Ibini ngalinye lijongene nengxaki yobudlelwane obupholileyo, le ngxaki ixazululwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Omnye uncedwa ngabafundi bezengqondo zentsapho, umntu ufumana induduzo ekuxoxaneni nabahlobo, kwaye umntu uncedwa ngoqhagamshelwano kwicala. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva zonke iimfihlelo zityhilwa, kwaye ke kuyimfuneko ukugqiba indlela yokuphila emva kokugwenxa- ukuxolela nokuzama ukuqala kwakhona okanye ukuzalisa ubuhlobo.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuxolela ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni wakhe? Kakade!
Ukufumanisa ukungathembeki kweqabane elimnandi kumntu, kodwa akubona bonke abafazi abajonga le mcimbi. Nawuphi na ulwalamano lubandakanya umsebenzi omkhulu, kwaye unokuyichitha iziphumo zakhe uze ungamxoleli umfana? Amantombazana amaninzi akholelwa ukuba inkosikazi eyifumeneyo ayisisithuba sokususa ubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide. Ngokwezinga elithile le nto iyinyani, ingakumbi xa umntu ecinga ukuba ulwahlulo luhlukile. Isiganeko esisigxina sinokubangelwa yotywala, ukuxabana okanye nayiphi na into engafanelekanga. Oku akumnandi, kodwa ekungabikho komnqweno womntu wokuqhubeka ulwalamano "ecaleni" kwaye uqaphela ukungalunganga kwezenzo zakhe, ukuxolelwa kubonakala ngathi iyona isisombululo esamkelekileyo.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuqonda isizathu sokuba uhlaselo luyimfuneko, mhlawumbi wena uncedise kakhulu ukungathembeki kweqabane lakho. Ukungabikho kwengqiqo kwinqanaba lakho, ukunganaki ukubonakala kwakho, ukungafuni ukuva umyeni wakho, kunokumnyanzela ukuba athathe ingqalelo kwelinye ibhinqa elifuna ukwanelisa iimfuno zakhe. Kule meko, umsebenzi uya kuba omkhulu, kodwa ngesifiso esifanayo sokugcina ubudlelwane, umntu akanakwenza ngaphandle kokuxolelana izono.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuxolela umyeni wakhe? Akukho mcimbi!
Akukho konke ukungathembeki okumele kubonakale njengephutha lakho okanye iqabane lakho. Kungenzeka ukuba le yiphutha elifanayo, unabantu bobabini abalungileyo, kodwa musa ukulungelelana kunye. Ngaba unokuxolela ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda kwimeko? Kucacile, akufanele wenze umzamo ukuba awuyi kuceba ikusasa elizayo elizayo. Kungcono ukuchitha imikhosi egciniweyo ngokuguqula oku akusiyo iphepha eliphambili kakhulu lobomi.
Musa ukuxolela ukuxolelwa ngokungabikho kokuzisola. Ukuba iqabane lingaboni nto ephosakeleyo kweso siganeko kwaye ayizisoli ngaso sonke isenzo, kuya kuba nengqiqo ukugqiba ukuba akayithandanga ubuhlobo bakho. Ngako oko, ukuxolelwa kokungathembeki kule ngxaki kuya kuhokelela ekuhluphekeni kwakho.
Kwakhona kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba kukho uluhlu lwamadoda angaphantsi kweemeko eziya kulahla uluntu lwabafazi abathile. Ukuba umthandi wakho "ungumfazi", ke ungazami ukuyibuyisela, akukho nto. Ngako oko, uya kuba neendlela ezimbini nje apha - ukunyamezela iinjongo zakhe okanye ngaphezulu.
Ejongene nokungathembeki komlingane, kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela ngenye imeko ngenyameko, ulinganise zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki zesigqibo sabo. Ngokomzekelo, abaninzi abafazi bayavuma ukunyamezela ukungcatsha komyeni wakhe ngenxa yabantwana.