Isebe elitsha lezesengqondweni zentlalo yilo wesini, lubona ukusebenzisana ngesini, ukufana kwazo, ukuziphatha okuthile kuluntu, kunye neminye imiba. Ulwahlulo lwama-anatomiki phakathi kwabantu aludlali nxaxheba na apha. Olu lathiso lunceda ukuqonda kangcono i-psychology yamadoda nabasetyhini kunye nolwalamano oluphuhlisayo phakathi kwabo.
Ithini isini?
Ixesha lavela kwiNgesi. ngokwesini - "isini", "isini". Kwaqaliswa ngawo-1950 ngu-American Maniologist John Mani. Ingcamango yesini kwisingqo sengqondo ichaza iingcamango zentlalo yabasetyhini kunye namadoda, zonke iimpawu umntu azibonakalisela ngethuba eluntwini. Unokuba nobulili besilisa nabesifazana, kodwa oku akunjalo umda. Ngokomzekelo, eThailand, kukho iintlobo ezintlanu zesini: iintlobo zobungqingili, isini esinikwa ngokwesini, isondo lesithathu "katoy" kunye neentlobo ezimbini zobungqingili besini, ezibonakala zibafazi kunye nobufana. Ubundlobongela bezesini kunye ne-biological mayingalingani.
Zesini kunye nesini
Ezi ngcamango zombini zibonisa ukwahlula kwabo bonke abantu kumaqela amabini: amadoda kunye nabasetyhini. Ngokuguqulela kwangempela, imilinganiselo ilingana kwaye ngamanye amaxesha isetyenziswe njengesiqhagamshelo. Nangona kunjalo, ekuqaleni ezi ngcamango ziyachasana. Ukwahluke phakathi kobulili kunye nesini kunjengale ndlela: owokuqala uhambelana ne-biological, kwaye okwesibini kulwahlulo lwentlalo yabantu. Ukuba isondo somntu sinqunywe ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe ngeempawu ze-anatomical kwaye akuxhomekeke kwimeko kunye nenkcubeko, ubulili-isondo-yentlalo-nxu lumene neenkqubo ezipheleleyo malunga nokuziphatha kuluntu.
Ubume boBume
Njengomphumo wokunxibelelana nabanye abantu nemfundo, umntu uyazi ukuba ungumntu othile. Emva koko siyakwazi ukuthetha ngohlobo lwesini. Sekuyiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu umntwana uyayibona, intombazana yona okanye inkwenkwe, iqala ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo, ukubeka iingubo "zokunene" ngemigangatho yakhe njalo njalo. Kuza ukuqonda ukuba ubume bobulili sisigxina kwaye asinakuguquka ngexesha. Ubulili luhlala lukhethiweyo, olufanelekileyo okanye olungalunganga.
Ubulili lithetha intsingiselo yesini kunye nolawulo olulandelayo lwaloo migaqo abantu abayilindele kuluntu. Yiyo le ngcamango, kwaye ayiyiyo isini, echaza iziganeko zengqondo, izakhono, iimpawu, iintlobo zomsebenzi. Yonke le miba ilawulwa ngokwemimiselo yomthetho kunye nemithetho, izithethe, amasiko kunye nenkqubo yokukhuliswa.
Uphuhliso lwesini
Kwizengqondo zezesini, iinkalo ezimbini zikhethiweyo: i-psychology yesini kunye nokuphuhliswa kobuntu. Le nkalo ibonelelwe ngesini somntu ngamnye. Ekuphuhlisweni komntu womntu, iindawo ezikufutshane (abazali, izalamane, ootitshala, abahlobo) bathatha inxaxheba ngqo. Umntwana uzama kwiindima zesini, ufunda ukuba ngumfazi okanye umntu, kumzekelo wabantu abadala bafunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabantu bobulili obuhlukile. Kumntu kumagangatho ahlukeneyo, iimpawu zesini zesibini ziyakwazi ukuzibonakalisa.
Ubulili kwengqondo kubaluleke kakhulu obulunga ubudlelwane boluntu. Kodwa kunye nezinto ezizinzileyo kuwo ziyakwazi ukuguquleka. Kwizizukulwana ezahlukileyo, i-social strata, unqulo, amahlanga kunye namasiko, inxaxheba yindoda kunye nomfazi inokuhluka. Imithetho esemthethweni neyiyo kunye neenkqubo ezikhoyo kuluntu utshintsho ngexesha.
