Kukholelwa ukuba abantu abomeleleyo nabahloniphekileyo abanokuxolela. Kwingqondo kwengqondo kuthiwa ukukhulula umntu uziva ukhululiwe, kwaye luyabaluleka kwimeko yengqondo yomntu. Ukuqala ukuqonda inkqubo yokuxolela kuya kuba nzima, kodwa kwikamva iya kuba yinto emhle.
Iingcebiso kwingqondo, ukuxolela izono
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu ugxininisa kakhulu ngenxa yokuhlambalaza ukuba ubomi bakhe buzuza imibala ebomvu. Umthwalo onjalo awuvumeli ubomi obuqhelekileyo nobonwabileyo. Yingakho kwisingqondo sengqondo kukho onke amanqaku anikezelwa kulwaphulo mthetho nokuxolelwa. Phakathi kwazo zonke iinkcukacha ezikhoyo, kukho iingcebiso:
- Kufuneka ukuba ucinge ngemeko kwindawo yokuzola kwaye uziqonde oko uza kuba nobomi xa uqhubeka ukhubeka. Ukuphuphuma kuyonakalisa, kwaye kuya kuthintela iindlela ezahlukeneyo zobomi.
- Khangela le meko ukusuka kwicala uze uphendule imibuzo emininzi, umzekelo "Yintoni ebangela inxaxho?", "Yintoni eyayingamnandi kumazwi nangezenzo zomnye umntu?", Njalo. Kufanelekile ukuqonda ukuba yeyiphi imingcingo eyayingamrhola umoni, kuba ezi zinto zibuthathaka. Uhlalutyo olunjalo lucetyiswa ukuba lwenziwe ngokubhaliweyo.
- Qala ngamazwi okuxolela, okufuneka kuthiwe kuqala kuwe. Amaninzi amaninzi ngokuphindaphinda amagama, umzekelo, "Ndiyayeka ukukhutshwa" kuya kwenzeka emva kwexesha elincinci ukuziva ukhululekile. Kwiengqondo, eyona nto iyingozi kakhulu ingqumbo lomama ongeke avumele umntu ukuba akhe uluntu olonwabileyo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba lo mntu unike ubomi kwaye ukumxolela ubuncinane ngenxa yalo.
- Ukuqonda indlela yokujongana nokuhlambalaza, kukufanelekile ukukhankanya kunye nendlela eyaziwayo kwi-psychology - zithathe iimeko ezintle ebomini njengesi sifundo esiphila kuyo. Yenza izigqibo ezithile kwaye usebenzise ubulumko bobomi, obuya kuvumela kwikamva
ukuphepha zonke iingxaki. - Ukulwa nentukuthelo, usebenzisa ihlazo. Kuyakwazi ukuhleka ngokwakho okuya kuhlangabezana nayo yonke into engeyiyo into eyenziwa ngumphefumlo. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuya kukufundisa ukuba uphathe ubomi ngokulula kwaye ungabi ncinane.
- Kwengqondo, ukuze unqobe inzondo, zinike isiluleko esinjalo-qondisa ukuba abantu bahlala bekhubekisa abanye ngokungazi kakuhle kwaye mhlawumbi imeko yakho ichaneke ngoku. Le meko ibangelwa kukuba bonke abantu bahlukileyo kwaye wonke umntu uyaziqonda oko bathethe okanye benze ngendlela yabo. Ukulungelelanisa onke amanqaku nokuqonda imeko, kungcono ukuthatha umxhaphazi kwingxoxo engenangqiqo kwaye uqonde injongo yakhe, kunye nokuvakalisa uluvo lwakhe.