Iindlela eziphambili zokuzimelela komntu zizinto zokomoya nezinto eziphathekayo. Ukususela ekuzalweni komntwana, iziseko zekamva lakhe ziqala ukwenza. Imoya kwintsapho, imeko ejikelezileyo, konke oku kunempembelelo ngqo ekubunzeni amaxabiso .
Nsuku zonke izinto eziphathekayo ebomini ziba zibaluleke ngakumbi, zivuselela iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo kunye namava kwimvelaphi. Imeko ngamanye amaxesha ayifuni ukukhetha, njengoko wonke umntu ezama ukujonga "njengomfanekiso," ngelixa ehlala kwindawo enhle kwaye ene-akhawunti yasebhanki. Ekusukelekeni kwezi ntlawulo, umntu uyazilibala ngokuphathelele into ebalulekileyo ngokuphathelele entliziyweni nasemphefumlweni. Ukungathobeli ukufumana ulonwaba akunakwenzeka, kuba kukho izigidi zemimiselo yabantu abaphumeleleyo, kodwa abangonwabiyo.
Indlela yokufezekisa ubunye?
Ukuze ufumane isethi epheleleyo yezinto eziphathekayo kunye nezinto zokomoya ozifunayo ukuze unqume oko kukubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kwaye yintoni eyona nto imfuneko ebomini.
Kwiengqondo, kukho ukuzivocavoca okulula okuza kunceda ukubeka izinto zokomoya kunye nezinto eziphathekayo zomntu kwaye kucace ngokucacileyo iingxaki zokuziqonda. Kuye kufuneka uwathathe iphepha kwaye uphendule ngokunyanisekileyo imibuzo enjalo:
- Cinga ukuba ubomi buya kuphazamiseka emva kweminyaka eyi-15. Cinga ngezinto ofuna ukuzenza ngeli xesha? Yintoni ongathanda ukuyifumana emva komhla wokuphela?
- Ngoku ukunciphisa ixesha ukuya kwiminyaka emi-5. Yiyiphi into enokuyifuna ukuyenza, kwaye unokuyeka ukuthini?
- Ubuncinane bexesha lobomi ngumnyaka omnye kuphela. Kungcono kangakanani ukuhlala kuyo? Yintoni ekushiya emva?
- Eyona nto ibuhlungu. Awukho. Yintoni ebhaliweyo kwicandelo lomngcwabo wakho? Ungubani na?
Ngoku ufunde ngokucophelela oko ubhaleyo kwaye udwebe izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Umahluko phakathi kwezinto zokomoya nezinto eziphathekayo
Iimvakalelo neemvakalelo azihlazi ngokulingana nenani labantu abanabo, ngokungafani nezinto eziphathekayo. Imilinganiselo yokomoya ayifani nezinto eziphathekayo ekungabonakaliyo ekuthineni, kodwa ibe yinxalenye yomntu ongaphakathi, ngaloo ndlela iyanceda.