"Wandijonga keooo!" Ewe, ucinga nje into enye! Kubonakala kum ukuba uyangithanda. " Uyavumelana, amagama aqhelekileyo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye wethu ubuncinci kanye kanye ebomini bam ubhekisele kwiintetho ezifanayo kwintetho kunye nabahlobo. Ngamanye amaxesha sonke sicinga ukuba umntu wesilisa ulungile kakhulu, kwaye sithetha nabo ngeelwimi ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba i-psychology yabafana ihluke ngokupheleleyo kwintombazana, kwaye ukucinga kwabo akusayi kuze kuhambelane neengcamango zesini. Yintoni enokuyenza, kunye nendlela yokufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye namadoda ethu? Masizame ukuqonda.
Ingqondo yengqondo yabafana - njani ukuyiqonda?
Okokuqala, siqala ukucinga malunga nobudlelwane kunye nokuqala kwasebuntwaneni. Kwaye kulo lonke ixesha, kwaye lihlala kwiminyaka eyi-14 ukuya kweyimi-22, izimvo zobomi ziguquka phantsi kwengcinezelo yeemeko namava. Bonke abantu baneli minyaka yobudala ngabanye. Kodwa kunjalo, kukho iziganeko eziqhelekileyo ezichaphazela wonke umntu.
I-psychology yabantwana abaselula inokwahlukana ngezigaba eziliqela. Bonke baxhomekeke kwiminyaka kunye nezidingo ezikhokelayo kuloo mzuzu kwaye, ngokungangabazeki, zichaphazela ubudlelwane namantombazana.
I-Psychology yabafana kwiminyaka eyi-14. Eli lixesha kunzima kakhulu ukuqala nayiphi na ubudlelwane. Umxholo wothando kumadoda udidekile kunye nesimo sengqondo socansi. Kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba amantombazana kule minyaka anesimo sengqondo sobudlelwane bokuthandana ngothando, kwiimeko ezininzi ubudlelwane buphela kunye nenkolelo yeklasi yokuba "bafuna kuphela."
I-Psychology yamakhwenkwe kwiminyaka eyi-16-17. Eli xesha liyamangalisa kuba abaninzi bafana sele sele bathethe isigqibo kwiimvakalelo zabo kunye neembono zehlabathi. Eli lixesha lothando oluqinileyo nolumhlophe. Ukuqhotyoshelwa kwintombazana kwintombazana kuphezulu kakhulu kwaye nayiphi na ukupheliswa kolwalamano oluqaliswe yintombazana inokuba yintlungu engqondweni yomntu. Kodwa kwakhona, musa ukulibala malunga nolunye uhlobo lwesibini lwabantu abasesetyenzisweni zabo. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba intombazana yakho inxibelelana nentombi yakho enomdla ofanayo njengoko akwenzayo nawe, okanye uhlala ufumana abantu abatsha, kufuneka uqikelele, kodwa awunayo into enxulumene nendoda yamakhosikazi?
I-Psychology yabafana kwiminyaka eyi-18-20. Le minyaka ukuya kwinqanaba elifanayo kwezo zesini lidibene nokukhethwa kobugcisa kunye nencazelo yendawo yomntu ebomini. Ubuntu babantu ngokuqhelekileyo sele benziwe, kwaye bacinga ngokucacileyo ikamva labo. Apha ungakwazi ukudibana neentlobo ezininzi zabantu abatsha:
- Uhlobo lokuqala lwezinto zonke ezinomdla ngaphandle kwamantombazana. Njengomthetho, aba ngabafana, abaxhonywe ngemisebenzi, imoto okanye abahlobo. Ukuba uthe wadibana nalo hlobo, ngoko uyazi ukuba "akazange ahambe", okanye ngokuphambene naso, ebomini bakhe kwakukho ubuhlobo obunokutshisa;
- uhlobo lwesibini lwabafana, ngokuchaseneyo, luyakulungiswa kwiindawo ezibuthathaka. Abantu abanjalo bavulekile kakhulu kwiinkampani, banamabhongo amaninzi, kwaye musa ukunqumla i skirt enye. Kwaye amantombazana anabo bantu banempumelelo enkulu. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula - i-psychology yokuziphatha kwabafana bolu hlobo lukho ubukho beengxube zeengxaki kunye nomnqweno wokuzimela;
- Ngolunye uhlobo lwesithathu lwabafana, inkolelo eyaziwayo yamakhosikazi yokuba "bonke abantu abalungileyo sele behlala" benziwa. Bayizizwe ezizimeleyo ezithatha ubudlelwane babo kwaye zihloniphe intanda yabo. Imfihlelo yokubukeka kwalaba bantu ilula - ininzi apha ixhomekeke kwintombazana ngokwayo. Yintoni okufuneka uyenze ukuze ufumane lo mntu? Masiqonde ngakumbi.
