Iingcamango zivame ukubonakalisa iiminqweno zethu, iziganeko eziza kusasaza, zibonisa iimbonakalo zemihla edluleyo, zityhila iingcamango neemvakalelo zethu. Ephupheni isicatshulwa salo nawuphi na umntu uhlalutya iziganeko ezenzeka ngexesha elithile, ngoko sihlala sibona abantu besondele. Abaninzi abafazi banomdla kwizinto ozithandayo onokukuphupha ngazo, nokuba kulungile okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, iphupha elinjalo linenani elibi.
Indoda ethandekayo iphupha ngayo?
Ngoko ke, ukuba ephupheni intanda yakho inokuthiwa ngegama, ngoko uyazi ukuba usoloko ucinga, cwaka, okhethiweyo uzive evelele kwaye efudumeleyo. Ewe, ukuba umntu uchazwa ngothando ephupheni, oko kukulungele ukuba uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala kwaye "uphendule" wakho umthandayo ukuvuma ebomini bokwenene, ngenxa yokuba iphupha elinjalo lithetha ukuba umncinci uyaxhala ukuba unako ukulahlwa.
Iphupha apho wena nothando lwakho luthanda khona uthando, ukuxhamla ubudlelwane obungapheli kunye obude phakathi kwakho. Ukuba umntu ukunika izipho ephupheni, kufuneka ulindele umboniso ngobomi bokwenene.
Ukuba ubalekela kumthandi ephupheni, mhlawumbi unokukhathazeka ngokungathandabuzeki kunye nokukhathazeka, mhlawumbi kufuneka uphumule umncinane kwaye unqamle ukudibana kunye nalo mfana isikhashana ukuze ubone ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka naye. Ephupheni umntu wathumela isithombe sakhe, ngoko uyazi, awunandaba naye.
Ukuba unomdla kwizinto eziphikisanayo nomntu oyithandayo, oko kuthetha ukuba, mhlawumbi, uya kubeka inxaxheba, ukuba ingxabano ivela kwiibhanki zomlambo, ukwahlukana kuya kuba nzima, uya kuchitha iindwangu ezininzi. Kwakhona, ukuphuka kunye nentanda yakho ibonisa iphupha apho wena kunye nentombazana yakho nidla kunye.
Ukuba sithetha ngento ephuphayo yindoda ebunxilayo, ngoko-ke kwiphupha elinjalo akufanele alindele into enhle, ubonisa iingxaki ezizayo, izifo, iingxaki zeentsapho . Kwakhona, iphupha elinjalo lingalumkisa ukuba umthandayo ungumntu ongenakulinganisela, okwazi ukwenza izinto ezimbi.
Kutheni uphupha ukukhashelwa komntu othandekayo?
Ukuba unalo iphupha apho indoda yakho ikopela kuwe, ulinde ingxaki, kunokufuneka ujongane nobunzima bodwa.
Ukuba umntu okhethiweyo ungumthandi kwaye akayena mlingane osemthethweni, kwaye ephupheni ubonile umfazi wendoda yakho ethandekayo, mhlawumbi unomdla kakhulu kwinto enokuphupha ngayo. Njengomthetho, iphupha elinjalo lithetha ukuba ukuxhamla kwakho sele kutyhilwa okanye kungekudala yonke into iza kwaziwa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umfazi womthandi wakho umi ngasecaleni kwaye ekukujongeni nje, ngoko ebomini akayi kukukhathaza, kodwa ukuba uhlazo lulungiswe, alukwazi ukuphetshwa ngokwenene.