Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba kukho a bafazi kwihlabathi ababenenhlanhla ngokwaneleyo ukuba bathande umkhwekazi ekubonweni kokuqala. Kodwa, maye, akukho zininzi ezinjalo. Into eqhelekileyo yimfazwe phakathi komalokazana nomkhwekazi. Kodwa unokuyiphepha le mfazwe ukuba uyakwazi ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye noninazala.
- Kuya kulungiswa ukuqonda kwimibutho yokuqala . Kwenzeka ukuba intombazana ethile kwindawo ejulile yentliziyo yakhe ixhalabile kwaye iyamoyika ukumazana. Kodwa musa ukwenza oku. Kwingqondo yezobudlelwane kunye noninazala kunconywa ukuba uhlale uhlale unyanisekileyo. Ngomfana oselula, kubalulekile ukuba umfazi athande unina. Musa ukugweba uninazala kamva kokuqala kokujonga, kwaye izenzo zakhe nezigwebo akufanele zithatyathwe. Ngaphambi kokuba uye kwintlanganiso, kulungile ukuba ufunde kabanzi malunga nonina womyeni wakho kunye nokukhetha kwakhe.
- Yenza uxolo ekhaya . Xa ungena kwintsapho yomnye umntu, kufuneka ujongane nezinto ezingaqhelekanga. Ngokomzekelo, umkhwekazi uthanda ukupheka i-borski kwindawo yokupanda okanye ukomisa iingaphantsi kweengubo kwibhetri kwigumbi eliqhelekileyo. Kunzima kakhulu ukusebenzisa izinto ezintsha kunye nendlela yokuphila. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kusekwintsimi yayo, kwaye kungekhona ngokuthe ngqo, kuba umama-mkhwenkwe ujwayele indlela enjalo yobomi. Kubalulekile ukudibanisa nokumbonisa intlonipho yakho.
Indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane noninazala emva kokuxabana?
Ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi kwentombi nomkhwekazi, kuvela iingxabano. Ungathini na kule meko kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuba unyokokazi wakho unobungozi obubi.
Umalokazana kufuneka abe nomonde nobulumko , ukuze ukuxabana nokungahambisani rhoqo kungabangela ukuba umtshato uqhawule umtshato ngenxa yomkhwekazi. Kubalulekile ukubonisa inhlonipho ngamava omlingane, ukumbulela ngokukhuliswa kakuhle kwonyana wakhe, obangela ubomi obonwabileyo. Xa uxoxisana nomama-mkhwenkwe kunconywa ukuba ungasebenzisi itoni eyongeziweyo, kodwa ukuthetha ngokuzithemba nangokuzinzileyo.