Ukunxibelelana kunzima ukucinga ngaphandle kweengxabano, ezihlukeneyo kwimvelo kwaye ngelo xesha izigaba zazo zinemibono ebalulekileyo ukusuka komnye nomnye. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uphile ngaphandle kokulimaza impilo yakho, xa uhlala uxabana nomntu, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuba wazi ukuba izigaba zokusombulula ingxabano ziphi.
Izigaba eziphambili zokuphuhliswa kwemibango
1. Isigaba esingaphambili kwimvelaphi yokungavumelani. Ingquzulwano ivelisa into efanayo ... ingxabano. Okokugqibela ingxabano phakathi kwabadlali, obangelwa uhlobo oluthile lokuphikisana. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ezi zilandelayo azikho kwiziphumo zengxabano. Oku kudala kuphela ezo ngqubana ezidibanayo, nangona kungazi kakuhle, njengento engahambelaniyo neminqweno yabo, imibono, imigaqo kunye nombono we-interlocutor.
Ngoko, ingxabano ephakamileyo yimeko yengqondo yabantu kwaye ekubeni inomntu ofihliweyo, ibhekiselwa njengezinga lokungqubuzana kolunye uhlobo. Icandelo eliphambili lingenelisekile ngolu hlobo lwemicimbi okanye, umzekelo, uphuhliso lweemeko ezikhoyo. Oku kubangela ukwanda kwinqanaba lexinzelelo. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukuxabana okufihliweyo ngaphakathi wonke umntu ujika ngokubambisana nomnye umntu. Ngaloo nto, iguqulwa ibe yintlupheko evulekileyo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela into enye: imeko yongquzulwano ingaba ngaphandle kokuthunyelwa kwenye into (ingxabano). Ukufezekisa olu tshintsho kufuna ukungenelelo kwimeko ethile, izenzo kwixesha leziganeko. Esi siganeko singenziwa ngengozi, okanye sakhiwe ngokukodwa. Akukhankanywe ukuba umntu wesithathu unokuyidala, engenzi inxaxheba kwimpikiswano.
Kwimeko yangoku, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuphuhliswa kwexesha elizayo:
- isiganeko esithile sisigxina sokuqala kobambano oluvulekile;
- Bobabini intshaba okanye omnye wabo ufuna ukucima umlilo wokuphikisana;
- Omnye wabathathi-nxaxheba kwimpikiswano uyamshiya, ezenza ngathi akukho nto iyenzeka.
2. Ukuxabana kumntu. Ngexesha leli nqanaba, amaqela aphikisanayo angatshintsha iimbono zabo, zombini ngokwabo kunye nekhono lomdlali. Njengomphumo wezinto ezintsha, ezivela ngexesha lokungavumelani, uhlaziyo oluthile lwexabiso lwenzeka. Itshintsha amaqhinga omabini omabili, ukuziphatha kwabo. Abantu abaphikisanayo baqala ukufumana iindlela zokuphuma kwimeko. Lo mzuzu ubonisa ukuqala kwexesha lokugqibela, utshintsho kwisigaba sesithathu.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba isigaba sokuphuhliswa kwemibango singaphuhlisa ngendlela elandelayo:
- Ingxabano ikhula ibe yimfazwe yehlabathi apho amabini omabini athatha iindlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nemigudu, ngelixa bengacingi ukuba kubalulekile ukukhangela izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokungqubana;
- Ubume bendawo yokuphuhliswa kweemeko, abaphikisanayo benza imizamo yokuqala yokusebenzisa amandla;
- Ingxabano iquka ezintsha zonke iindlela zokulwa.
3. Isigaba sokugqiba. Eli nqanaba liquka kokubambisana kunye nokwenza izivumelwano,
Izindlela ezikhoyo zokusombulula ingxabano:
- Abaphikisanayo baqalisa ukuzalisekisa uxanduva lwabo;
- uqonda imbambano ekhoyo;
- izivumelwano ezifikelelweyo zibhalwe;
- zonke iintlobo zesisombululo ziphandwa.