Ukususela ebuntwaneni sixelelwa ukuba siziphathe njani, esikolweni izinto ezisisiseko zokuziphatha kuluntu zizinikele kwizifundo, kuzo zonke ezi zinto zikhunjulwe ngokuqinisekileyo: "umntu kufuneka aphile ngemithetho." Kuphela abo baqulunqa le migaqo nokuba kutheni bafuna ukuthobela, akukho mntu ukuthetha ngesizathu esithile engxamanga. Ngoko kuvela ekubeni ukudala, sisekuhlaleni, akukho mntu ulandela ukuziphatha, kwaye sinokulibala malunga nayo yonke imithetho ... okanye akunjalo?
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphila ngemithetho?
Zama ukukhumbula imithetho ebalulekileyo eyayifundiswa ebuntwaneni, ngokuqinisekileyo into efana 'yokungabakhubekisi abantwana' kunye 'nomese esandleni sokunene, ifom - ngakwesobunxele' iya kuza engqondweni. Kodwa ukuze ucacise umgca ocacileyo wokuziphatha, oku akucaci okwaneleyo. Ngoko, kuthetha ukuthini ukuphila ngemithetho-ukubingelela bonke abamelwane, ukukhumbula imiyalelo yeBhayibhile okanye ukuphinda ucacise ngakumbi, uzame ukukhumbula yonke imiyalelo yomzali? Into ebaluleke kukuba akukho mpendulo engacacile kulo mbuzo, kwaye wonke umntu uya kufuneka afune indlela yakhe, kwaye kungenxa yoko.
Zama ukucinga ngomntu okholelwa ukuba ukuphila ngokwemigaqo, kuthetha ukuthobela zonke iingcebiso ezikhoyo ezilandela zonke iimpawu kunye nemilinganiselo yokuziphatha. Umfanekiso unxantathu, akunjalo? Kubonakala ukuba iminye imigangatho iya kufuneka ishiywe, ukwenzela ukuba ingabanjwa. Kwaye ubuncinci bobuncinci behamba ngeemvini zixubisa kuyo yonke into yokuba indoda ephila ngemithetho ayikho nje into ebangelisayo, kodwa ayikwazi ukuphumelela kwimpumelelo yakhe okanye kwimpilo yakhe. Ngaba unako ukuwayeka ngokupheleleyo, uphile njengoko ufuna?
Iingcinga ezifanayo zifika kwingqondo yomntu wonke, kwaye abaninzi bazama ukuyeka zonke izithintelo, kodwa emva kwexesha baqaphela ukuba kwiimeko ezifanayo benza ngendlela efanayo, oko kukuthi, bakhela umgca othile wokuziphatha. Kuye kuvela ukuba kufuneka uphile ngemithetho, kodwa yiyo kuphela oyenzile. Akunakunyanzelisi ukuba babe ngabodwa, imigaqo eninzi yempilo iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Akuyona imvelaphi ebalulekileyo apha, kodwa ukuzimela kokukhetha kwabo okanye eminye imithetho. Ngenxa yokuba abo bavela ngaphandle, baya kuqondwa njengemigaqo ebekwe, abangaxhaswanga ngcaciso ecacileyo okanye amava abo. Ngako oko, ungesabi ukufuna imithetho yakho yobomi, nangona uqala ukulibala malunga nazo zonke izimvo ezigunyazayo.