Abantu abaninzi emva komtshato bayeke ukusebenza kubudlelwane, kuba bakholelwa ukuba bafumene kwaye akukho nto iya kutshintsha imeko yezinto. Enyanisweni, le yiphutha elikhulu, njengoko iintsapho zijongene nemingeni eyahlukeneyo imihla ngemihla, ekhokelela ekubeni abaninzi abafazi ngokukhawuleza baya kucinga ukuba benzani ukuba uyayithiya indoda yakho. Kwesinye isihlandlo, kukho ngokwenene ukuqonda ukuba kukho umntu ongaqhelekanga osondeleyo ngaphandle kwayo. Umbuso onjalo unokuthi ufike okwethutyana okanye uhlale ixesha elide.
Ndiyamthiya umyeni wam, kwaye ngoko ndiyakuthanda ukuba ndenzeni - iingcebiso zeengqondo
Le meko iyakwazi ukulungiswa lula, kuba ingxaki inemvakalelo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ingxoxo enyanisekileyo kunye neqabane liyimfuneko ukuze isombulule iingxaki zonke ezikhoyo kunye nokuseka uqhagamshelwano. Hlaziya ubuhlobo ngokubuyisela uthando kunye nothando.
Indlela yokuphila ngakumbi xa ndiyithiyile indoda yam:
- Ukubuyisela iimvakalelo ezifudumele kulwalamano, qalisa ngenguqu yakho. Yenza umyeni wakho abuye abuye wathandana kwakhona, okuya kumncedisa ukuba enze.
- Khumbula amava kunye neemvakalelo ezidluleyo, cinga ngobudlelwane kulo mzila wothando.
- Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba uqhube uhlalutyo kwaye uzimisele ukuba ngowokuqala kwakuphi uvakalelo lwenzondo. Ukuqulunqa isizathu kubangela ukuba konke kusebenze.
- Abantu abaninzi bancedisa ukufudumala ebubudlelwaneni, ukuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo, kokubili okulungileyo nokubi. Iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo zifumaneka ngokugqithiseleyo, umzekelo, ukuxhuma kwiparachute.
- Ngena kwiinkcubeko ezintsha zentsapho, umzekelo, zincoma omnye komnye kwaye udumise ngisho nakwiintlobo ezincinane. Amagama amnandi aphefumlelweyo, okuya kubangela ukuba bobabini banqwenele ukulondoloza uthando .
Kutheni ndiyamthiya rhoqo umyeni wam?
Abasetyhini abaninzi babhekene neemeko apho yonke isenzo somlingane esibangela ukucasuka kwaye zonke izidima zayo ziba yimpembelelo. Ngokuqhelekileyo le meko yenzeka kwenzeka xa umntwana ezalwa okanye ezinye iinguqu ezinzulu zenzeka. Le yimeko enzima kakhulu kwaye isidlo sangokutya asikwazi ukulungisa. Apha ufuna uncedo lwenzululwazi, ngoko uya kudibaniselwano kunye nengcali yengqondo. Uhlalutyo olunzulu lwalo luya kunceda ukufumana iingcambu zeengxaki nokuqonda indlela yokuyeka ukuzonda umyeni wakhe. Ukuba akukho nto incedisayo, kungcono ukugqiba isigqibo somtshato, kuba ingxaki iqhubekele ngakumbi, kunzima ngakumbi ukuhlukana nobudlelwane obuhle, okubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba kukho abantwana.