Thayipha kwibha yosesho "indlela yokutshata umntu osisityebi" ... Siyavuyisela: uhamba ngendlela efanelekileyo! Kuhle ukuba uqaphele umnqweno wakho kwaye ukulungele ukuthatha amanyathelo athile ekuphunyezweni kwawo. Emva koko, kungekhona nje indaba ye-Cinderella, kodwa ubomi buzele imizekelo ebonisa ukuba abantu abazityebi banandipha ukufumana abafazi abaqhelekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha bahlala nabo ixesha elide, banomdla kwaye banonwabo. Ngoko, wanquma ukuba ufuna indoda. Kwaye bakhetha enye yeenzuzo eziphambili-ubutyebi. Makhe sibone apho ukukhangela amadoda abacebileyo, nendlela yokubenza banqobe.
Kuphi ukuzingela?
Ukuba ufuna ukutshata umntu osisityebi, kufuneka ulungele ukuchitha. Unokukhangela:
- Kwiivenkile ezidula kunye neevenkile. Kungcono ukhethe ixesha lesidlo sasemini, xa abaphikisanayo bancinci, kwaye indoda inomdla. Iglasi le-juice elitsha, i-saladi elula, incwadi enomdla. Ukhululekile, uqinisekile, uyavuya emehlweni xa usukuxakekile.
- Kwiikonkethi okanye kwindawo yokudlala. Kukulungele ukulandelela amakhonsathi abizayo kwaye uchithe imali kwitikiti. Akunakwenzeka ukungena kwi-VIP-bhokisi-"nqunyulwa" kwindawo yokucima. IiNkulumbuso zihamba kuphela xa ungumntu oyinyaniso wobugcisa kwaye unokugcina ingxoxo phezu kweglasi ye-champagne ngexesha lokungena. Indoda ayifumaneki kwi-theatre ngethuba: uya kuhokelwa ngumbutho womoya oqhawulayo, okanye ... ngumfazi wakhe.
- Igalofu, i-tennis, ukugijima kwehashe, i-casino. Amadoda, athwabile kakhulu, uya kuvuyela ukunyamekela intombi ekhangelekayo ekwabelana ngokucacileyo iminqweno yabo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, yiya kwiindawo zokuhlala ezisezindaweni ze-ski.
- E mse benzini. Fumana umsebenzi kwinkampani apho umlawuli wakhe uthembise kwaye uyityebi-isinyathelo esinenkalipho, kodwa sikhe tye. Ukuba awuyi kutshata umphathi ocebileyo, ngoko, ubuncinci, uya kufumana amava okusebenza. Ukusebenza kwiivenkile ezizithengayo (izitolo zeesanti, ukubukela i-salons, njl.) Kwandisa amathuba okufumanisa umviwa ocebileyo.
- Kwi-intanethi. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntu osisityebi akanalo ixesha lokukhangela umtshakazi ebomini bokwenene, kodwa kukho imizuzu embalwa yokujonga le mibuzo. Le ndlela ingathembeki, ngenxa yokuba inyaniso iyinyaniso.
- Kwimaphephancwadi kunye namaphephancwadi. Iimarike zeejaji ezithembisa kwaye zifanele zifundwe. Ngamanye amaxesha amaphephancwadi apapasha uluhlu lwezilwanyana ezicebileyo, ezixabisekileyo kulabo abafuna ukufumana indoda ecebileyo.
- Ekhaya. Isigqibo esilungileyo, nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyazi ukuba ubani ozingelayo, ngoko akudingeki ukuba "ulahleke", okanye "ugweba" kwindawo efanelekileyo. Kuhlala kumnandi ukunceda umfazi omhle.
Indlela yokwenza isisityebi somntu osisityebi sinzulu?
Uninzi kunokwenzeka, kwiintlobo zobuhle obuxhonyayo entanyeni yakho, "isisityebi sePinocchio" sele sisetyenzisiwe. Khumbula: uyayithanda kwaye uyazi indlela yokufezekisa iinjongo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ube ngumgomo.
- banomdla kubo. Ukuba umntu unokwenza izinto ezithandwayo ongazenziyo, ungazami ukufundisisa ukuba uvele "pro": ukumba ubunzulu, uya kuhlaselwa ngokungathandekiyo. Kusebenza ngakumbi ukubuza, ukuba nomdla, ukufunda;
- Musa ukukhalaza malunga nobunzima bezezimali. "Akunakwanele kwifowuni," "akukho nto yokuhlawula kuyo indlu," "akukho mali yokugqoka" - isityebi sazi kakuhle iimbali zeengoma kwaye andithandi ukucula kunye. Uzingela intlanzi enkulu, kungekhona izinto ezincinci. Amazwi kaWoland "Awuze ucele nantoni na ... Baza kunikwa ngokwabo kwaye baya kunika yonke into" kufuneka babe yi-mantra yakho;
- Musa ukufihla ukuba ukhankanywa ngemali. Ngokuqinisekileyo, andifanele ndingathethi, ndithi, "Ndifuna ukutshata umntu osisityebi, ngoko ndinethemba kuwe", kodwa inqaku elithi "ewe, ndifuna indoda enotyebi, kuba ndiyathanda iimpawu zentsimi: ukunyamezela, ukukwazi ukubeka nokufezekisa into oyifunayo" akunako kuphela ukubonisa umntu onyanisekileyo, kodwa unobtrusively flatter okhethiweyo.