Ukungaqiniseki

Abaninzi bethu, ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo ohambo lwethu lobomi, banqotshwa ngokungaqiniseki. Imizekelo yeempawu zayo ziquka oku kulandelayo:

• ukuphepha kwizabelo ezixanduva;
• ukwesaba ukuhlekwa koluntu;
• ukungahlali ngonaphakade ngokubonakala kwakhe.

Izizathu zengqondo zokuzithemba zivame ukufunyanwa ebuntwaneni okanye ebusheni. Ngaloo maxesha obomi umntu akhathazeka kakhulu ukugxeka ekukhokelweni kwakhe, kuba akakwazi ukwakha izithintelo zokunxibelelana kwaye uthatha yonke into ngeendleko zakhe. Nangona ukhetho olukhethekileyo ebusheni, ingxaki yokuziphendulela ingavela kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo ebomini.

Njani ukunqoba ukwesaba ukungaqiniseki?

Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, ukungabi nantembeko kwabasetyhini kaninzi akubhekiseli kubonakala nokuba yintoni na intombazana azibona yona, kodwa oko abanye bacinga ngaye.

Ukuze unqobe umvakalelo wokungaphantsi, iziphakamiso ezilandelayo ziyakunceda:

1. Sivame ukunyanisekisa umlinganiselo wezinto ezenzekayo. Intombazana engaqinisekanga ikulungele ukubalekela kwindawo apho amadoda amaninzi amnyanzele khona. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, into ephambili akuyiyo yokwesaba, kuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi yonke into ihambelana nokubonakala kwakho, kwaye ekugqibeleni wonk 'ubani uxakeke kwiindaba zakhe, ngoko ungayikhokheli ingqalelo kakhulu kule nto.
2. Khumbula ukuba sonke singabantu kwaye sinokukhupha wonke umntu. Ukuba namhlanje le nkathazo yenzeke kuwe - ungadikibala. Yiya ekhaya, thabatha ibhola lokuphumla kwaye ungacingi ngento eyenzekayo. Ngomso uza kubona ukuba akukho namnye ukhumbula isiganeko "esiyingozi" ngoluvo lwakho.
3. Unganqikazi ukuzikhumbuza. Ukuphuma ekukhanyeni, ukuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha, xelela malunga nawe. Kuya kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo ukuxelela ibali elihle.

Ngengqondo yokungakhuselekanga, kukulungele ukulwa neemeko ezibucayi. Apha isebenza umgaqo ofanayo njengoko uzama ukufunda ukuba ungashukuma njani ubunzulu obunzulu, ukuba ufuna - awufuni, kodwa uya kufuneka. Ukuba, umzekelo, ukwesaba ukuthetha kwingqungquthela phambi kwezibukeli ezininzi, ngoko kufuneka ukhangele ukwesaba emehlweni akho kwaye uvumele ukuthetha.

Uxinzelelo lwakho lwangaphakathi lungabonakaliswa kwaye kungabi ngezwi ngomzimba wokungaqiniseki, okubandakanya izinto ezinjengoku:

• ukukhangela emva kwentloko;
• ukukhava indlebe;
• isandla sibambe iqhosha emva;
• Izandla ezichanekileyo ngeentende ezivaliweyo ngasemva.

Kufuneka uphephe ukuziphatha okunjalo, ukuba ufuna ukuba unomntu othembekileyo.

Ukungaqiniseki kwamadoda

Amadoda abhekene nokudideka ngokungafaniyo nabasetyhini. Ubundlobongela obuthakathaka bubambelele ukwabelana ngesaba kunye kunye amava kunye nabantu abasondeleyo, ngelixa abafana abanesibindi nabangenakufikeleleka bazivale kwaye bazame ukunqoba nokulungisa yonke into ngokwabo. Ukungaqiniseki kwamakhono abo kumntu akusiyo nje isihloko esivaliweyo, kodwa siyi-tab, ngokuba kumadoda akuqhelekanga ukuxoxa ngeengxaki zangaphakathi zomphefumlo, nokuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo.

Ukungaqiniseki malunga nokulala ngesilisa akudlali indima enkulu njengabafazi. Ingqondo yabasemsebenzini isebenza njengomshini, kwaye zonke iingcamango zijoliswe ekuxazululeni ingxaki yangoku okanye umphumo. Ukujonga ngesondo kunokufana nenye nayiphi na imeko, apho kuphela umphumo kubalulekile, kwaye kungekhona inkqubo ngokwayo. Ngexesha elifanayo, lo mfazi ubeka ingqwalasela enkulu kwinkqubo, kwaye ngoko ukuphikisana kobulili kuvela kule siseko.

Into ephambili apha kukuqonda ubunzulu beentlukwano phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini kwaye uya kuba nako ukunqoba ukungafani okuvela kwisiseko sokungaqiniseki kweqabane lakho kuwe.