Njengoko uyazi, amadoda kunye nabasetyhini, njengezilwanyana ezivela kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo, bavakalisa iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kwaye abameleli besiqingatha esinamandla bahlala befihla. Makhe sibone isizathu sokuba bayenze kwaye nokuba kukho nayiphi na intsingiselo kulo nonke.
Kutheni umntu efihla iimvakalelo zakhe?
Ubungqingili besilisa buphuhliswa ngokungafaniyo nengqondo yobufazi. Ngaloo ndlela, kwindawo yangaphambili, ummandla onoxanduva lokucinga, imisebenzi yokucinga engqiqo . Bonke abafazi bahluke: ukudala, iimvakalelo zengqondo. Oku kuchaza ukuba kungani abafana, bebathandana, bengathethi ngeemvakalelo zabo kubo bonke abahlobo, kodwa baziphathe kakuhle.
Esinye isizathu esiphendula umbuzo othi "Kutheni umntu efihla imvakalelo yakhe?" Ngaba ukukhuliswa kwentsha. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, amaninzi amakhwenkwe atyelwe ukuba: "Sula iinyembezi zakho. Wena ungumntu, kodwa amadoda anamandla akalili. " Ukususela ngoko, bakholelwa ukuba naluphi na ukubonakaliswa kwendawo ekhuselekileyo yehlabathi labo elikufutshane eliza kubakho, liya kubonakala, njengobuthathaka. Ukongezelela, ngubani ofuna ukuthetha nge-Achilles 'isithende sakhe, ngokuzenzekela ukuba abe ngumntu osengozini? Kwakhona kukho uluhlu lwamadoda abakholelwa ukuba abafazi bayaphambuka kuphela kubaqabane abanamandla, abanentliziyo kunye nabangenangqondo.
Ukuba sithetha ngomntu othandwayo ofihla iimvakalelo zakhe, akukhethiweyo ukuba ebomini bakhe kwakungekho uthando olungathandabuzekiyo, ngesiphelo esibuhlungu esashiya ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwintliziyo. Yaye le nkumbulo yamava angaphumelelanga ihlala iphuma xa izama ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo.
Ukuziphatha komntu ofihla iimvakalelo
- Ukuxhatshazwa . Naluphina ubonakaliso bentando kwinxalenye yowesifazane odibana naye. Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba emva kobushushu obunjalo obushushu bubunomphefumlo osengozini, ulambile uthando kunye nokufudumala.
- Ilungelo lokuba ngowokuqala . Uninzi lweengqungquthela zexesha lethu lijonga ukuba liyimfanelo yokulungisa iingxaki ezininzi, ngaphezu koko, kwintsebenziswano yabo abayicinga ukuba ihlangabezane nantoni na. Mhlawumbi abafuni ukuvuma, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha bafuna ukuba ubuncinane inxalenye
Imisebenzi enjalo yenziwa yintanda. - Ukungabi nandaba . Kukho nabo abangenandaba nombuzo wobukho bobuhlobo bomntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, aba bantu abakulula. Nangona ngexesha lokuxabana nomntu okhethiweyo, ukuba banalo, banokuvuma ukuba abayinyamekeli ngoluvo lwakhe lokuba ubudlelwane babo bukhula kuphela ngenxa yokuzikhandla kwakhe. Ewe, kuya kukulimaza ukuva oku. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukuba ufunde umntu onjalo, uzame ukuqonda izizathu zokubonakalisa ukuziphatha kwakhe okungafaniyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha, ukutshintsha umntu, kulungele ukuqala utshintsho lomntu wakho.