Ulwazi malunga naluphi uhanahaniso, indlela yokuqonda uhanahaniso kunye nohanxisi luya kuba nomdla kulabo abafuna ukufunda ukuqonda abantu abanomxholo ofanayo. Imeko enokuthi ivele kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla - kwinkampani, kwintsapho, emsebenzini. Ngexesha elifanayo, kubalulekile ukubeka ingqalelo yomntu kwizinto ezinjalo ezimbi kwaye ngezinye izihlandlo zokubonakalisa ngexesha.
Yintoni uhanahaniso?
Olu hlobo lokuziphatha, njengobuzenzisi, luhlobo oluthile lokuzibonakalisa. Singahlukanisa ezinye iinkalo zokuziphatha kohanahaniso:
- inokuzibophelela ekubonakalisweni kwezinto ezingokomoya ngaphandle kokholo lokwenyaniso kubo;
- Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanjalo banelungelo lokukhohlisa;
- baveza izenzo zabo ngokungathandekiyo, ezingahambisani nokoqobo;
- ngelo xesha, iimfuno ezigqithisileyo zifakwa kwiindawo ezizungezile, ezingabonwa ngumzenzisi.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukubonakaliswa kohanahaniso kungafihla:
- nga thembeli kwabanye;
- lumkele ekusebenzelaneni nabantu;
- umnqweno wokusebenzisa ubuqu abathile.
Uwuphi umehluko phakathi kohanahaniso nohanahaniso?
Iingcamango zobuzenzisi nohanahaniso zibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa kukho ukungafani phakathi kwabo. Ngoko:
- Ukhohlisi luhlobo lwendlela yokuziphatha ebonakalisa ukungabi nongqondo, ukuziphatha kakubi, umnqweno wokufihla iinjongo zonyani zokufumana okanye ukwaneliseka kokuziphatha.
- U-Hanness, njengobuzenzisi, uhlanganisa ukuziphatha okubi nokuziphatha okungahloneliyo kunye nesisindo esihle, kodwa njengoko ukhetha ukunamathela kwimilinganiselo yokomoya , ukukhanyela ukuhaha nokuhlazeka.
I-Hanseism kunye nokucwasa
Ukubuza umbuzo wendlela u-hypocrite uthetha ngayo, umntu unokufumana impendulo - ngumntu onobuzenzisi, ugxeke abanye aze agqubuthe ngokuzikhupha komntu onobubele nokuziphatha. Kukho uluvo lokuba ukugwetywa okunjalo kubandlululo. Kwezinye iimeko, uhanahaniso lunokumelana nokuzikhusela kwimpembelelo yoluntu olujikelezayo, ukunyanzeliswa kwalo, ukunyanzelwa komntu umntu.
Akuyena wonke umntu onokukwazi ukumelana nempembelelo evela ngaphandle, ukukhusela umbono wabo. Ukongezelela, abantu abaninzi abanamathembeli kwabanye, okwenza ukuba bafihle, baqaphele - ngoko ke umnqweno wokubukeka uchanileyo kwaye ungenabugovu, okusoloko kunzima ukwenza ngokwenene.
Ungayiqonda njani i-bigot?
Kuthatyathwa ukuba u-hypocrite ngumntu olandela imigaqo yokufihla izenzo zakhe zokwenyaniso kunye neengcamango ngenxa yokuqinisekisa kunye nokwaneliseka kwakhe. Unokwazi ukwahlula ezinye iinkalo zolu hlobo lwabantu:
- Kwi-bigot, kukho ulwahlulo olubukhali phakathi kwamagama kunye nezenzo zangempela;
- bathambekele ekukhohliseni okanye ngokunyanisekisa imigaqo yabo yokuziphatha kunye nezenzo;
- Bazenzisi bazibeka njengabaxhasi bokuhlonela uThixo, ubuhle, ngokomoya kunye nokuziphatha;
- ukuziphatha kwabo kudla ngokubonisa, bathanda ukudlala kuluntu;
- maxa wambi lo mzekelo ungabalwa ukuzithethelela.
