Okwangoku, kukho amathuba okwandisa ukuba unokujamelana neemeko apho intombazana enhle kwaye ibanjwe ihlala ijikelezwe yedwa, nangona yonke imihla ivakalelwa ngabantu. Kwaye umhlobo wakhe nombonakalo oqhelekileyo unomyeni onothando nabantwana kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uyavuya.
Masizame ukucinga ukuba kutheni amadoda ayesaba abafazi abalungileyo kunye nendlela yokumisa isiqingatha esinamandla sabantu ukuba bangaziphathe ngale ndlela.
- Amadoda amaninzi, xa edibana nomfazi omhle, le ngcamango ivela ukuba akafanelanga ukutyebisa okunjalo kwaye ngaphandle kokuba ucinge ukuba kukho umviwa kwisandla sakhe, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akukho nto. Kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, ukholelwa ukuba uya kuchitha ixesha ngaphandle kokuzama ukuthetha naye.
- Ukongezelela kule ngqungquthela, amadoda ayesaba ngabafazi abalungileyo, xa bekholelwa enye into, ukuba intombazana enjalo iyintsimbi. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ubonisa ngokugqithiseleyo ubuhle bakhe, ukuphonsa umngeni onqabileyo nje, ngoko ke izicelo zakhe mazibe zomoya.
- Kwaye umntu onommangaliso oyimfihlo, ongenakufikeleleka ubuhle, wahlala enqabileyo kwiimeko ezibuhlungu. Kwaye wazigqiba ngokwakhe ukuba amahle amantombazana aphangiweyo.
- Xa umntu eyika ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi, unomona ngaye kwithuba elidlulileyo nelizayo, elimele umkhosi wabakhuphiswano. Eli lizwe alikhululekile kubo bobabini abalingani. Ngenxa yoko, ubudlelwane obunjalo bunembali emfutshane. Ekupheleni kwabo, amadoda amaninzi ayaqinisekisa ukuba abafazi abalungileyo banokumangaliswa kuphela.
Izizathu ezimbalwa
Kutheni kutheni umntu esaba umfazi, bazama ukufumana iingcali zeengqondo kunye neengqondo zabo. Kwakukho ukuba i-70% yezifundo zinoyiko lokuba naluphi na uqhagamshelwano nomfazi omhle, kuba ngemizuzu embalwa yokunxibelelana baba neentloni kwaye bazive besengozini kunexesha eliqhelekileyo, ngokukhawuleza kubakhokelela ekuphumeni.
Ukuze siyeke ukwesaba isiqingatha esihle sabantu, kuyimfuneko kumntu, okokuqala, ukuba avume ukuba uyavuya. Kufuneka uzenze uqonde oko kufuneka ukwenze ukuze uzive ukhululekile. Okokuthi, kulungile ukuba umntu avuke aze ahambe kwicala lomntu othakazelisayo okanye uthetha ngokuthe ngqo kwitafile. Sombulula kuphela umntu, kuba isiseko sezinto zonke siyathuthuzela.
Indoda iyamoyika umfazi omhle, okokuqala, kuba evumela ukuba amaqhinga athobise isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokubhekisele kwisini esingenamandla. Asimele sikhohlwe ngokuzithemba kwethu, ukulahla ukuqikelela, kunye neenkalipho ukuze siqhelane nentombazana enhle neyimfihlakalo.