"Ubomi obungenabohlobo bubuhlungu!" - abaninzi baya kuthetha kwaye abayi kuphutha, kuba baqinisekisa ukuba amaxesha angeniso afuna inkxaso enobungane. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba akukho zihlobo? Ukuqala ukuqonda oko ubeka kwingcamango "yomhlobo" kwaye unqume ukuba ngaba unabo bantu abanjalo kwimeko, akukho mntu unokuthathwa njengomhlobo.
Kuthekani ukuba andinabani na?
Ngoko, wacinga waza wagqiba ekubeni "andinaso nabangane, kwaye andiyazi ukuba ndingaphila ngaphandle kwabo," ukuba yonke into kunjalo, ngoko kufuneka sijonge ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye, ngoku kubalulekile ukuba ufumane abaqhelana nabo ekunxibelelaneni, musa ukufaka ngokukhawuleza inkqubo "Ndifuna umngane ongcono." Ukuze abahlobo abanjalo bangabi nangoko, ngoko kufuneka nje uqale ukuthetha ngokubanzi. Lapho wenza oku, zicinge ngokwakho, ngokusekelwe apho ukhona khona. Into yokuqala ephakamileyo ngumsebenzi (ukufunda) kunye ne-Intanethi. Kodwa akufanele ulinganise kubo, mhlawumbi ixesha elide uza kufunda ukudanisa u-salsa okanye i-yoga? Kulungile, ke phambili, ngexesha elifanayo kunye nezitsha eziqhelekileyo ziya kubakhokela. Kwaye ukuba unenja, ngokuqhelekileyo - abanini bezilwanyana ezifuywayo bahlala benento yokuthetha-kuqala malunga neendlela zokutya nokuqeqesha, kwaye mhlawumbi, kwaye ube ngabahlobo abalungileyo.
Into ephambili ungesabi ukuqala intetho kuqala, bonisa ukunyaniseka - ngokuqinisekileyo unxibelelwano olumnandi, ngoko ungesabi ukubonisa kwabanye.
Kuthekani ukuba akukho bahlobo emsebenzini?
Unomangalo omkhulu ukuba akukho nabani na abahlobo, kwaye abanako ukuseka ubudlelwane obusondeleyo emsebenzini nabalingane. Cinga ngako, kodwa ngaba uyayidinga ngempela? Unxibelelwano oluhle kunye nabo osebenza nabo luhle kakhulu, kodwa ubuhlobo abusebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Zingaphi amabali ezikhoyo malunga nabahlobo ababenomsebenzi oye waxabana nawo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungaphandle kweqela elisebenzayo kunye noonxibelelwano kunye nabahlobo kulungile, ke ningakhathazeki ngenxa yokungabi nabasebenzi.
Kuthekani ukuba akukho bahlobo bokwenene?
Kwenzeka - kukho abahlobo abaninzi, kodwa akukho okwenene. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Ukuqala kwakhona, ubuyekeze uluhlu lwabahlobo bakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba akukho mntu "oye wadla i-pud yetyuwa." Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba oku kunjalo, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukuqonda isizathu? Mhlawumbi nguwe? Ngaba udla "ukukhala" kubangani bakho ngeengxaki, ungafuni ukuphulaphula? Ngaba unika into ebantwini bakho okanye uhlale ubeka uluvo lwakho kuwo? Ukuba unengxaki yokunxibelelana kunye nentlonipho yezinye iiminqweno zabantu, kuya kuba nzima ukufumana umhlobo wokwenene - umphefumlo wakho onobubele obunokuthi awunakucingelwa emva kwevava.
Ewe, kuthekani ukuba umntu akafanelanga phakathi kwabahlobo abakhoyo ngendima yaloo nto? Unendlela eyodwa kuphela - ukufumana abahlobo abatsha kwaye wenze konke ukwenza omnye wabahlobo bakho abatsha abe ngumhlobo ongcono.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa kungekho zihlobo?
Ukubandezeleka kwixhala kunye nesizungu ngokuqhelekileyo kuyacetyiswa ukuba uxoxe nabahlobo kaninzi. Nento yokwenza ntoni, ukuba ngaba abahlobo abafanayo abafumanekiyo? Eyona ndlela ikhethekileyo kukuba ukhangele, kwaye uya kufumana umntu onxibelelwano kwaye uzigcinele. Ewe, ukuba awukwazi ukuthintana nabani nangayiphi na indlela, ungakhathazeki, sebenzisa ixesha lakho lokukhulula,
Kwaye ukuba ufuna nje ukwabelana ngamava kunye neengcamango zakho kumntu othile, kwaye kungekhona nabani na (ngokuqhelekileyo wonke umntu unokumelana neendlebe zabahlobo bethu abathandayo), xelela ibhlogi yakho malunga nalo. Unokwenza kube mnandi, kuya kuba nabafundi abaneemvo zabo ezihambelana neyakho. Apha kuwe kunye nabaqhelana nabo kwiintetho. Yaye ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi kukho umntu ngaphesheya kweso sihlandlo ngubani oza kuba ngumhlobo wakho omhle.