Nantsi ibhinqa ukuba ndijwayelane nomntu onomdla, baqala ukudibana, bathethe, bathathe ixesha, kwaye ngoko, ngokungalindelekanga, ubudlelwane buqala ukuhlabalala kwaye indoda iyalala. Kwaye ke iphinda iphindwe kabini. Ukuba eli bali lijwayelene nawe, makhe sijonge ndawonye ukuze siphendule umbuzo othi kutheni oku kunjalo. Inyaniso kukuba indoda nomfazi bahluke omnye komnye, njengehlobo kunye nobusika, njengemini nobusuku. Ngoko, kufuneka uxoxe nabo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. I-psychology yokunxibelelana nabantu iyingqayizivele, kwaye idinga indlela yokuziphatha. Yingakho i-psychology yokunxibelelana ngokuphumelelayo namadoda ingomxholo 'wokuthetha ngolwimi lwabo'.
Ukuba thina, abameli bobulili obufanelekileyo, siphumelele ukugqithisa ubuncinane ezinye zeemfihlelo zokuxhumana nabantu, sinokuphumelela impumelelo enkulu ekwakheni ubuhlobo obuhle phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngenxa yoko, kuyafaneleka ukufunda isilwanyana "ulwimi lwencoko" kunye nemigaqo yokuziphatha. Ukongeza, amadoda kunye nabasetyhini banemiqondo eyahlukileyo yolwazi, nabo. Ngoko ke, kwiimeko ezininzi, umfazi uthi ukuthetha, kwaye indoda ingena kwingxoxo kuphela "kwishishini."
Imigaqo yokuqhagamshelana namadoda
Makhe sijonge imigaqo emiselweyo yokunxibelelana namadoda:
- amadoda aqonda yonke into ebalulekileyo ekuxazululeni iingxaki. Ukuba ibhinqa lifuna nje ukuthetha, lifanelekile loo ntombi. Lo mntu uqala ngokukhawuleza ukunika iingcebiso;
- xa uthetha, amadoda akwazi ukuxoxa ngesihloko esinye ngexesha elinye. Abasetyhini baqhuba izihloko eziliqela ngokufanayo (abantwana, umsebenzi, umkhwekazi, iivenkile). Ngoko ke, xubusha umntu omnye kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho;
- Amadoda encokolayo akhangele emehlweni omnxibelelwano. Lo mgaqo kufuneka uhlolwe kwakhona;
- Amadoda ayilula, ngoko "i-subtext" kwingxoxo ayiboni. Ukuba umfazi ufuna into ethile kumntu, kufuneka akhulume ngayo ngokuthe ngqo.
Ubugcisa bokunxibelelana nabantu buhambelana nomfanekiso okhethiweyo nesihloko esihlongozwayo, kuba loo mntu kufuneka abe nomfanekiso ofanayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umfazi uya kwintlanganiso yezoshishino, ngoko ukuthengisana ngokuphumelelayo iseshishini esihle, i-hairstyle kunye nemikhwa yoshishino enzulu iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo. Emva koko le ndoda iyayiqonda ngokucacileyo into eyayiza kuye kwaye ithetha ingxoxo ebalulekileyo. Ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo nomntu kubangela iziphumo ezintle kwiinjongo ezibekiweyo zokunxibelelana, nokuba kuthengiselana nezoshishino okanye umntu owaziwayo kunye nethemba lobudlelwane obude.
Iingcamango zokunxibelelana namadoda
Kukho ixesha eliyaziwayo ukuba amadoda akakwazi ukuma kuma-bhinqa. Ukuze ugweme iimpazamo, cinga ngokuqhelekileyo "ukuxhatshazwa kwabasetyhini":
- Amadoda acasulwa xa incoko iqalisa ngamangqina. Ukuba le meko iphindaphindiwe kaninzi, amadoda akhetha ukubuyela emva;
- Amadoda akakwazi ukuma iinyembezi zeentombi. Kungcono ukuthetha ngezinto zonke ngendlela yezoshishino - umphumo uya kuba ngcono;
- amadoda ayakuzonda ukuhlazeka. Ibhinqa liya kulahlwa yedwa, ukuba ayikwazi ukufunda lo myalelo ngentliziyo;
- Musa ukunyuka kumntu onemibuzo xa exakekile. Nantsi kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba ukumbuza ngegama: "kwenzekani, kutheni uthula?" Kwakhona akunakwenzeka.
Le mithetho ilula, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa iinjongo ezifunwayo ekusebenzelaneni namadoda, akufanele sifunde izinyo. Unxibelelwano lokuqala nomntu kufuneka lube lunomdla, lunomdla kwaye lunamandla. Ngoko ke kwakunomnqweno wokuhlangana kwakhona. Thetha ezinye izihloko zamadoda, oko kukuthi, abo bamdlayo, kunye ne-pink ryushechkah kunye ne-girlfriends-blondes kwintlanganiso yokuqala ukuthetha akuyimfuneko.
Ngoku kukho uninzi lweencwadi, ezinika iingcebiso ezininzi kunye neengcebiso, kunye nokutyhila iimfihlelo kunye neempawu zokunxibelelana namadoda. Ngokukodwa ndifuna ukukhankanya abalobi abanjengabo bonke u-Allan noBarbara Pease, abapapashile iincwadi ezininzi ezivelele kwesi sihloko. Phantse zonke iimpendulo malunga nendlela eyahlukileyo ngayo indoda kunye nomfazi kwincwadi ethi "indoda nomfazi, ulwimi lobudlelwane" u-Allan noBarbara Pease.