Ugula wothando

Uthando ngenye yeemvakalelo ezintle kwihlabathi lethu. Ipha amaphiko, iphakamisa, igcwalise ilanga ... Inika ubomi, iyakwazi ukuvuselela ngomgca omnye kuphela, i-saturates kunye nokutya ngaphandle kokutya.

Kodwa kutheni ngamanye amaxesha uthando lusizi? Uphi na ukubukeka okuqhwithileyo, amehlo abukhuni, ubusuku bokulala?

Uthando olunempilo - inyaniso, ulonwabo kunye nommangaliso, umntu onothando uzalisekile. Kwaye kubangelwa yintando xa ixhomekeke ekuthandweni kwe-neurotic, ukungathandabuzeki, inzondo. Le ntlungu yesifo kunye nokwesaba kwimeko yokulahlekelwa ngumthandayo. Yingakho ibuhlungu ngenxa yothando. Iingcali zize zihlukanise ingxaki ethile ye-psyche, ukunyamezela okubizwa ngokuba yi-love neurosis. Ngakolunye uhlangothi kuyafana nothando, kodwa ukuthanda kwintsikelelo yalo yokwenyaniso ayisebenzisi. Umntu onomntu ongenalo impilo uvakalelwa ukuphuka ngaphandle kwento yakhe yokukhanga, iingcamango zakhe zijoliswe kuphela kuloo mvakalelo, unokuba nobubi ngokwenyama. Umntu oxhomekeke kumthando unokulawulwa ngokugqithiseleyo ngabo bavakalelwa kukuba, okanye ngokuchasene naye, unobundlobongela. Kuxhomekeke kubuntu bomntu ngokwakhe, umlingiswa wakhe. Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi, isimo soqhagamshelwano esibuhlungu sivela kwimvelaphi yendawo ebalulekileyo yomntu ngamnye. Uthando olugulayo alukho nto kodwa luyingozi, lufana nezinye iintlobo zezilungo. Kulo rhulumente, umntu uqobo uyazixhalabisa, ugula ngomnye umntu, uncike kuye, njengokuba kunjalo kwidayisi. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanokuxhomekeke kunjalo ngothando banokuyingozi, ngenxa yokuba abaqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo. Ukuziphatha kwabo kudla ngokukhawuleza, kwaye izenzo azenzileyo. Uthando olugulayo liyingozi, litshitshisa yonke into kwindlela yayo, kwaneemvakalelo ezigqithiseleyo kunye ezivakalayo.

Indlela yokulahla uthando lokugula?

Okokuqala, kufuneka unqande ukutshabalalisa umnxeba womthandayo, bhetele ubiza intombi yakho kwaye uphazamise kwi-compulsive iminqweno. Okwesibini, musa ukwenza iziganeko ezimangalisayo, kholwani mna, awusoze wakwazi ukubopha indoda ngokunyanzela kunye ne-blackmail. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, uthando luyimvakalelo emangalisayo, kodwa ungene kwi-intanethi oyithandayo, thatha ixesha lakho ukusebenza, ukufunda okanye ukuzilibazisa, wazi indlela yokuzonwabisa ngaphandle kwothando kuphela.

Musa ukuguqula iimvakalelo zethu eziqhaqhaqhazelayo, kuba kungenjalo nayiphi na inzala, uvelwano okanye uthando luya kuba nesifo esondla imikhosi embi. Ubomi bethu bufutshane, ngoko-ke masizalise ngeemvakalelo ezintle kwaye ezintle.