Ungayiyeka njani ukuba uhlasele?
Kwintlalo, ingxaki yohanahaniso akuyona indawo yokugqibela. Abantu abaneenkolelo ezifanayo kunye neendlela zokuziphatha eziphikisana nemigaqo yokuziphatha bavame ukubonwa ngokungakhethi, ngezinye iinkqubo ukuziphatha kwabo kungamkelwa ngabantu. Ukuba sithatha njengesiseko sokuba iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ze-bigot zingenanto engagqibekanga, uhanahaniso kunye nokuhlonela uThixo, ngoko-ke ukuze unqamle ukuba ngumzenzisi, okokuqala kufuneka ukuba uqale umsebenzi ekuqheleni. Ungazama ukukhuphela ngaphandle kokuziphatha kwakho ezi ngongoma ezilandelayo:
- Kucetyiswa ukuba uyeke ukudlala kuluntu;
- ukuvakalisa uluvo lwabo ngaphandle kokufihla okanye ukulufakela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba luhambelana neembono zabanye okanye cha;
- Kubalulekile ukubeka iliso izenzo zakho, kungekhona ukuxoxa okanye ukugweba abanye;
- Kubalulekile ukulungisa iindlela ezizingcwalisayo kuya kuba namandla okugcina ilizwi lakho, ukuqinisekisa ukuba ayivumelani nento;
- Umsebenzi oyintloko kumhanahanisi uya kuba ukulahla inkohliso, ukukhohlisa nokugwetywa kwabanye abantu.
Yintoni eyingozi - ukuhanahanisa okanye ukunyaniseka?
Ukuthelekisa iimpawu zomntu ezifanayo kuyimfuneko ukuqonda intsingiselo yazo. Ukunyaniseka kubhekisela ekunyelweni nasekuziphatheni okubi ngokobugcisa nezithethe, ukukhanyela ukubonisa ukungqinelana nemimiselo yezenhlalakahle kunye nokuziphatha. Ngokungafani nohenyukazi, ukunyaniseka kufakazela ingxelo evulekileyo, engenangqiqo yeengcamango zomntu ngaphandle kobuxoki nokuhanahanisa.
Impendulo engafanelekanga kwimibuzo yokuba yintoni iimeko eziya kuba zibi kakhulu - ukungcwaliswa okanye ukunyaniseka, akukho. Uninzi lubamba uluvo lokuba akukho yokuqala okanye yesibini eyamkelekileyo kuluntu. Akunandaba nokuba ukunyaniseka okanye ukungazenzisi ngumzekelo wobuzenzisi, kwaye ukunyaniseka kukunyaniseki imigaqo yokuziphatha, kwaye zombini yimbangela yokuziphatha kakubi kunye nokukhanyela imigaqo yendabuko, engavumelekanga ekuphuhliseni umphakathi ohloniphekileyo novuthiweyo.
Unqulo lobuzenzisi lobuOthodoki
Ibandla livumela umntu ukuba asondele kuThixo, unike ithuba lokuphuhliswa ngokomoya kunye nokukhetha indlela yokuphila komntu. Ukuqwalaselwa kwezithethe kunye nezithuba kukukhethwa ngokuzimeleyo komntu wonke. Ubuzenzisi benkolo bubuthatha indawo yokugcina imigaqo yecawa ngokunyanisekileyo ukulandela. UKhanja ubonakala njengomntu onobubele, engenabugovu, nangona kunjalo ayenjalo.
Ubuzenzisi obunjalo abuyisondeza umntu ngakumbi kuThixo, akayi kuhlonipha, ngamanye amaxesha uyaphinduka. Akukho mbono obalaseleyo unobungqina bobuzenzisi, kwaye ukuziphatha kobuqhetseba buvame ukucaphukisa abantu. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba amaxesha anjalo akufanele alahleke xa ekhulisa abantwana, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo kufuneka bathethe ngokunyaniseka, ububele nokunyaniseka.