Akukho mntu onokuziqhayisa ngempilo yengqondo ephezulu, xa imeko yengqondo ijikeleze iwashi azikho izibizo, akukho nkxalabo. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Into ephambili ihlale isazi indlela yokuzinceda xa kwenzeka into engalunganga kwaye kubonakala ukuba ayiyi kubuyisa umphefumlo kwimozulu yelanga.
Umgangatho wengqondo yomntu
Ukuhambelana neyakhe "I" kukuchaphazela ngokuqinisekileyo, kokubili kwimpilo yomntu, ekusebenzeni kwamandla, nakubambiswano kunye nehlabathi elijikelezile. Ngaphezu koko, abantwana baxelisa abazali babo kwaye, xa bebona umama onamahloni "ababonayo" umyeni wakhe imihla ngemihla, bafumana ukuba olu luhlobo oluqhelekileyo kwintsapho. Kwixesha elizayo, ezinjalo iintsana ziyakwazi ukuzuza ilifa lezenzo, imikhuba yomama ongenakulinganisela. Umgca wenyani enye: ukusuka kwimeko yengqondo ngoku, kuxhomekeke kwindlela izithuba eziza kuphuhliswa ngayo kwikamva.
Ungazikhethi ngaphandle kokukhethwa kwintlepheko yentlalo yengqondo. Ukuba kunzima ukucacisa iinjongo eziphambili zeli bakala, kungenzeka ukuba i-subconscious iyenzile. Ngolwimi oluchanekileyo, ukwesaba, amava, iimvakalelo ezingenakulinganiswa nomntu ongafuni ukuyiqonda, aziphoqelekanga ukuba angaphumi kwengqondo yomntu. Ngenxa yoko, ekugqibeleni konke kufike kumphezulu.
Indlela yokuphucula isimo sakho sengqondo?
Iziganeko eziphambili zesimo sengqondo esingqongqo zikhungathekile, ukwandisa ukwesaba, ukungabikho, ukuhlaselwa ngumsindo, ukuphazamiseka okubukhali kunye nokuhlaziya kwemihla ngemihla. Kukho kakubi isigqibo sokuba izinto zihambe ngokwazo. Ukuba awukwazi ukuphilisa ngokwengqondo, kubalulekile ukuphendukela kwingcali ngexesha. Kule meko ngu-psychologist okanye ngengqondo ye-psychotherapist.
Ngoko, amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki, ungakulibali ukucamngca, ukulahla iingcamango zemihla ngemihla kunye nokukhathazeka. Akuyi kuba yinto engabonakaliyo ukwenza umsebenzi wokubonakalisa, ukubiza amagama. Njalo kusasa kufuneka uqale ngamazwi athi "Ndiziva ndikhululekile. Ndikhangeleka kakhulu. Ibhizinisi lihamba phambili. "