Ingqondo yezobudlelwane besini kwintsapho
Isini sengqondo sengqondo sibeka ingqwalasela enkulu ekuhloliseni ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqela ezesini kunye nabadlali bezesondo ezahlukeneyo. Ubona into ebalulekileyo ebomini njengesikhungo somtshato kunye nosapho. Ingqondo yezobudlelwane besini kwintsapho ibonisa indlela yokuziphatha:
- Ukubambisana, apho yonke imisebenzi kwintsapho ayinalo ulwahlulo oluqinileyo, abafazi bahlula ngokulinganayo, izigqibo zithathwa kunye.
- Kuxhomekeke kunene, apho omnye wabafazi abadlala indima ebalulekileyo, wenza izigqibo kwimicimbi yemihla ngemihla. Ngokuqhelekileyo le nxaxheba iya kumfazi wayo.
Imiba yesini
Ukungafani nokuziphatha kwabantu abatshatileyo kunokukhokelela ekuchaseni, kokubambisana, kubambisana kunye nokudibanisa. Iingcamango zesini zengqungquthela yokuziphatha ephazamisa uluvo lwabameli bobabini ngesini. Baqhubela abantu kwisakhelo esincinci semithetho baze babeke umzekelo othile wokuziphatha, baveze indlela yokucalulwa kwaye bahlobene ngokuthe ngqo. Le ngxaki kwiingxaki ezithile, ezibandakanya ubulili:
- ukungalingani (amathuba ahlukeneyo emphakathini kumaqela ahlukeneyo);
- uxinzelelo lwezesini (ubunzima bokugcina indima efunekayo);
- ngcamango;
- calulo.
Iingxabano zesini
Abantu baqonda ngokuhlukileyo ixabiso lesini kunye neendima. Xa kukho ukungquzulana kwezinto ezithandwa ngumntu kunye nemimiselo eyamkelwe, kukho ukungavumelani okukhulu. Umntu akafuni okanye akanako ukuhambelana nezicwangciso ezitshiwo kuye kuluntu kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini. Ngokuqhelekileyo, i-psychology yezesini ijonga i-psychology njengentlalo. Zisekelwe kwimzabalazo yazo. Ukususela kwimbono yobudlelwane obuncinci phakathi kwabantu, iingxabano ziyaxabana phakathi kwabantu. Okuqhelekileyo kuzo zivela kwintsapho kunye necandelo lobugcisa.
Ukucalulwa kwezesini
Enye yeengxaki ezinzima kakhulu kwezobudlelwane ngokwesini ngokokucalulwa kwezesini , owaziwa ngesondo. Kule meko, enye yesini ikhethwa ngaphezu kwesinye. Kukho ukungalingani ngokwesini. Abameli boomabini bobabili banokuxhatshazwa kwintlupheko ebantwini, emthethweni, kwintsapho nakwezinye iindawo, nangona zidla ngokuba ziphulwa ngamalungelo amabhinqa. Inzame yokufezekisa ukulingana "nobulili obuqinileyo" yazala loo mbono njengowesifazane.
Le ndlela ye-sexism ivulekile, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ifihlakele, kuba ukubonakaliswa kwayo kubonakale nemiphumo kwimibandela yezopolitiko kunye noluntu. Ifom evulekileyo ingaba:
- ngahoywa;
- ukuthotywa;
- ukunyaniseka;
- imiqondiso eyahlukileyo eyahlukeneyo malunga nabantu besini esahlukileyo.
Ubulili ngokwesini
Ukungalingani ngokwesini kunye nokucalulwa kuba sisiseko seengxabano xa umntu enza kakubi ngokumelene nommeli wesini esahlukileyo. Ubundlobongela obusekelwe ngokwesini kukuzama ukubonisa ukuphakama kwesondo. Iintlobo ezine zobundlobongela obunjalo ziyabonwa: ngokwenyama, ngokwengqondo, ngokwesondo nakwezoqoqosho. Omnye-isini-sithintela ngesini-uzama ukubamba amandla ngamandla. Ngokuqhelekileyo inxaxheba yendiza yindoda, kuba uluntu lwangoku aluvakalisi ukubusa kwabafazi.
Ingqondo yesini yinkalo encinane yolwazi lwezesayensi. Uphando lweengqondo kule ndawo lugxile ekufundeni iimpawu zomntu zesini. Iimpumelelo eziphambili zenzululwazi yinkcazo yeendlela zokuziphatha kunye neqhinga ekunqobeni izisombululo zesini . Ngoko, umzekelo, umfazi unako kwaye kufuneka aphumelele kwishishini, kunye nomntu-kwintsimi yentsapho. Izinto ezingabalulekanga, kunye nokugcinwa kweendima ezinqununu zesini kunye nokuphumelela ukuphumelela iingxaki ezikhulayo kunye neengxabano kuvumela ukuba kuthiwa ngumntu okanye umfazi.