Akukho mama ehlabathini apha ongakhange ahlangabezane nokubonakalisa ukuhaha okuvela kwintsana yakhe. Nangona kukho uluvo lokuba ukungafuni ukwabelana ngumphumo wemfundo engafanelekanga, ukungabikho kwengqwalasela, okanye nje impawu embi, omele uyenze "ukutshisa ngomlilo nekrele", e neneni, akunjalo. Ngoko ke ukunyanzela umntwana? Indlela yokujongana nayo kwaye ufundise umntwana ukuba ahlanganyele - khangela iimpendulo kwinqaku lethu.
Ukuhaha ngabantwana - ukusuka kwi-1.5 kuya kweyimi-3
Xa uneminyaka engama-2 ubudala, umama uqala ngokuxhalabisa ukuba, ngaphambi kokuba onobubele kwaye onobubele, umntwana usuke waba ngumntu onobukrakra. Ukuhamba enkundleni yinto yokuvavanya ngokwenene: umntwana uyabakhusela ngamathoyizi akhe amakhwenkwe, angabi nantoni na nabani na, kodwa akafuni ezinye zeemidlalo. Umbono woluntu wenza isigwebo esinzima: "Umntwana uyazihlambalaza! Umama ufuna ngokukhawuleza ukuba athathe inxaxheba ekukhuliseni kwakhe! "Enyanisweni, akukho nto yatshatyalazayo kwaye idinga ukungenelela kwangethuba okwenzekayo kungekudala, inkunzi imane iqhubele phambili kwisigaba esilandelayo sophuhliso. Xa uneminyaka eyi-1,5-2 umntwana uyazibona njengomntu ohlukeneyo onelungelo lomhlaba wakhe. Kwakukho ngeli xesha apho amagama athi "I", "yam" avela kwisigama somntwana kwaye uqala ukukhusela indawo yakhe. Ndingenza njani kumama? Kukho iindlela ezimbini zokuziphatha:
- Umntwana kufuneka ahlanganyele - kulo mzekelo, unina uphakathi koluntu, ngaloo ndlela uyaphula umntwana wakhe. Le ndlela iphosakeleyo, kuba inkunzi ayiyiqondi injongo enhle kaMama, kodwa ibona enye into: umama unabo kunye nalabo abafuna ukumcaphukisa.
- Umntwana angabelana - umama unikela umntwana ukuba ahlanganyele umdlalo, kodwa ukhetho lokugqibela luye lwashiya. Kule meko, umntwana akaziva ekhutshiwe, enetyala, okanye embi.
Umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu ohambelana nomama ukubeka ukuqonda komntwana ukuba kukho "omnye umntu", onokuthathwa kuphela ngemvume yomnini. Umntwana kwiminyaka emibini sele sele ekwazi ukuhlula phakathi kwamanye amathoyizi abantu kwaye kufuneka aqonde ukuba ngaphandle kwemfuno abanakuphelelwa.
Ukuhaha kwabantwana - ukususela kwiminyaka emi-3 ukuya kweyesi-5
Xa uneminyaka engama-3 ubudala, ixesha lokudlala imidlalo yabantwana. Kwi-kindergarten nakwibala lokudlala, abantwana baqala ukungena kumaqela amancinci kunye nemidlalo ibe yingxenye yomdlalo. Ngeli xesha, umntwana uqala ukwabelana ngamathoyizi akhe nabanye ngenxa yemisebenzi edibeneyo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bayaqaphela ukuba ukupha komntwana kukhetha. Ukukwabelana ngamathoyizi kunye nabanye abantwana, akasayi kuvuma abanye kubo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhangele umntwana onjalo? Hayi, hayi, kwaye akukho kwakhona. Emva koko umyalelo we "sondelezo esiseduze" usebenza: umntwana uvuma kuphela abo bamvelela ngokwenene, kwaye akayiba buhlungu kula bantu. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana ekwabelana ngamalungu entsapho kunye nabahlobo bakhe, akunangqiqo ukuhlazisa abanye ngenxa yokuhaha. Kunokwenzeka ukubonisa kuphela umzekelo ongabonakaliyo, ukuba ukwabelana nabanye kulungile kwaye kulungile.
Ukuhaha ngabantwana - ukususela kwiminyaka emi-5 ukuya kwe-7
Xa uneminyaka engama-5 ukuya kwe-7, ukungafuni ukutshatyalaliswa ngokubambisana nabani na uthetha ngengxaki yengqondo yengqondo yomntwana: ubunyanisekileyo kwintsapho, umona ngomntakwabo okanye udade omncinci , inkokheli yobunxunguba , inxano, ukuhamba ngeenyawo. Kule meko, ngabazali banokunyanzela umntwana ukuba abelane nabanye, kodwa iingxaki ezizinzulu zobuntu bakhe aziyikuyicombulula. Indlela yokuphela yokuphuma kukuya kubonisana nengcali yezengqondo eza kunceda ukufumana ingcinezelo. Kwaye umntwana angakwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zabo kuxhomekeke ekuqaleni, kubazali bakhe: umnqweno wokuphinda uhlolisise ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho, ukuxhasa umntwana ngexesha elibuhlungu.