I-Psychology yabasetyhini ubudlelwane
Ekubeni sithetha ngeengcamango zesintu, masikuphelise zonke iimbali ezithandwa ngothando ngengqondo yabesifazane. Abafana abanakuze bacinge ngathi. Ukuba ufuna ukuqonda umfana wakho, funda ukucinga lula. Ukucinga iingxaki ezahlukahlukeneyo, ukwethuka ukususela ekuqaleni, udwebe imifanekiso enyantisayo yokungcatsha entloko emva kokuba umfana owayeza edolophini ngumntu ongenamkelo. Amadoda acinga ngokuhlukileyo. Abakhathaleli ukuba kwimeko yomntu othile unesifungo esifana naye, abazange bavelele ngenxa yekhanda labo, umqubo womzimba, ulusu olomileyo lobuso kunye neenkulungwane zeengxaki ezincinci zeentombi. Ukuba ufuna indoda efanelekileyo kufuphi nawe, khumbula imithetho embalwa elula:
- madoda njengamehlo. Ngesizathu esithile, abantu abaninzi bayalilibala ngale nyaniso. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba lihle kangakanani ilizwe lakho elingaphakathi, ukubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu. Akuyimfuneko ukuba ibe mnandi. Yazi nje ukuzijonga kwaye uzibonele kakuhle;
- kumadoda ashawa aya kuhlala efana namakhwenkwe amancinci, kuphela amathoyizi aneminyaka yobudala aya kuqina. Ngoko ke, abahlobo, iimoto kunye nabanye ubuthathaka babantu baya kuhlala bekhona ebomini bakho kunye naye. Yazi indlela yokuqonda nokwamkela;
- Indoda ingumntu oyinqoba. Abafana bezityalo bafaka umnqweno wokuba yinkokheli.
Ngoko ke, ungalokothi ulahle iindawo zakho. Kufuneka ube ngumfihlakalo ongeke ufumaneke. Ungazivumeli ukuba ungathandeki; - Amadoda ayithandanga ukubonisa iimvakalelo. Yaye ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ezicacileyo zinobubele, okanye ungabhali imiyalezo 200 ngamaxesha, oku akuthethi ukuba akuthandi. Amadoda nje agcina iimvakalelo zabo ezinzulu kwimiphefumlo yabo.
I-psychology yenkwenkwe yothando ayiyinto enzima njengoko ibonakala kuqala. Ukuba unikwa iintyatyambo kwaye unemiqondiso yenkxalabo, ngoko, uyayithanda, kwaye uza kuzama ukunqoba. Ukungafani apha apha kunqabile kakhulu. Ukuba le nsizwa inomdla kuwe, iya kwenza konke ukukuvala. Kwaye umsebenzi wakho kukuqinisekisa ukuba umdla wakhe awupheli. Musa ukwenza ama-scandals, mthembise, mxelele ukuba ufuna kwaye uyathandwa. Emva koko ubomi bakho buya kuzaliswa ngovuyo lwentsebenziswano kunye noxolo.