Bonke abantu bafumana ukuhlukana ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye kuxhomekeke kwimibandela eyahlukeneyo, umzekelo, indlela enamandla ngayo iimvakalelo, ngenxa yento eyenzeka ngayo i-gap, njl njl. Ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo, indlela yokusinda ukuhlukana, iya kunceda ukuhlangabezana ngokukhawuleza kwangoko kunye namava akhona kwaye uqale ubomi ukususela ekuqaleni.
Indlela yokusinda ukuhlukana nentanda yakho?
Inani elikhulu labantu emva kokuhlukana livakalelwa ukuwa komntu othile. Bacinga ukuba abasayi kuphinda bathande ukuthanda kwakhona kwaye akukho nto inokuyithandayo, kodwa oku akunjalo. Iingcali zengqondo zithi amanyathelo ambalwa kuphela angatshintsha ngokugqithiseleyo imeko ukuba ibe ngcono.
Indlela yokusinda ekudandathekeni emva kokuhlukana:
- Okokuqala kufuneka ulahle yonke imvakalelo . Khala, umemeza, ngokubanzi, yenza konke ukukhupha yonke imvakalelo eqokelelwayo.
- Beka ingongoma, oko kukuthi, uqaphele ukuba oku kukuphela kwaye akukho nto yokubuyela. Isigqibo esicacileyo sokuthi ukuhlawula ixesha elidlulileyo siza kusenza sihambe kwixesha elizayo.
- Myeke ukucaphuka, kwaye akumele uxolele kuphela umthandi wakho wangaphambili, kodwa wena ngokwakho, kuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba kupholile, bobabini abalingani banetyala lokuhlukana.
- Musa ukuzenza ithuba lokuba "uncumo", ngoko ungahlali wedwa kunye neengcamango zakho. Ukudibana nabahlobo, fumana i-hobby, umsebenzi ngokusebenzayo, ngokubanzi, uhola umsebenzi osebenzayo. Siyabulela oku kuya kukwazi ukuqonda ukuba kukho izinto ezinomdla kunye nezinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini.
- Abaninzi beengqondo, bethetha ngendlela yokusinda ngokuhlukana nomntu, bacetyiswa ukuba batshintshe, kwaye oku kusebenza kokuzaliswa kwangaphakathi kunye nomfanekiso wangaphandle. Kwimeko yokuqala, kucetyiswa ukuba uhlalutye ngokucokisekileyo ubudlelwane kwaye usebenzise izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ukuze ungaphinda uphinde uphinde wenze iimpazamo zakho. Ngokuphathelele utshintsho lwangaphandle, iingcali zincoma ukuba zisebenze kumfanekiso. Mhlawumbi ufuna
ulahlekelwe iipounds ezimbalwa, wenze i-haircut entsha, uyenze, kwaye utshintshe ikhabethe. Umfanekiso omtsha uya kuba yinto yokunyusa ubomi obutsha. - Fumana intsimi entsha yomsebenzi kuwe, inokuba nayiphi na into yokuzilibazisa , into eyona nto kukuba umcimbi kufuneka uzuze kwaye uvumele ukuba uphumule.
Abantu abaninzi banomdla ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukusinda ukuhlukana, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukufumana impendulo yalo mbuzo, kuba yonke into iyodwa. Ukuba ulandela zonke ezi ngcebiso kwaye ungakhangeli emuva, iqela elimnyama ebomini bakho liya kuphelisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye alibi buhlungu.