Ukuthetha amazwi okuqala othando, awukwazanga ukucinga ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuhlukana. Ewe, apho, ngubani oceba ukuphuka ekuhlaleni kobudlelwane. Kwaye kuza umzuzu xa uqaphela ukuba, nangona uluthando (ukuba lusekho), kulula kakhulu kuwe kwaye ulungele ukuqhubeka ubomi bakho ngokwahlukileyo. Indlela yokukhetha amagama afanelekileyo okushiya umntu ongenabuhlungu obukhulu-isihloko sesicatshulwa samhlanje.
Yintoni ekufuneka uqale ukuhlukana? Okokuqala, ngesisombululo esiqinileyo. Ukuba kunzima ukuba uthathe isigqibo malunga nenqaku elithembekileyo, yenza uluhlu apho kukho ikholomu enye eya kubonisa i-pluses, kwaye kwenye - iifom ebudlelwane bakho. Kubalulekile ukuba iimpawu zilingana. Zama ukuhlola ngenyameko imeko, kuba ngezinye iintsilelo sikulungele ukubeka, kwaye into ayimkelekanga kuthi. Kwaye ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukwenza izizathu, vele uzive ngentliziyo yakho, ke oku kukubonakalisa ukuba ubuhlobo bakho sele buphelile.
Indlela yokwenza abantu baphule abahlobo. Okanye bahlala bekhumbula imfudumalo yomnye nomnye. Imfihlelo inxulumene. Zihloniphe kunye nesigqibo sakho, hlonipha iimvakalelo zomntu omnye kunye nelungelo lakhe lokuqonda isizathu sokuphuka kwakho.
Imithetho yokuhlukana
- musa ukuqalisa ingxoxo kunye neentlawulo. Ukuba kukho ithuba lokuyenza ngaphandle kwabo, musa ukusola. Iphulo lokwenza ulwalamano olungagqibekanga luhlala luhlala lubabini. Ukuba umntu akahambisani nokulindela kwakho, mhlawumbi kwakungenxa yokuba uqobo wayemcwangcisa;
- uthetha nomntu, ukuba kunokwenzeka, nangona, kodwa ngelizwi elifudumeleyo. Akufanele anike ithemba, kodwa akhathaze ngokubanda, naye;
- gama igama eliphambili lokuphuka kwakho. Nangona awuyi kumxelela inyaniso (nangayiphi na isizathu), fumana izizathu eziza kubomelelela. Inyaniso yokuba awufuni ukuba kunye - ngokwayo unelungelo lokuphela kobudlelwane. Into ephambili ukuyiveza ukuze loo ngongoma ingaphenduli ibe yi-ellipsis;
- musa ukulibala ukubonga umntu ngalo lonke ixesha elihle eliphakathi kwakho. Elinye okanye ezimbini kuya kukwanela, ngaphandle koko ukuhlukana kungaphela ngokugqithisileyo "Kutheni ndithengisa i-cow"? Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphazamiseka ngumtsalane wezinkumbulo, kwaye intanda yakho ethandekayo kule migudu yexesha elidlulileyo ayiyi kuba ngcono;
- nikela ukuba nihlale ngabahlobo (ukuba ukholelwa kubuhlobo emva kobudlelwane), kodwa musa ukukhawuleza ukuseka oonxibelelwano kwifomathi entsha. Isihlandlo sokuqala sikulungele ukuphepha ukunxibelelana.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna ukuthatha inxaxheba njani kunye nomntu obathandayo, ubuhlungu obungenakukuphepha. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uya kuhlushwa ngenxa yokuzisola, iinkumbulo, ukwesaba ukulungeleka njengokuba bekuloo mntu, akunakwenzeka ukuba nomnye umntu. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba uhlale phantsi, ukuphazamisa iingcinga ezibuhlungu.
- ukufihla zonke izinto ezikukhumbuza zangaphambili. Ungayithandi njani u-co-photography okanye i-cute trinkets (ngokukodwa ezo zanikelwa ngexesha le-candy-bouquet), ubutha amandla kunye ... ngaphandle kwamehlo;
- Musa ukuxoxisana nabokuqala kunye neentombi zakho uze uzame ukungabhekiseli kumaqela otywala. Konke oku kuphelelwe yinto yonke efanayo
ukunyaniseka nokunxanela ukuziva uthanda; - ufumane umdlalo omtsha ngokuzenzekelayo. Ezifanelekileyo zifundo zeelwimi zangaphandle okanye iingoma. Kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka, hamba uhambo apho "umngcipheko" lukhulu ukwenza abantu abaqhelana nabo. Nangona ungakulungeli ukuphonsa ulwalamano olutsha, ungafuni ukuthetha nabanye abantu. Kubalulekile ukuba uzive ukuba unokwenza kwelinye inkampani.
Zama ukwamkela imeko, ungazigxeka okanye uzigwebe. Mbulela ngokwenene umntu ngenxa yokuba uhlala kunye kunye kwaye uya phambili ...