanye isibini sithatha uxanduva, nangona ekuqaleni umama uya kunyamekela umntwana. Kodwa ubuninzi bexesha lokukhulelwa liwela ngokupheleleyo kumagxa omama, utata uthatha inxaxheba ebambini ebomini babantwana - uhlobo lootata lomhla.
Imitshato yeendwendwe, ngokuqinisekileyo, inezinzuzo zayo, kodwa kubonakala ngathi abanakuze bathathe indawo yentsapho epheleleyo-ufuna ukufumana umntu ohlala kuyo yonke imihla, kwaye ngenxa yoko unokubingelela iqela lokuthuthuzela.