Ingxoxo yamadoda ukususela ngexesha elidlulileyo ibangela umdla kubantu abathintekayo ngokwesini esingenamandla, ekhokelela ekufeni ekufeni. Kuthetha ntoni ngabantu? Ewe, ke, ngabafazi, iifilimu, imoto, ezopolitiko, ibhola, imidlalo kunye nokunye. Amadoda afana nokuxhalaba ngokwawo, iingxaki zabo kunye nabanye, bathanda ukuhleba ngamabhinqa ama-pohlesche. Kodwa ngaphezu kwezihloko ezikhankanywe ngasentla, iingxoxo zamadoda angama-middle-middle zixubusha iingxaki zokuba zikhona, ukuba zibalulekile.
Incoko phakathi kwamadoda amabini kunye nencoko phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini imiqondo eyahlukeneyo ayimelekanga kuphela ngezifundo ezahlukeneyo, kodwa nangendlela yokunxibelelana. Ukunxibelelana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi , abameli besini esahlukileyo abanqwenela ukuba bathethe intliziyo yabo ngentliziyo yabo.
Ngamanye amaxesha abaGoli bafumana iinqwelo zezizathu kunye neendlela ukuba ingxoxo ingenziwanga, kuba oku, ngokombono wabo, ngumsebenzi ongeyomfuneko ngokupheleleyo. Intombazana iya kufuna ukuzama ukuyenza le ntombazana ikhulume ngokungathethekiyo.
Ukuchaneka Xoxa nabantu
Le yiphupha eliyinyaniso yowesifazane ngamnye ofuna ukwakha ithemba kunye nokugcina ingxoxo ecacileyo nengqiqo kunye nomlingane wakhe.
Sinikeza indlela encinci okanye kwimiyalelo ephathelele "ukusetyenziswa kwengxoxo engqongqo kunye nomntu":
- Yakha umoya ofanelekileyo kwiingxoxo ezizayo. Ukuba umntu uyaphendula kwiimpawu ze-monosyllabic, ngoko mhlawumbi ulambile okanye unentloko emsebenzini wakhe.
- Musa ukuqala incoko ngegama elithi "Sifuna ukuthetha." Ubangela ukwesaba
abameli besini. - Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuvakalelwa ngokwemvakalelo kunokulimaza umoya wokunxibelelana.
- Ngexesha le ncoko, kufuneka uhlale ubhenela engqondweni yomntu kwaye endaweni yokubuza into aziva ngayo, cela oko akucingayo.
- Gweba ukujonga okufutshane. Amadoda ayenganeliseki ngolu hlobo, kholwa kwam.
Cingisisa le migaqo-siseko kwaye ukhumbule - i- psychology yindoda nomfazi ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, wonke umntu unelungelo lokumthanda nokuxhasa.